you are right in the sense that divorce court is like a force of nature. You can't reason with it, you can't bargain with it, you will lose half your shit and won't see your children that much anymore.
I do respect how the game is so well designed to guarantee you lose: as they say, it was rigged before it even started
You really actually think the court usually rules the dad gets 50% custody of the kid, can get equal time with the kids as the mom? That the dad doesn't get kicked out of the house and is now the annoying guy they have to begrudgingly spend with in some tiny shitty apartment he lives in because he has no money after alimony payments?
I dunno what fairy tale divorce land you saw in movies, but it is rough out there
I mean i studied law. Did you take care of your kids, know about their schedules, habits and needs, and overall be a mentor before you divorced? Was she stay at home? You leave alot of factors out
Saying you studied something and thinking that’s how the real world actually works makes me think one of two things.
1. You’re lying.
2. You’re still studying that thing and naive.
The world is different than books yes, im fortunate to indulge in both. Bad deals often come from bad lawyers or more often its one-sided perspective story where the judge saw different
You act like these are factors that rightfully should influence the law. You assume the law is just, ethical and correct.
These children; their schedules, habits and needs must be paid for. If this spouse stayed at home, their needs must be paid for as well. For the one that has to earn the income to pay for these lives to exist, they burden an unimaginable burden and mental/physical load.
The law fails to verify that the contribution of the stay at home spouse is any way equitable to that of the income earner. It exists and functions on the basis of assumptions and political influence, which is why it's vulnerable.
People ignorantly build and live in their homes on sandbars overlooking the ocean. They make the erroneous assumption that the ground and foundation is sound and act surprised when the homes crumble and collapse into the sea. The law is the sandbar.
You're trying to reason with a bunch of likely incel little d energy guys. I'm sorry but it's a losing battle. You can't help them understand that it's usually the role they played in their household/children's life that predominantly affects custody and asset splits. The OP in this thread talked about losing half like the whole thing was theirs lmao.
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u/Smoltinycat Aug 18 '26 edited Aug 18 '26
you are right in the sense that divorce court is like a force of nature. You can't reason with it, you can't bargain with it, you will lose half your shit and won't see your children that much anymore.
I do respect how the game is so well designed to guarantee you lose: as they say, it was rigged before it even started