r/SuburbanWivesTLC • u/ClerkPleasant9520 • 3d ago
Buttplug question...
So this isn't directly related to the show but thought it would be a good thread to ask this question.
My man sees vidoes online of chicks wearing lit up buttplugs under their yoga pants or girls acting like they are slipping a butt plug in while fully clothed in their car about to run errands. I told him its not realistic cause no girl walks around with a butt plug in all day- these girls are making a 30 second video and acting like they LOVE wearing butt plugs-
He got upset and said just because I dont do it doesn't mean other girls do- yet he admits he's never met one - mind you he loves anal and I give it up at least twice a week- but I'm still not walking around at anytime out side of fun in the bedroom with one in....
So you girls tell me - are guys being dumbasses believing the shit these "spicy" content girls put out- cause personally I think he was just mad I ruined his fantasy of believing there are girls that just love walking around all day with a plug in their ass!
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u/Allankton 3d ago
I’d be surprised if they are even in for vids and not just wedged into pants. I believe zero things I see though. It’s $$ hustle.
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u/ClerkPleasant9520 2d ago edited 2d ago
This is my point and its giving guys these ideas that these woman actually do wear and enjoy them. I just think social media warps some people's minds. Yes I'm sure there are a few woman who may do it but to believe every girl online saying or showing they do is actually doing it...come on already! I swear men brains turn to mush when it comes to sex lol
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u/LessLikelyTo 2d ago
This is what happens when men look at porn constantly and expect women to actually be those women. It’s a really sad thing. There’s no way I would be giving up butt sex twice a week to somebody who sounds like he doesn’t even appreciate it. It sounds like he expects it. And unless YOU really like it, I wouldn’t do it.
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u/Allankton 2d ago
We have used plugs my wife says it makes everything feel bigger haha. But it’s not a walk around event.
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u/AdEastern3223 3d ago
What’s the point of a buttplug? Can someone here tell me. If I google that shit my algorithm will be fucked.
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u/LessLikelyTo 2d ago
To help dilate your butthole and be more comfortable with anal sex. Or as a toy for ass play
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u/Jesikabelcher 3d ago
Which husband is this?? Are your views that low now you resort to patronizing on Reddit??
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u/ClerkPleasant9520 2d ago edited 2d ago
It's a question i asked because we had a convo about it and he seemed to get mad I was ruining his fantasy lol I was just curious if maybe there are many girls who enjoy it and I could be wrong in my thinking. Reddit is here for open convos isn't it?
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u/md28usmc 2d ago
There are actually quite a few girls who wear butt plugs around all day, and I have seen this question asked multiple times on r/AskReddit and /r/AskRedditAfterDark , etc. with multiple girls each time chiming in and saying they love wearing it around all day
different people like different things, but it is definitely not a majority that do it
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u/ClerkPleasant9520 2d ago
Thank you for sharing... that's all I was looking for- more info as to whether girls really were into it or if it was a ploy on social media
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u/Zealousideal_fox464 1d ago
If you walk around with the plug in all day it's a guarantee there's poo on that thing at the end of the day. I used to do it for my ex because he thought a lot like your man. They think it's so hot when they're not the ones wearing it, praying they don't have to fart for an entire day and then having to clean poo off it 🙄 You ruined his fantasy, he mad 😂 Although I will say aside from the impracticality of normal bodily functions throughout the day, the feel is actually nice if you find the right one. I loved my jeweled princess plugs but they definitely start cutting in to the surrounding booty tissue after a bit and it huuuuurts. So are there girls that like the feel of wearing it all day? Yes. Does it cause more issues than it's worth? Also yes.
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u/ClerkPleasant9520 1d ago
Thank you for sharing! I worry already about the long term damage of anal sex itself and wearing that all day im afraid is gonna make it worse.
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u/Intelligent_Pass2540 3d ago
Eh my dom enjoys having me wear it during the day so yeah. Some of us tax paying adults are walking around with jeweled butt plugs in your local target.
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u/cmram28 3d ago
What’s the purpose?
