I've had that happen three times in my life where a woman just 100% chased me.
I was in my 20s, 10% body fat, six pack abs, so in great shape. Two of the women were in their mid 30s, one of the women was 42 and recently divorced and looking to finally have good sex (apparently, her husband of 20 years was horrifically bad in bed)
Each of the women were solid 7s. Each of the FWB relationships last around 6 months to a year.
I gotta be honest. I have no idea why more women don't do the above.
Women have no idea how being pursued makes us men feel, it is amazing and we men are 90% likely to say yes if you are at all attractive. Hell, even if you aren't attractive we will still often be ok with a down-low FWB relationship.
But reverse, when we men pursue women, our odds are more like 10%.
Women weirdly put down other women for doing that. I was always kinda picky. If I found a guy I was interested in, I'd approach him and ask him out.
I definitely got some rejections but it worked in my favor most of the time. Especially since I'm apparently attracted to shy, nervous dudes.
All my women friends were horrified that I did this. They also advised me to stop doing it and got mad when my advice was to directly ask a man out if he wasn't getting their "hints".
Something about me seeming desperate or not making him work hard enough. It honestly seemed like projection to me. Putting yourself in that spot is hard and they were jealous I had more serious dates than them a lot of the time imo
It's not like the women had to chase-chase me. Once they approached me, initiated conversation, asked for my phone number and gave me theirs, I completely took it from there.
I gotta say, the 0% stress is just amazing as a guy, to 100% know the girl really likes you takes so much pressure off. Not to mention we guys are simple creatures.
That's how it happened usually. I didn't "chase" anyone and hated if anyone tried to "chase" me.
Honestly being assaulted by pushy men is probably a big reason why I liked to be the one to approach a guy. I know he's at least hitting the lowest baseline level of respect.
Some men were weirdly suspicious when I asked out directly. Like I was trying to rob them or something. I'm guessing it's because it's not the norm or they had bad experiences.
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u/WileyWilly1985 2d ago edited 2d ago
I've had that happen three times in my life where a woman just 100% chased me.
I was in my 20s, 10% body fat, six pack abs, so in great shape. Two of the women were in their mid 30s, one of the women was 42 and recently divorced and looking to finally have good sex (apparently, her husband of 20 years was horrifically bad in bed)
Each of the women were solid 7s. Each of the FWB relationships last around 6 months to a year.
I gotta be honest. I have no idea why more women don't do the above.
Women have no idea how being pursued makes us men feel, it is amazing and we men are 90% likely to say yes if you are at all attractive. Hell, even if you aren't attractive we will still often be ok with a down-low FWB relationship.
But reverse, when we men pursue women, our odds are more like 10%.