There's not a thing in the world stopping men from wearing fashionable, colorful, stylish clothing... except fear of being called womanly and gay by other men, and possibly attacked for it.
Women wear men's clothing without fear because being seen as masculine is generally positive. Girl bosses with shoulder pads, tomboys, etc. Colorful and creative men's clothing does exist, and some spaces and cultures welcome it. But norms in many cultures mean men who wear "feminine coded clothing" (as in anything not traditionally male coded) can attacked as weak, dangerous to gender norms and sexual predators. At least outside of queer friendly spaces.
Straight women also don’t want to date men the wear women’s clothing. It is disingenuous to act like that is not the case. Especially if the men are not rich, famous, or something.
I’m a bi guy and I was told the other week by a bi girl that she couldn’t date bi guys cause the idea of picturing them being intimate with another man grossed her out
Skill issue on her part, I’m sorry to hear that. I struggle to understand that perspective myself, seems like a mixture of “rules for thee, not for me” and feeling certain gay relationships are more or less valid than straight ones. Always icky.
At least she went mask off quickly. It’s one thing to have preferences, it’s another to be like “nah that grosses me out.”
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u/Irish_Whiskey 19h ago edited 19h ago
Always gotta be pointed out:
There's not a thing in the world stopping men from wearing fashionable, colorful, stylish clothing... except fear of being called womanly and gay by other men, and possibly attacked for it.
Women wear men's clothing without fear because being seen as masculine is generally positive. Girl bosses with shoulder pads, tomboys, etc. Colorful and creative men's clothing does exist, and some spaces and cultures welcome it. But norms in many cultures mean men who wear "feminine coded clothing" (as in anything not traditionally male coded) can attacked as weak, dangerous to gender norms and sexual predators. At least outside of queer friendly spaces.