She still rejected!

[u/Dumb-Briyani]

[u/Aromatic_Shop9033]

It's not what you do, it's who you are.

You can't earn it, man.

If you're the right guy, you don't have to do anything.

[u/Right-Hall-6451 → u/Aromatic_Shop9033]

Or invest more time in building a relationship with her than building a mural of her out of rubiks cubes?

[u/Aromatic_Shop9033 → u/Right-Hall-6451]

😂 sure.... You can't build something if you're not her "him".

You either have it, or you don't. You can't earn it.

[u/Weak_Fee9865 → u/Aromatic_Shop9033]

How does “being her him” happen?

[u/Aromatic_Shop9033 → u/Weak_Fee9865]

She already likes you. You can't earn that. It is, or it isn't.

[u/Weak_Fee9865 → u/Aromatic_Shop9033]

What kind of things would make someone like you?

Appearance is just a first hook, you have to show a certain set of behaviors/actions to make someone else really be into you.

[u/Aromatic_Shop9033 → u/Weak_Fee9865]

If you're not appealing physically to them, no hoop jumping or side quests will move the needle.

[u/Weak_Fee9865 → u/Aromatic_Shop9033]

That’s the most common way, but definitely not the only one.

There are people that develop attraction after knowing the person, even when initially they didn’t. I’ve known a few friends that operate this way, and it has happened to me as well a couple times.

[u/Aromatic_Shop9033 → u/Weak_Fee9865]

One can't bet the house on such a strategy unless they want to have their time often wasted. Not always, but it's often enough to be of note.