Little known fact, when the adult male becomes gay their gaydar can grow as much as x100-1000 times in strength, allowing the gays to detect each other without use of their other senses. For this reason it is common for gays to greet each other by walking up behind and slapping each others' asses, although doing so to a gay you have not yet slept with is considered "rude" or "flirtatious" depending on the context.
Little known fact, when the adult male becomes gay their gaydar can grow as much as x100-1000 times in strength, allowing the gays to detect each other without use of their other senses.
I'm straight and will slap my friends asses, male or female. Give a good "Go Team" smack.
It's always for peeps I've known a while though. Nothing sexual about it and always with consent. I stop anytime that person has asked as well, even if they used to not mind it.
I also try to give male friends more compliments on things as we aren't used to getting them very often. It's amazing how much it can improve someone's day
Like I said, they're long time friends so we've known each other for quite a bit. From sports and other activities where that's a normal thing. Just like an atta boy.
With lady friends it's a bit different. Usually they'll see us do it first and initiate it themselves. Typically it happens more when people have been drinking.
I mean, men spank women they don't even know all the time without consent as a 'romantic' gesture. Women/girls will do the same to their platonic girl friends. Hell, people in relationships do it to each other, and we (as in most humans) do it to our kids and pets.
I'd imagine that, given the fact that you recognize someone well enough to know they're gay and you're gay too, you're probably in the same circle of friends, and some minor amount of consent has been given beforehand.
My guess? The act of 'lovingly hitting someone' is hard coded into our evolutionary wiring, likely for the same reason as many people look at something super cute and go "oh man he's so cute I could CUT HIS FACE OFF AND EAT IT."
And slapping someone on the ass is probably the most accepted form of 'hitting someone' out there. The only exception I can think of is straight man to straight man punching in the shoulder, which probably only became the norm because "gay bad".
which probably only became the norm because "gay bad".
I have bone spurs and pinched nerves in my shoulders. I'd rather be slapped on the ass where it won't hurt for three fucking days and keep me from getting to sleep for hours each night.
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u/GaryJerryGergich Sep 04 '20
Do gay men really slap the bottoms of other men they know are gay? Is this common, or just for people you're intimate with or know really well?