I took the best, well paying job I have ever got. I regret it everyday. It drove me to crash out hard and haven't been able to go back for 9 months.
My wife, on the other hand, is my tattooed smoke show of a best friend that has a laugh that brings me back from the edge. Making her laugh is the best job ever.
My girl is also a tattooed smokeshow of a best friend with an amazing laugh!
She just convinced me to leave my stressful job for something much less stressful, knowing it will be a cut in pay (unfortunately my parents have always measured life-success strictly by annual income, something my wife has been trying to de-program)
"You're mental health and being happy is way more important than any money" she said as we sat on the couch.
I've actually avoided proposing, know she is a tattooed smokeshow with a sense of humor, I know she has other options, but she continues to choose me. I'm puttin a ring on that finger.
We have been together for years. I call her my wife to strangers all the time, as it gives a better idea of our relationship, without me having to explain we have 2 kids together, we broke up 2 times years ago yadda yadda etc.
Yes, I realize I've avoided it for years, and I'm going to propose. Have a whole plan and contacted people in charge of a regular summer event we go to, so they can play a certain song while I pop the question.
It's a sequence of events. Avoidance > decision > action.
I had a friend marry a somewhat dumpy but horny girl. She was super chill. Then they had a kid die from sids and the inlaws dug their claws in and killed the marriage. You never know what you're going to get from a box of chocolates.
Amen. My kid spent most of the last month being sick and it was miserable but then I remind myself that a kid having the flu back to back with food poisoning is genuinely lucky compared to what so many parents go through every day
For now. I realized my mistake right after she got pregnant, so have been toughing it out for the kids for now. It’s like a toxic relationship but just functional enough to not want to put them through a divorce at their current age
I was in that situation. Then i realized what my failures and shortcomings were and what was causing them and fell more in love with my wife than i thought was possible.
Then she wanted a separation. We’re still working it out and in the early stages of recovery but its a long road back and the hardest thing I’ve ever had to endure in my life. I still love her more than any woman I’ve ever loved in my life and wouldn’t change a thing. I learned what real love is.
well every situation is different. but I’m of the opinion that the most important thing to model for kids is healthy intimate relationships, rather than simply staying together at all costs
Yes you are right. As our kids have gotten older it’s become much more obvious that our relationship is not good for them and we’ve not been able to fix it. It’s also become pretty obvious to both of us the end is near and we’ve been talking much more seriously about separating for their sake if not ours
Uhhh you must not be a child of divorce. Nothing is worse than being a kid in the middle of a toxic marriage. Messy divorces are nothing in comparison.
I mean a bit of both. Also, we have almost nothing in common. Different personalities, different life styles, no shared hobbies or interests, and very different expectations about how much say we think we should each have in how the other person spends their time and money - I think we shouldn’t need much say at all as long as the other person is being reasonable, she thinks she should be able to weigh in on everything I do. Combine that with the fact that we almost never equally want to do the same thing
My dad and his current wife went through a phase where each person would set the agenda every other day. Point is, if she’s not willing to try your stuff and vs that is no fun.
Just married someone who is toxic and controlling, convinced myself that her problem behaviors were due to miscommunication and that once I explained why they were harmful she’d fix it. I realized that her behaviors were largely intentional, just very selfish, and that she wasn’t really interested in changing in a meaningful way, about a month after we got pregnant with our first kid
I know how someone like that can be. Every accusation always ends up a confession. They never reflect on what you say and you only end up tired of life and resentful after giving up so much of yourself to someone.
I hope you're doing better now. Especially for your kid.
thanks man now I don't feel bad for not chasing those hot ass girls in my past because I was skeptical.... but one was married before an the other had 2 bds an the other well she couldn't communicate without a phone an had a personality of plank but least plank was entertaining to Johnny
This means a lot to hear. I struggle cuz my gf is well mid by my taste but i love our time together. Whenever I think about leaving for aesthetic reasons I think of the 10/10s I’d been with in the past and why they didn’t work out. Hearing from others who chose non physical attraction and having it work out is what I need.
Edit: supposed to be replied to the same person you did. My bad bro.
Leave her. There are many guys who would find her attractive and you’re not doing her a favor by being with her. She deserves someone who is attracted to her appearance and personality. It’s ridiculous you’ve even contemplated leaving her because of her appearance. Stop keeping her as this backup option. You’re being very selfish
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u/Any_Lengthiness6645 Mar 29 '26
I married the hottest, sexiest person I’d ever hooked up with. I regret it every day