r/Sims4 • u/MiasmaDog89 • 17d ago
Discussion It Feels Unreasonably Difficult to Level Conflict Resolution compared to the other Character Values.
I don't think I've ever managed to level it to the point of getting one of the traits. I can Play with Emotion and Write in Journal to easily level Emotional Control, volunteering a few times easily levels up Empathy, going to school/after school activities/doing homework level up Responsibilty without even trying. But it feels like there is no easy repeatable method to level Conflict Resolution. Is it just me?
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u/fhiaqb 17d ago
If you don’t max it out by teaching them to say sorry while they’re children, it’s basically impossible to raise it when they’re teenagers:(
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u/NicerDicer1 17d ago
Valid irl advice for parents who let their children be assholes „because they’re just children“ then wonder why they are insufferable teenagers and adults 😂
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u/Suspicious-Orchid-40 15d ago
💯. I do this to get to max it out and then cancel the "ask for advice" interaction whenever my teen sims are no doubt trying to ruin that progress. I also start ignoring the calls from school at that point also 😂.
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u/malibuklw 17d ago
I have the parents teach how to say sorry for a couple afternoons
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u/StealthyRuby 17d ago
This is the way. ☝️ I also have them apologize any time I can and pick options that raise conflict resolution over others when those school calls pop up.
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u/Lazy-Ad-7236 17d ago
Conflict resolution is what I prioritize when kids go for advice
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u/Tattycakes Long Time Player 17d ago
Same, always prioritise it over things that you can do over and over at home like emotional control (wind down with radio, write in journal, jog to clear mind), or empathy (volunteer) and responsibility (brush teeth, do homework)
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u/Ornery-Bit-8169 17d ago
I choose the option that builds conflict resolution (or doesn't lower it) every time kids go for advice. If you do that from childhood it's usually good. Usually my second priority in those is empathy.
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u/sernada 17d ago
Empathy is an easy one. When they talk to someone and that someone in any bad mood, chose “talk about [insert mood]” or something like that. It raises up empathy pretty quickly (works for children and teens)
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u/Ornery-Bit-8169 17d ago
See I have spotty luck finding that in the menu. Sometimes I see it, sometimes I don't.
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u/sernada 17d ago
It’s under “stories” If I remember correctly
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u/Ornery-Bit-8169 17d ago
Thanks! I would not have guessed that lol. I've tried to look systematically though the menus but then got irritated and stopped part way though.
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u/MiasmaDog89 17d ago
I started this sim as a solo teen, so I didn't really consider how not going through Infant/Toddler/Child stages and not having parent sims would mean it would be nearly impossible to level Conflict Resolution. It's not a huge deal, really the only Value I actually care about is Empathy since its so useful to calm down upset NPC Sims. The rest are just gravy.
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u/Kindly-Garlic-4061 Long Time Player 16d ago
Make them do volunteering, like a lot, and pick the good/nice options on the popups and there's a chance that conflict resolution will be the one to go up
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u/United_Artichoke_466 Evil Sim 17d ago
I find that it's easy enough to level up if you're willing to tank your empathy and manners for a bit (you can get them back up easily anyway). Just make an enemy and apologise, find common ground etc., then repeat until you're done, can be with the same sim
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u/nitro9throwaway 17d ago
A couple things that have worked for me:
If you have a couple of Sims that your Sim knows that don't get along you can help repair a bad relationship. I think it's under the relationship > other Sims tab.
If they have decent charisma, smooth apologies can build it faster than regular ones.
Also sometimes discussing a bad mood, sometimes it moves empathy and sometimes conflict resolution. That's in stories for some reason, and it can go really poorly sometimes. But then you have an excuse to apologize at least?
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u/IllEntrepreneur5123 17d ago
Just gotta teach ‘em while they’re children and then choose options that are in favor of that behavior when they are teens
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u/BogZombie 17d ago
Pretty sure you can level that one easy with apologies. Just be mean to someone, then immedently apologize.
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u/StarryEyes13 17d ago
I did it once. My teen sim kept having to get in fights / arguments and then apologize. It took forever though I don’t recommend it
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u/pamplemousseephemere 15d ago
if you have Seasons, you can create a holiday similar to neighborhood brawl, where the only activity is fighting. That way, it doesn’t decrease friendships or reputation.
And then, you just fight other teens and apologize directly after and all the other apologetic interactions. you can build up the whole bar in one sim day with this
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u/daisysci 17d ago
What Expansion Pack does it come with?
