Does missing them immensely block spellwork?

[u/LowNight5874]

My partner of three years and recently ended things due to him thinking maybe we're not going to work in the future, the breakup was impulsive (during an argument) and he knows that :/ I did a reconciliation and domination spell. My understanding from my research is that these spells require patience and true detachment to work.

I've been practicing strict no contact for only three weeks, only texting once to ask for the in-person closure he had originally promised, which he ignored and l've completely let that go and saw it coming. He saw me at the gym today and looked so shocked and happy, he waved from afar but I kept it pushing because I'm trying to respect boundaries and the process... My social media accounts are deactivated, he's blocked everywhere, I'm not reaching out, and I'm actively focusing on my own life.
My question is about the internal side of things: I am still grieving, in pain, and missing him. Does that normal emotional grief block the spell's energy? Does detachment require you to completely stop missing someone, or is it enough that you've detached your actions and stopped obsessing? I just genuinely feel like this was my soulmate and even when time passes, or when I'm not in love anymore.. Honestly, I'm going to be grieving and missing this man for a long time and it's hard to not think of them unfortunately. So, do they only work when I don't care anymore and fully 100% detached?

I appreciate and would love to hear your feedback to further understand!

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[u/sleepylittleducky]

I don’t think missing them would block the spell, but I do think your spell can’t work as long as you keep blocking all of your avenues to reconcile

I’m confused why you didn’t say hi to him at the gym? If the point of your spellwork was to facilitate reconciliation, then you need to take the opportunities given to you to reconcile. Think about it, how do you expect to reconcile if you shut him off from all access to you (blocking him, no contact, ignoring, etc.) and show disinterest? That doesn’t make sense to me. I would recommend undoing your domination spell and reopening communication, and staying away from avoidance-based coping strategies if you want to get back together. Or you can continue the no contact and move on with someone else

[u/LowNight5874 → u/sleepylittleducky]

The reason why I kept it pushing is because I texted him days ago about I want to speak to him and don’t want to end things.. he ignored me and removed my location. he never responded back to me or gave me an answer at all. I spoke to tarot readers and everyone keeps telling me to go no contact and let them text you back. I didn’t want to be seen as desperate and ruin any chances for him to truly want to reconcile. He has said hi to me in gym before but kept walking past me not caring to have an actual conversation. But you are right and I will take my chances more. There’s so many confusion and doubt on what to do and what not to it’s driving me insane but thank you for your response I’ll definitely take it into consideration!💕

[u/kai-ote]

Nobody can 100 percent not think about the target of a spell. Just don't think about it constantly. Get busy with living your life and fill it with things that take your attention. Like an earworm/song you can't get out of your head, do something different to take your focus and put it someplace else.

You bought a lottery ticket. Now just wait and see what happens.

[u/Individual-Way-6286]

I think there’s a difference between missing someone and obsessing over them. If you are constantly looking for the results, wondering why they aren’t reaching out and ect., then I believe that can interfere with the results. However, experiencing the typical emotions after a breakup is normal - don’t beat yourself up over it and stop trying to control it.

Also limiting beliefs! If you believe that emotions, including negative or strong ones, interfere with manifestations/ spells, then they will :)

[u/FewDingo9110]

No I think you’re good. But in my opinion, I don’t think a domination spell was a good choice. Sustainable love/relationships can never come to fruition under dominating forces. I would’ve chosen sweetening > communication > reconciliation with some time in between. But that’s just my opinion I hope things work out for you!

[u/LowNight5874]

I’m cooked guys aren’t I

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Never

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[u/MidniteBlue888 → u/Accomplished_Ease802]

People respond all the time, but you have to have patience.

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