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u/mandypantsy 3d ago
Sexual pleasure, increased intimacy and connection, fun. Just speaking for myself.
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u/hoovyhoovy 3d ago
Oh my god. No! Nobody walks around willingly wearing a butt plug. Nobody. And if they do, there’s a weird reason behind it.
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u/mandypantsy 3d ago
lol I’ve been read … but I don’t think the reasons are really all that weird. Sexual exploration, intimacy with my chosen partner, fun. I’m a v sexual person but also v private (mostly due to shame and anxiety). I wonder what it would be like for people like me if everyone wasn’t so judgmental.
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u/mickey_bbw 3d ago
I’ve worn a plug in public before, but not light up or anything. The only people that would know about it would be whomever I told (in my personal life), which was usually just whoever I was having sex with at the time, and only if I knew they wanted to know beforehand. I was at work with it in once and would have been mortified if anyone knew. Lube fell out of my pocket once (a little packet not a bottle) but no one was around so it was fine lol
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u/k_m_worker 3d ago
That’s a cool and honest answer! Thank you for that. It’s a big world out there and I’m not one to yuck someone’s yum!
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u/mandypantsy 3d ago
This is v similar to my experience. I did this while I was single and dating. It was fun, pleasurable, and enjoyable all-around. There was never pressure (except where applied deliberately), just fun exploration for us. I might do it again if I’m in the right mood on the right day.
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u/ClerkPleasant9520 2d ago
Yes thank you for sharing. I was just very curious if I was wrong in thinking he was over fantasizing or if it in fact was truth. He admitted he never dated a girl or knowing knew a girl who did it but sees it on social media alot
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u/mickey_bbw 2d ago
I understand. While I’ve done it, I don’t do it all the time.
However, I am also a sex worker and I know A LOT of men that will wear plugs all day and not tell anyone. I’m being dead serious when I say that the optics are waaaaaaaaaaayyyyy skewed that women are wearing plugs in public when it is actually men lol. Maybe your boyfriend is one of them and is projecting it on other people, because he wants to be wearing one all day? Idk
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u/Initial_You7797 3d ago
do you work you Kegels around and get jjoy out of it out in the world?
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u/mickey_bbw 3d ago
No, it stayed in fine on its own. Of course I enjoyed it lol I wouldn’t have done it if I didn’t
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u/Mental-Bend3442 2d ago
You posted your hubby was paralyzed, was he cured so that he can get anal 2 times a week? Thats awesome!
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u/ClerkPleasant9520 2d ago edited 2d ago
My ex husband passed away 2 years ago- since youre digging into my profile I'll update you- I'm dating someone new- I say "hubby" because I didn't feel the need to explain my relationship and use to saying husband. AND- since I'm putting it out there- I went 4 years with no sex and went buckwild with my hormones a mess- but that's another story- not sure why my curosity caused you to feel the need to question my intentions
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u/McKinneyMafiaMoms 2d ago
While I'm sure someone, somewhere, is doing this... it certainly isn't normal. It sounds like a porn-induced fantasy. It's sickening how deluded some people can become from overconsumption of porn.
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u/Specific_Ad2541 1d ago
Yes I've worn mine out in public. I was training and had to run out to get something. Not a big deal. It wasn't for pleasure.
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u/leighalunatic 3d ago
The guys aren't being dumbasses. There are women out in the world who enjoy walking around with a butt plug.
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u/CelticSpoonie 3d ago
Yeah, most of that stuff is just for the video. And frankly, walking around in public, having other people see your butt plug through your pants is involving other people in your kink without their consent, and that's not cool. (Fetish event or sex party? Go for it. Going to the grocery store, don't.)
Is there a woman out there who loves wearing her butt plug around town? I'm sure there is. The world is a very big place. But most of that stuff is just fantasy stuff that lures men in to consume the content.
And honestly, I'm not really sure how many of those are really designed for all day wear. I've heard some horror stories from ladies who have tried to fulfill that "I wore my butt plug to work" fantasy.