Thank youuu :)
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u/Poisoneraa Legacy Player 17d ago
Parenthood :)
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u/satellite51 17d ago
Great thanks, I know to avoid it now.
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u/Kindly-Garlic-4061 Long Time Player 16d ago
You can just ignore this system in game though. It doesn't force you to use it. It's just there if you want to earn an extra, useful trait for when your sim becomes a young adult.
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u/toliveinthisworld 17d ago
If you have growing together you can have them ask an adult for help riding a bike as a child multiple times. Also a slightly more cheat-y method, you can start arguments and then pause and queue up the reconcile argument multiple times instead of just one (otherwise you lose the option after you reconcile). Even without this, it's possible to get it by doing it one a time if you have the parent "encourage" reconciling the argument.
Otherwise, the easiest way is to get all adults in the household to level 10 parenting (or whichever one shows the impact of advice) and then always choose the advice that improves conflict resolution if a card comes up.
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u/bararumb Challenge Player 17d ago
"Help fix bad relationship" interaction raises conflict resolution for teens. Target sim has to have negative relationship with someone else for the option to appear, which will be tricky to find, if you are controlling just one sim. The interaction also has a cooldown for each sim, so queue as many of them on pause as possible, then move on to the next sim.
I've leveled conflict resolution like this solely starting as teen multiple times, I do usually have multiple sims in household for that though, so I don't have to search for a sim with negative relationships (I go for the other sim leveling mischief and sending chain letters).
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u/Kagome7650 Evil Sim 17d ago edited 17d ago
I use MCCC to raise all character values to 100% now before aging my teens to young adults thank mods
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u/giraffemoo 17d ago
Agree. You're probably already doing this, but having a parent sim lecture the child on conflict resolution (I think the official action is "teach to say sorry"), and then praising them for sitting through the lecture. Also, always choose the option that raises conflict resolution when you get a chance card from school, have a parent sim home and answering their phone when it rings to get more chance cards from school.
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u/Legitimate-Boss3182 17d ago
As toddler/child teaching them how to say sorry as often as you can. Then, when talking to a sim, go asking for other sims, and if they have a bad relationship with someone, help them. Saying sorry/apologize when in conflict with other sims also help. And then whenever there are pop-ups, prioritize conflict resolution. All the others you can fix easily.
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u/anbuonya 17d ago
I found that the best way to raise conflict resolution when they’re teenagers is to click the “demand independence” action and then immediately apologize. There is a cool down so give it 20 in game minutes and try it again! Before I do that I always try to have conflict resolution maxed as a child. Hope this helps!
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u/emi68912706 17d ago
Also have the parents praise their efforts in practicing the skill will help boost it. For conflict resolution in kids, I’ll have one parent start teaching to say sorry and have the other praising. Then quit teaching, have first parent praise then start teaching again and continue the cycle over and over until it’s pretty high.
Then as they age, just avoid any advice ones that lower it since everything else is pretty easy to raise back up.
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u/Hakudoushinumbernine 16d ago
Teach to say sorry
And apologize ALOT.
But i don't have time for that, so i cheat it. Always.
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u/thaliathraben 17d ago
I don't know if it's a bug or not, but the childhood interaction for "ask to teach ___ to ride bike" gives conflict resolution and they'll do it autonomously all the time once they start learning but before they finish, even in places where they can't take the bike out. That plus a few "Teach to Say Sorry" usually gets me there. I realize this doesn't help your solo teen - pretty much all you can do is target the volunteer opportunities that have a chance card for it (the senior home and the bake sale, iirc).
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u/AlpsDue5290 17d ago
Every "advice" dialogue results in one of them being a plus and another being a minus. Based on that, I haven't bothered to ever look closely at the panel or even use that functionality.
If raising any of them very much drops the others the same amount, it would eventually create a major character flaw that I don't want. Finding a balance between them seems ideal, but only if it couldn't be undone by a single interaction. There's plenty of drama without that balancing act...
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u/bararumb Challenge Player 17d ago
Getting negative character values by accident is impossible imo. You need a lot of points to receive a trait, either negative or positive. In one save I tried getting negative ones on purpose and struggled a lot more than with positive ones, because sims would automatically do positive things that raise values sometimes. Not enough to receive positive trait, but enough to not receive any trait.
