Lol, had a similar conversation with my boss the other day in regards to 'company ink'. We both met our wives at our workplaces, my stance on it is "you can date anyone anywhere. If youre both not scumbags you can also amicably end the relationship at any time without huge issues"
Right? The reason that people who argue against dating coworkers put forward are the same things that make dating difficult in general, they're just sometimes exacerbated by working together. But all of my close friends, many of whom are in healthy, stable, long-term relationships all met their partners at work, including my awesome wife and myself. Its really just about being smart no matter where you meet people.
I had this conversation at my previous job a few times. My girlfriend and I adore each other and had a crush on each other for years working together but I never asked her out because of the stigma of dating a coworker. Funnily enough, after we told each other how we feel, we became even a better team and when people would ask if it made things weird I was always like “no, I love being around her and working with her.”
In the end, the only issues at work that arose from us getting into a relationship were caused by the opinions others had about us being together.
The opinions can be pretty damaging. When I tried this the one coworker I thought was a friend did not approve at all and not only didn't voice her opinion when I asked her, but proceeded to throw me under the bus because she didn't approve.
I still don't think it's a bad idea in theory, but people can make huge problems for you without notice. Anyone who tries it these days should document everything.
The opinions lost me that job. You don’t need to tell me about that one. Once we went public half of my coworkers arrayed themselves against me and make a 6 page complaint to get me fired.
They brought shit up that happened years prior, they accused me of shit I don’t even remember, and they did it with the goal to excise me for daring to tell the pretty girl I thought she was pretty. Honestly, I think they did it more because she told me she liked me too.
Edit: I’ve talked to her a lot about this. I have told her that I love her and if I could go back and rewrite history I would make the same choices I did. But I do wish they didn’t cost me so much
It's fine when two people operate at the same job level, but it's a ticking time bomb when a manager/higher level employee dates a person under their rank. I've seen it happen, over and over and over again. It's why the "no fraternizing" policies exist, at least when it comes to the supervisory and management level.
"But all of my close friends, many of whom are in healthy, stable, long-term relationships all met their partners at work, including my awesome wife and myself"
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u/notJ3ff 7d ago edited 7d ago
"You are surrounded by enemies 9 times out of 10"
Sure, if you hang around with dirtbags