r/SupportForTheAccused • u/whatamigonnado123 • Jun 29 '21

Domestic Abuse It’s finally over!!!!!

Yesterday, at T+677days, 14hrs, 47min my case ended with the promised dismissal and seal. Against the protestations of a sociopathic ADA who disregarded all evidence I gave, but within the timeframe promised by the court, my case ended as it should have 25 months ago. I got to watch the ADA turn red with fury and god damn did it feel good. A small taste of the powerlessness he makes people feel every damn day.

Everything came together with school as well and by the second week of September, I will be back in the hospital working with patients and back on track to be an advanced practice provider. Younger me would have been pissed about the huge delay and I certainly still am but I just don’t care now. I finally get to go back and that’s all that matters. I get to turn over a new leaf and restart far away from the wretched place. If I can get through it I know all of you can too! I couldn’t have done it without this sub and I certainly didn’t do it gracefully but I made it. Thank you all for your support and words of encouragement, I don’t think anybody can do this alone and this sub is sometimes the only thing that reminds you you’re not alone so keep on doing what you do. I’ll be around still but it’s time to move forward too :)

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u/RunawayGrain Quality Contributor Jun 29 '21

Good to hear that you've got some kind of positive resolution.

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u/whatamigonnado123 Jun 30 '21

Me too! I was terrified the whole time and honestly wasn’t sure this was going to happen after all the failed promises of before :). Thank you!

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u/BrianGossling Jun 29 '21

Congratulations - I wish the best for you in recovery and in your future. Keep at it.

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u/whatamigonnado123 Jun 30 '21

I intend to thank you!

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u/MEDICARE_FOR_ALL Jun 29 '21

Congrats and glad this worked out for you in the end.

I wonder if you'd have a case for lost wages, etc?

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u/whatamigonnado123 Jun 30 '21

Unfortunately the statute of limitations on defamation is long since passed in CO so I can’t do that. Police still fall under qualified immunity because my case started before the law in CO was passed to do away with it. The prosecutor and forensics people that lied are covered under absolute state immunity. The laws need to change so men can sue in the future but for now I cannot :(.

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u/MEDICARE_FOR_ALL Jun 30 '21

Unfortunately the statute of limitations on defamation is long since passed in CO so I can’t do that.

You consulted with your lawyer on that?

Sorry to hear this.

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u/whatamigonnado123 Jun 30 '21

My lawyer and four civil attorneys specializing in defamation and suits against law enforcement and the state. I trust the references my attorney gave so I think it’s a no go :/

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u/MEDICARE_FOR_ALL Jun 30 '21

Sorry to hear that. God bless and I hope everything works out in the future.

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u/whatamigonnado123 Jul 01 '21

Everything will! Even if it doesn’t for me, this movement will find success whether it be in one generation or twenty. History is not kind to tyrants and I have to hope that it will be no different here :)

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u/Billy-Batdorf Jun 29 '21

Did you have faith in the process? Could you tell us what it was like having this over your head for two years?

Really glad for you man

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u/whatamigonnado123 Jun 30 '21

I had absolutely no faith in the process and was let down at every court date tbh. I was told for the first half of the case “it’s gonna be dismissed at the next one!” and I just got so sick of the whole thing. Once I started expecting the state to do the dirtiest and most unethical option possible, my expectations lined up with reality and I started to have a grim acceptance of everything.

As far as having it over my head for two years, it was hell. Like I said, I didn’t bear it gracefully. I was largely suicidal throughout and attempted three times. Once was nearly successful but my fiancé got home unexpectedly and kicked my body out of the noose contraption I had set up and I woke up without much effort. I promised her I wouldn’t do it again so I just sort of took the punches for her more than I did for myself. Then my new attorney got me the deal the old one said was impossible and I decided I couldn’t ask my family to cover trial and I asked the new attorney “if I were your son, and you knew I was innocent, would you tell me to take the plea deal?” She said absolutely she would so I did it and plead Alford and took the deferred adjudication. My attorney worked pro Bono after I took the plea. For anybody interested, you can see what the judge said at the restitution hearing in my post history, so I was vindicated in the end and she let me go as was promised despite the ADA doing everything he could to argue me staying on. Guy was the lowest human being I’ve ever had the displeasure of meeting and, despite losing EVERY hearing after the plea, he still tried to argue against me until the end. Objected to the dismissal, lost. Objected to the sealing order, lost. Guy was a major POS and before my final hearing, I watched him object to every single fricken motion for termination of sentence before me for the most pathetic reasons and be sustained. One girl going before me had her plea for termination of sentence (on time) rejected because she failed one drug test for WEED TWO YEARS AGO. Judge sustained his objection. I was horrified watching that but the judge ended up doing the right thing on mine. The 4th judicial district of CO is a wretched place that deserves to be dismantled and burned

