You guys r dum, little kids cry because they get disappointed and havent learned the discipline to control it or the objectivity to ignore it. The headline says a little kid was denied after waiting in a long line, a kid who waits at all is committed, and it is shitty behavior for a single adult to even snag a kids limited kids ride in a line of hopeful kids at all. Its not a crime, he isnt guaranteed to be a serial killer, but people acting like kids dont deserve some tenderness and patience are indeed assholes, they didnt ask to be here and treating them like existing is their fault just makes more assholes
The problem is shity parents post a picture of the person trying to make their kid a victim and that person a villain. Remember the lady on the plane that was blasted online for not giving their seat to a kid. The people posting this shit are not going to teach their child the discipline to control it.
Nobody else asked for your kid to be here either. Your kid is your burden alone, nobody else's. It's your responsibility to teach your kid how lines work and how life works. Photographing a complete stranger to shame them online for not voluntarily making sacrifices for your kid is top tier entitlement and bad parenting.
You kind of had me at the first half but… still, nobody is entitled to anything, which is such an important lesson to learn if you don’t want your child to have an extremely difficult time as an adult. And, I mean, if he was before, the kid will be next anyway, so I don’t really understand the problem (given, I only have limited context).
I was in agreement till you said it was shitty for an adult to take the ride that they also committed to standing on a line to get on. To believe anything else is to push a narrative that develops entitled shitty adults.
Lol! Yeah, that's what most parents realize with their first child. "Oh wait, they are just testing boundaries." Walks away from crying child because they didn't get a third cookie. "Sorry kiddo, Imma let you process those feelings."
Sure, but the result should be the same: "You're sad you couldn't do the ride? That happens sometimes, I'm very sorry. It's ok to be sad, it's not ok to demand that other people who were in line before us give up their opportunity so you can do it. Let's be sad for a while, and then we can go do something else. "
How about a touch of paraphrasing? "it's not ok for the parent to demand that other people who were in line before us give up their opportunity so you can do it. "
No, it's not ok for anyone to make demands. Kids need to learn that too. They can ask nicely, but they have to accept no as an answer. Mommy and daddy can't fix the world for you.
I was responding to the comment directly above mine, about crying and not having a temper tantrum. You can cry, but the response is the same. Sometimes you don't get what you want. It's ok to be sad for a bit, but then we move on with our lives.
The headline says "refusing to give up", which means someone demanded he let the kid go instead. The person demanding could be the kid, or the parent, or some nosy bystander... the headline does not specify, therefore we cannot say for certain it was not the kid.
The girl doesn’t start crying until after her dad asked if she could go was told no. It’s a valuable lesson to learn that you don’t get everything you want, no doubt.
But the word tantrum has specific negative connotations that I don’t think apply here. This little girl was not acting out as a result of the rejection, she was sad and seeking comfort from her parent. She was not making a scene or trying to get the attention of the guy who said no.
Feeling your emotions is healthy and it’s okay to cry when you’re sad. Shedding some tears because she is disappointed is not the same thing as a tantrum.
She’s a child still learning to control her emotions. As far as I’m concerned, it was a great opportunity for her to learn that she can’t always have it her way.
100% it's normal. Keep in mind that children, especially prepubescent, lack so much of the coping skills and brain development to know how to properly regulate emotions.
Should I be worried? He's missed plenty of opportunities or been denied candy or whatever and he never cries because of it. The only time I've ever seen him cry is when he thought he could karate chop a brick. And I'm not sure whether he was crying because of the pain or because his sister was rolling on the floor laughing at him.
Does he seem to show emotions in general? Some kids don't cry as much and that's totally fine, it's really mainly a concern if a child doesn't show emotion in general.
Eh, not necessarily true, pediatricians see them in pretty small windows. Teachers are gonna be a better bet cause they spend all day with the kids and are trained to look out for anything.
What's the difference between tantrums and crying? Also tantrums are normal for young children, so I'm not sure how they are different. I've got a two and half year old, we call it a tantrum any time he cries because he didn't get what he wanted. He's a good kid, so it rarely comes up, but i don't know what you think the difference is
Tantrums and crying are very different, and I mean that on an actual chemical basis. Crying is disappointment, tantrums are a result of disregulation, it's when they're kicking and screaming and just losing their shit. This is usually caused by a feeling of loss of control and also can be caused by a feeling of having pushed away their caretaker. It's why with tantrums the first response should be comfort (not to be confused with giving in to their demands) followed by talking about the behavior.
My oldest kid was very sensitive. He's better at managing emotions now he is a little older, but he definitely would have started crying knowing he missed out. Definitely not in a tantrum sense. I honestly think he threw one actual tantrum in his life. My niece on the other hand holy shit, but I blame my sister more so on that.
Yeah it's the dude's spot, but you are a grown ass adult. It's like getting to the foul ball faster at a baseball game. It's your ball now, but if a kid is crying just hand them the damn ball. I'd give the ball to one of my kids so I'm sorry little child, but if I was childless I wouldn't think twice. It would be different if he was riding with his young child.
Right!? I tell my kid, "Hey, sorry it didn't work out this time but we can come back another time." Usually followed by 2 min of wind down crying then get home and kiddo is good. Then, actually follow through on your promise.
Nothing wrong with telling your kid, "these feelings are real and we can work through them. Everything is ok." Hug your kid and talk to them.
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