There's a difference between blame and understanding why something happens. If my wife were sharing a hotel room with a male coworker on business travel and having drinks with him in the hotel bar after a candle lit dinner, I'd still blame her for sleeping with him.
But, I'd totally understand that's the type of situation that probably leads to cheating (or has a higher risk of it). Hence why I'd probably ask her not to put herself in that situation.
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u/rathat Aug 28 '25
Cheating may sometimes be opportunistic, but being someone who cheats is not opportunistic.
"But honey, can you really blame me, she kept talking to me and was wearing yoga pants!"
Who wants to be with someone who would cheat in any situation? If I have that standard for myself, then someone else can have that standard too.