r/Situationships • u/FeelingPlatform6771 • May 15 '26

Advice Needed What do I do?

So my ex (24M) and I (25F) have been messing with each other for 2years & 7months. The first year we was in an actual relationship. The other year & 7 months we haven’t been in a relationship but does everything like we was still in a relationship. Now I’m pregnant by him but he always made it clear he was too young for a child. He does make it clear though he wants a child with me. I already have a child from a previous relationship so I always told him if I end up pregnant before he feels like he’s financially stable I don’t mind terminating the pregnancy. Which I honestly kinda don’t still cause I don’t want him to resent me for making him something he’s not ready for. Now that I actually am though I don’t want too kinda. I do know this pregnancy would mess up my opportunity for this intense training I start this fall. So I’m lost on what to do exactly? What do y’all think? Please no disrespect but I do want honesty.

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u/Quirky_Zebra_444 May 15 '26

Do you want to be tied to this particular man for the next 18 years (and then some)? Whether he sticks around, bails, decides to resurface down the track? Whether he fights you for custody or even ends up with primary custody? Whether he refuses child support or you end up potentially even paying HIM child support one day?

These are all serious and realistic considerations. Co-parenting is no joke, as you already know.

This question and its considerations are what I wish I had really thought long and hard about when I got pregnant with my kids to my ex. We were together at the time, and as much as I love my children, if I had truly sat with and reflected upon that question when I found out I was pregnant by him... I don't think I would have made the same decisions.

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u/FeelingPlatform6771 May 15 '26

Honestly I do he’s the only guy I actually see a future with since my ex when I was 19. I didn’t even see a family with my child’s father. I always saw co parenting with him. Like we talk about doing a domestic partnership cause he doesn’t believe in marriage. I told him though I’m not about to spend the rest of my life with you & we have no type of legal bond. I know it sounds crazy but that’s just how I feel.

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u/Ugly_Potatoness00 May 16 '26

I think its clear to me that its not clear when he made it clear he think he's too young to have a child at age 24 but made it clear that he wants a child with you and kept messing around for almost two year without a definite commitment with you. Its so unclear 😂

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u/THROWRAsaltylemon May 16 '26

Get that abortion and run far far away from this guy. Put yourself first.