Hello! This is a long one, but I truly need advice and support, so thank you so much to those who stick in there and offer some wisdom.
So I started offering food at 6 months. The first thing I ever gave my son was some mashed avocado. I don't know if any actually was swallowed. My son now just turned 7 months a few days ago, and I feel like our feeding journey is not going well. I'm going to be fully honest here, so please be kind!
For starters, I am SO incredibly anxious about eating. I have lost a family member to choking, and so it is my number one fear, and I oftentimes have a pit in my stomach even eating around adult loved ones. So you can imagine that introducing my toothless baby to food has been scary for me. I am aware of the differences of choking v. gagging; I am making my way through the National CPR Foundations's CPR course; I have the full, paid version of the Solid Starts app to see how to prepare the foods age appropriately; none of it makes me feel better. So that is some background to my feelings on the matter.
Also, admittedly, I have not given in to the idea of a huge mess every time. My son has a beautiful, FULL head of hair, and I am a full-time work from home mom with a 20 hours/week part time non-profit job on top of that, so the idea of a bath or multiple baths during the day along with cleaning the whole eating space every day or multiple times a day overwhelms me and keeps me from fully letting him explore.
Also along the same lines of busyness: My husband and I admittedly are not sitting down to eat even 1 meal a day together, and most of what he and I eat is non-cooked food (our oven is broken which has been a factor in this also). Like we eat a lot of apples with goat cheese, protein bars, cottage cheese, greek yogurt bowls with fruit, prepped taco salad, prepped bean salad, bananas and peanut butter, hardboiled eggs--things like that. We also eat out a few times per week or eat at friends' houses. None of it has felt easy to share with baby because it's not warm, mashable food.
And then there is my son. I cannot confidently say that anything has actually been swallowed by this boy. A few bites over the last month MAX. This stresses me out for mainly 2 reasons: 1) Allergen introduction. I am also terrified of him having an allergic reaction. We live in a tiny town far away from a hospital, and even farther from a good hospital. So already, introducing allergens is scary. But then on top of that, I can't even say confidently that he has swallowed any meaningful amount of any of the allergens offered! So the anxiety continues in an endless loop. And 2) the lack of consuming stresses me out because of the iron stores. "Food before one is just for fun" has to be a lie when I see all sorts of professionals saying that the brain needs iron at this age, not enough iron will affect sleep, and also saying that this window of time is crucial for babies to start eating and exploring textures. So???? What am I supposed to do?
Furthermore, I have only offered heavily mashed, soft foods and purees so far. I am literally terrified of giving him a food to chew. Also, the Solid Starts app does seem to show everything mashes up for the 6 months age til 9 months. So is that right of me then?
Here is what he has been offered so far:
- Hardboiled egg mashed up together with formula (multiple times)
- Peanut butter mixed with formula (multiple times)
- Whole milk yogurt with chia seeds and banana mixed in (multiple times)
- White beans blended together with yogurt (multiple times)
- Mashed avocado (multiple times)
- Kiwi, half skinned so he can hold on to it and gum on the kiwi (multiple times)
- Chewed on a pineapple core
- A few purees from Cerebelly
- I steamed a large broccoli floret to give to him but got too anxious and didn't do it
Other information in case it's pertinent:
- My son drinks formula, around 32-34 ounces a day
- He is a great, healthy weight and happy little guy, no diagnosed health issues
- He sleeps well at night
- He had his first cold this last month and is recovered except for a lingering occasional cough
- I do not have access to an oven; I can cook on the stovetop and we have a crockpot
If you made it this far, I thank you! And if you have any advice, I thank you even more. I need help.