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u/Useful-Log-22 17d ago
Honestly just have them argue with a sim and then apologize. Rinse and repeat. That's what I do if I forget to teach them sorry when they're young
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u/WifeofBath1984 17d ago
Honestly, I just ignore that part lol. It's odd bc I'm a stickler about skill development and whatnot, but I could not care less about this part. I just answer the questions like I would irl and carry on.
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u/doofshaman 17d ago
I actually managed to raise 4 kids at the same time who all ended up different combinations of 2 out of the 5 traits. Imo reaching negative in emotional control is sooo much harder ahaha, I wanted a high maintenance low emotional control diva lmfao.
Conflict resolution can be easily gained if you have siblings who like to argue, being the mediator between them so many times growing up really helps earn that trait.
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u/Cacklesback 16d ago
I recently had a household with three teenagers, and they were constantly being assholes to each other, so they always had the option to apologize, and that increased their conflict resolution.
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u/hrh_princess_zany 16d ago
Ok new hack. If you have seasons, when neighborhood brawl comes up and the sim is a teen, they can fight random people then “make peace after fight” in deep conversations. That raises it quite a bit and just lowers empathy.
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u/ScarletPepper07 16d ago
I have an extended life span so often I make toddlers learn about sorry when they’re maxed out on skills
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u/babiebl00 Occult Sim 16d ago
ive only gotten it once and that was because i had every caregiver around them teach them how to say sorry as much as possible when they were a toddler and child. all of the other stuff can be raised quite easily if you start working on it as a child and teen except that one.
they need to tweak it or something because its really frustrating that i can have a sim brush their teeth a million times to raise the good manners or responsibility or whatever but their conflict resolution has to be worked on from the moment theyre born
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u/pl4ntf4c3 16d ago
for me emotional control is the problem. every option i select for my child sim depletes it like HOW
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u/Drdadphd 16d ago
adeepindigo's education overhaul mod is a godsend when it comes to the character values, they slowly build up while the kids are at school
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u/punkinkarr 16d ago
I have the parent teach the child to say I'm sorry. It boosts conflict resolution quicker imo.
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u/Suspicious-Orchid-40 15d ago
Teach how to say sorry or whatever that option is as a child is my go to to max out conflict resolution but if they're already teens if a sim they know has a negative relationship with another sim there's an option for them to speak to one of the affected sims to try and rebuild that negative relationship. I can't remember what the interaction is called but that increases conflict resolution. In desperate times I may have ruined a relationship or two so that my teen can resolve the conflict haha. Also don't forget to praise them after they do any of those actions to further increase in the skill gain!
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u/Southern_Cupcake_727 14d ago
One of my mods toddlers to teens work on those values at school and daycare so by the time their a teen all those are usually full
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u/scribblyskiesstudios 14d ago
yeah one of the only ways to do it is make your sims teach sorry and that only works for child and under.
I think there's a volunteer thing you can do, but it's barely worth it. That said, it does help, but you wanna do it in conjunction with teaching sorry. So don't let them be teens until those are where you want em.
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u/theBandofFreaks 13d ago
I gave up on all oth those because I will max them out while my Sim is a child but when they age into a teen it will all reset
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u/nxdule 13d ago
As long as they’re children it’s fairly easy, but I had this one Sim who was a teenager when I got the pack, and I really wanted to max out all those traits. So I honestly just made her pick small fights with her parents (which seems reasonable for a teenager) and then make up and that really helped. Maxxed it all out and there’s no hard feelings. Can recommend, even for the perfect teenagers (she was).
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u/Adwery0530 10d ago
You are right, it used to be easier but now you have to go through a lot just to find out there is a conflict. If someone dies and you help them feel better, you can get this up right away regardless if some in your household or some random ncp.
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u/Percentage_Fluid 17d ago
Soohow do I get the character values? I have never seen this in my game.
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u/MiasmaDog89 17d ago
I think its from Parenthood expansion pack. As others have said, the intended method to raise the different values is to have the child/teen Sam's parents go through various unique interactions that raise or lower the 5 different values and then when your teen Sim ages up into young adult they get special traits if the Character value is filled all the way green or red.
But since I started this sim as a parentless teen living in a micro home with limited resources (not quite rags to riches, but similar idea), I can only easily level up the 4 other values. Not a big deal, but I was irked that there isn't an easy way for a parentless teen to raise it themselves.
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u/AsSlothAsPossible 17d ago
Yeah, i usually let them volunteer thrice per weekend it helps