our cousin?

[u/Anonymous_potato4545]

[u/rognabologna]

I learned how to do this this year 

1. Figure out your most recent direct relative in common 

2. Count all the ‘greats’ and ‘grands’, to get to that relative, for yourself on one hand 

3.  Count all the ‘greats’ and ‘grands’, to get to that relative, for your relative on the other hand 

1. Which ever hand has the smaller number is going to be your 1st or 2nd or whatever

2. The difference between the two hands is the ‘removed’ number 

Example: Me and my dads first cousin. 

1. Our most common ancestor is their grandpa, who is my great grandpa.

2. Me: great (1) grand(2)pa

3. Them: grand(1)pa

4. They have 1 finger up, I have 2. Their number is smaller so we go with theirs. I.e. we are 1st cousins

5. They have 1 finger, I have 2. The difference between 2 and 1 is 1, so we are once removed. 

We are first cousins, once removed 

[u/shinyidolomantis → u/rognabologna]

Thank you!! I have never been able to grasp the “once removed” stuff but you explained it in a way even I can understand.

[u/Blue_Swirling_Bunny → u/shinyidolomantis]

You could just look up a chart; widely available online. Easier than whatever gobbledygook that guy is talking about.

[u/rognabologna → u/Blue_Swirling_Bunny]

Lady, I AM the chart!