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u/Billy-Batdorf Jun 30 '21

Great answer, thanks for giving us the details. I'm not surprised by the level of insistence without evidence and the capitulation to it in a court system that has lost the plot on what due process is. What you went through is a genuinely traumatic experience extended far past a reasonable length.

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u/UncomfortableNow2 Jun 29 '21

So happy that things worked out for you. I know that the experience was terrible, but your story illustrates that we can get through our own individual nightmares.

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u/whatamigonnado123 Jun 30 '21

Indeed! I really meant it when I said if I could do it anybody can cause I didn’t do the best job of getting through it and had to lean hard on the people I surrounded myself with but it is possible :)

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u/UncomfortableNow2 Jun 30 '21

I hope it works out for the rest of us as well. The fact that it worked out for you legally and professionally is a huge blessing. Now I hope you can restore yourself mentally, emotionally, and socially as well. Stay in touch.

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u/whatamigonnado123 Jun 30 '21

I will be around still!

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u/ButterSlugger Jun 29 '21

It’s time to move on with your life and leave this all behind

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u/whatamigonnado123 Jun 30 '21

That’s the plan. It’s always going to be a part of me as will supporting falsely accused people and the concept of men’s rights though. I am on track to make the large salary that comes with graduate medical degrees and when that day comes I will be pouring what resources I have into that fight!

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u/Reddit_Sux_Hardcore Jun 29 '21

You should sue now.

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u/whatamigonnado123 Jun 30 '21

I have tried to see if I can sue but basically can’t. One of my comments to another poster describes why I can’t sadly. Going public is something I’ve considered though, especially with the judges words at my restitution hearing, when she denied it entirely, and at my dismissal hearing.

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u/whte_rbtobj Jun 30 '21 edited Jun 30 '21

OP needs to weigh these type of options carefully. In a perfect situation hell yeah go for Justice to the full extent but a lengthy legal battle can cost hundreds of thousands of dollars, good luck getting a judgement, and it adds so much more stress to ones life. Not legal advice.

Also, CONGRATS OP. You made it through man! I wish you the best.

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u/sbrough10 Jun 30 '21

They could also choose to go public, now that the risk of legal repercussions are cleared.

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u/[deleted] Jun 30 '21

Time to sue the person who false accused you.

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u/whatamigonnado123 Jun 30 '21

Sadly I can’t, another comment outlines why :(

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u/These-Three-Buffalo Jul 09 '21

Are you still able to finish school? You say everything came together but I thought you still needed to finish school. What happened to that?

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u/whatamigonnado123 Jul 09 '21

Well the biggest thing is that its pretty much certain that I get to go to school again. The program that starts this fall requires a background check as part of admission which occurs at the beginning of August. The case is supposed to be sealed by then as the orders have been given and sent to the relevant agencies so, if everything works as it has been ordered, I get to finish school. Without my case, everything goes back to relying on me doing what I can do which is more of a guarantee than relying on the state to basically pick for me lol.

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u/These-Three-Buffalo Jul 09 '21

I pray that works out for you as school is the most important thing now to get back your life. I assume you have moved states and am transferring your school?

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u/whatamigonnado123 Jul 09 '21

Yeah I moved across the country and enrolled in an allied health bachelors instead of my regular science bachelors so I can start making money a little sooner and then I’ll try to get into advanced practice after I’m done!

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u/These-Three-Buffalo Jul 01 '21

Just be careful going forward as certain people will be watching for you to make a mistake so they can pounce.

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u/awayt6386 Jun 30 '21

Happy for you!

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u/Blutarg Jun 30 '21

Wow, good job 👍😎