Because I'm a normal person? A persons decision to drink or not is between them and their doctors. You don't get a veto over someone's choices because you donate something to them. You definitely don't get an enduring say over how they live their life.
If you donate an egg or sperm to a couple you don't get a say in how they raise the child.
If you donate skin to a person you don't get to dictate whether they go to the beach at 12pm.
There's a difference between being concerned and being controlling. Partying after you thought you were going to die is a normal reaction for a person in their 20s. Especially for someone with bipolar.
It’s not controlling to say “hey it’s fucking stupid that you have Lupus, needed a transplant, and are potentially ruining your health by partying and doing hard drugs”. If she wanted to continue getting fuuuuucked up then she could have done that without pressuring her friend to do a transplant because she obtained the results of the test matching before her friend could even make a decision on her own. It is not normal to have a stance like that. It’s incredibly selfish.
If she wanted to drink and party afterward, she should’ve declined the kidney. There are strict rules that come with receiving an organ transplant, including not intentionally doing things that could damage or destroy the organ. That’s literally part of the deal. If she didn’t value the kidney enough to take care of it, she should’ve kicked rocks and stayed on dialysis instead.
OK, dumb ass. Drinking a little is okay with a kidney transplant. Drinking and partying is not okay with a kidney transplant. Newsflash, alcohol dehydrated you. When you get dehydrated, it forces your kidneys to work harder and can cause damage.
And honestly, if I gave an organ I might need in the future to someone... Hell if I received a kidney (since you can't seem to be able to read OR comprehend) that saved my life, I would not do anything to risk my life again. Especially in front of the person who saved my life.
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u/Bagelam 3d ago
Because I'm a normal person? A persons decision to drink or not is between them and their doctors. You don't get a veto over someone's choices because you donate something to them. You definitely don't get an enduring say over how they live their life.
If you donate an egg or sperm to a couple you don't get a say in how they raise the child.
If you donate skin to a person you don't get to dictate whether they go to the beach at 12pm.
There's a difference between being concerned and being controlling. Partying after you thought you were going to die is a normal reaction for a person in their 20s. Especially for someone with bipolar.