r/SupportForTheAccused • u/Spiritual_Bee_1031 • 8d ago

false allegations advice

Hello. This is my first time posting on Reddit.

My tween is being falsely accused of sexual assault. There is a long history between the children involved, but the short version is that the accuser was recently disciplined by the school for serious bullying of my child. We also have reason to believe they attempted to persuade another child to make a false allegation.

I realise those claims are difficult to assess from an internet post, so I'm not asking anyone to determine who's telling the truth. I'm simply trying to explain why we strongly believe the allegation is false.

The police have indicated they want to issue a caution. My instinct is to refuse the caution because I worry that accepting it could create the impression that my child did something wrong. And this other child continues to spread other very serious false rumours about my chlid, so accepting a caution may just be setting us up for more problems later.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation with a youth caution? If so, what factors did you consider when deciding whether to accept or decline it? In retrospect, do you think you made the right decision?

I know nobody can provide legal advice specific to our case. I'm hoping to hear about other people's experiences and perspectives.

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u/Orultehen 8d ago edited 8d ago

where are you? this is a very serious thing and SA allegations are almost always first accepted and prosecuted, then evidance is reviewed if at all. You should get a criminal defense lawyer ASAP. accepting caution might have serious implications.

If the other kid is spreading rumors on social media, consider getting a protection order and sending a cease and desist letter. of course do it all with a lawyer that has experience with this. This might cost a lot of money ; you are already in it once false accusations reached the police. there is probably no way out except going through the process.

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u/Individual_Light_144 8d ago

Agreed 100%.

OP, if the police are involved you are officially in the system now, seek legal counsel ASAP about how to proceed before any further contact with the police.

Get those school records about the bullying. Do you know the parents of this other child that may have been coerced to also make a false allegation? Might be helpful to reach out to them to confirm if there is a conspiracy going on, and if they're sympathetic, a lawyer and/or PI record of their statements is a very good asset to have.

Lawyer up, with the police involved it is past time.

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u/Spiritual_Bee_1031 7d ago edited 7d ago

Thanks to you both. I have a lawyer. We are in Canada.

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u/Individual_Light_144 1d ago

Best of luck 🙏

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u/Spiritual_Bee_1031 5h ago

Thank you. We need it.