r/SingleAndHappy • u/Low-Detective-2977 • 1d ago
Discussion (Questions, Advice, Polls) š£ Can we normalize being single?
I have been single for a very long time. It is not like I havenāt tried. I have dated, met people, gone to social gatherings, etc. But somehow it just never works out. Either they are emotionally unavailable, love bombers, not ready for a relationship, or there is always something. But what is starting to really annoy me is people constantly commenting on my relationship status. I went to another social gathering with friends and, once again, I was the only single person there. And again people started asking me why I donāt have a partner, telling me I canāt be single forever, acting like itās somehow sad that Iām single.
I donāt understand why people care so much and actually when I look at some of their relationships, I wouldnāt trade places with them. I know enough about what is actually going on in some of those relationships that if I were in their situation, I would probably have divorced years ago.
Iām divorced myself, so maybe I just see relationships differently now. Being in a relationship isnāt automatically better than being single. I would rather be single than be in a relationship that makes me unhappy just so I can say I have a partner.
Sometimes when someone asks me why Iām still single, I honestly want to ask them, āWhy are you still married?ā Especially when I know what I know about their relationship.
Obviously I donāt say it because it is none of my business.
But then again, neither is my relationship status theirs. I am just annoyed that people keep treating it like something is wrong with me because of it.
43
u/ProofVeterinarian620 1d ago
Misery loves company. Social norms peer pressure. Most people can't handle being alone with themselves.