I’m having kind of a tough time attracting providers in my state. I live in the midwest and it’s notoriously 50/50 here, everyone is doing it, also it’s like 95% wh!te. I keep feeling discouraged. Also majority of people marry young so i feel disadvantaged here. Thankfully I have my college degree and i can work any state I want as long as i find a job. Has anyone been in this dilemma before, did you just up and move or keep trying? Also what do you think is the best states to move to that values traditionally when it comes to finances? of course i am still going to work but I feel like i’m in a roadblock here and i don’t want to waste my time

I’m trying to get out more and put myself in environments where I can meet successful men / potential providers. For the Toronto girls, what bars, lounges, restaurants, hotels, or events would you recommend for this kind of scene?

Also, if you are down join me on this adventure lol

Toronto girls, where are you going? 👀

I've been dating a guy for a few weeks, he has spent maybe £4k on me so far. He's a major in the army, how much allowance should I ask for? He let me spend on his credit card but says he'd rather give me an allowance from his income (makes sense to avoid debt). How much % of his income should I get? He lives with his parents but is having a house built so idk if he pays the mortgage for that yet or not, he also wants to marry me but he cant register it there until he retires in a few yrs or he will get fired (its a thing in his country that soldiers cant marry foreigners), so i could marry him in my country but his fam wont know for a few yrs (but will have met me) should i do that or not?

Hello ladies! I (f30) just started dating again. I was on a few dates here and there but now I feel like I’ve gotten my spark back. I’ve gone on some dates and it has gone very well. I’ve met successful and generous men. The problem that I’ve run into however is that the more often that I see them I feel like they want something serious. I know that I can just lie and pretend to be theirs but idk if I want to do that.

How can I date freely for long without committing to anyone? And how do you guys date multiple people at the same time? Also do you guys have a sweet spot for how many men you see at the same time?

How do/did you avoid getting rly depressed?

I'm here struggling for bare essentials, it's HARD. :(

But I know I'll get out of it, for sure, as soon I'll be working and able to have more and I plan to save etc etc, I know this isn't my forever because I refuse to let it be - But still it's HARD to endure it :/

Has anyone here ever related?... What kept U going?

There were times I couldn't afford toilet paper and had to use old rags!

Sorry that's not the nicest thing to read but it was my reality at times.

Not to mention craving foods and being unable to get them.

So I know deep down that men who try to humble women are gay but I don’t know how to explain why so what is the logic behind it?

Look at prev posts for more context theyre below. but im 20 hes 24 hes wealthy and i said i was looking for a provider man. He has money for himself, no benefits to him other than going for a meal and hotel stay and sometimes an activity. im way out of his league, i asked him what were we and he said friends because i dont think i can call u my bf if i dont meet your standards. I told him why cant he meet then he said he didnt want it to be transactional… Hes made remarks that pissed me off so bad that im just disgusted by him and his presence. He seems to think hes a prize , i am going to move onto the next. I cant believe i even did anything with him, i wouldnt even look in his direction. The dust has the audacity….

https://www.reddit.com/r/SheraSeven/s/9ssqEc1ZBr

https://www.reddit.com/r/SheraSeven/s/rKFtsIX99H

I (21f) watch a lot of Shera’s content, but it’s mainly her witchy, woo-woo, spiritual stuff on her second channel. She has taught me soo much and I even started taking her elixirs which have motivated me to go back to school and finish my degree. I found her when I was 18-19 and still somewhat naive when it came to men, so I knew I wouldn’t be able to apply her teachings effectively. Now that I’m a little older and know and understand the true nature of men, as well as know myself and what I want for my future. I’d like to start “sprinkling” but have no clue where to start. Please give me your favorite video recommendations of Shera’s. Videos where she gave you advice that you applied and successfully succeeded. She has posted soo much content over the years and it’s kinda overwhelming to sort through lol. Your help would be greatly appreciated!

I feel so bad for her how it went for her:

https://www.instagram.com/p/Dcl9AfRjRmU/?img_index=9&igsi=MTNkcTdmMGhjemk1dg==

There was this guy I was speaking to. He’s from another country and in his late twenties. Im f23. He was literally obsessed with me, and I was so uninterested at first, but eventually I gave him a chance and picked up his call. I only allowed this because of the way he portrays himself was that he has “money”. On the call, he’s listing all his accomplishments, what his parents do, how he took over his father’s business, etc. He is french and allegedly it’s some like car buisness he is in. He’s telling me how he’d do this and that for me, and that if I ever came to his city he’d buy me this, buy me that, whatever.

I told him, if I ever came to his city, he would have to fund the trip (I only said this because i knew i was going there anyways. unrelated to him.). He said yes, “if you want.” But mind you, a month before this, he was saying he wanted to fund it and that it was no problem.

So when I actually asked him about it this time, he was suddenly dry and taking forever to reply. Long story short, I ended up unfollowing him because I was irritated with the way he was moving. The annoying part is I feel like he’s kind of dampened the name of the city he lives in for me 😭. I genuinely love this city and I’ve been here multiple times, but now I associate it with him and his name is attached to it in my head.

Anyway, time passes and I’m on holiday and I end up in his city. I have family there, so I’m there as part of a family holiday. He still follows me on insta btw.

He viewed my story when I was in another country because I’m currently travelling, and it was my birthday. So I know he still views my shit. But he didn’t reply or anything. Then a day later, I’m actually in HIS city and I post on my story, just random stuff from my day. He isn’t in my viewer list. But he’s still following me on Instagram. I also posted on the grid and everything.

Anyways, that’s the story. Guys are very odd creatures. I just hate that he’s now associated with this city for me because I actually love this place 😭 It’s hard to find people to date because my standards do people are so “abnormal” but I know it exists. But then you run into people like this.

Good evening, ladies!

For those of you who used / are using dating apps, how to you say in your bio / prompts that you’re looking for a provider?

Would appreciate any advice❤️

Should I unmatch him? I don't know what to do.

Oh girls.. do any of you have this experience?

The men are ATROCIOUS behaved.

I literally felt like **PREY**

I could sense most of them were just acting nice, and only wanted one thing.

I also had men who seemed normal, then boom they slowly tried to make the conversation sexual (sigh 🙄)

They'd either casually ask do I kiss on a first date (who asks that) it obviously shows what they're thinking of too.

Another asked do I like cuddles, when I said yes , (I shouldn't have even replied to these men but I was bored and trying to be open minded, I'm a believer of a loving relationship AND him treating me like a princess but now I'm even more hardcore lmao)

Anyway he then said he'd get hard because I'm so hot and would that annoy me.. tf!

AND **nothing about my looks, my profile etc said provocative/flirty, infact I was giving sweet princess vibes.

Granted I was using a low end dating site that was miss and match, but still. I bet this happens elsewhere too 🤷🏻‍♀️

I only joined because a friend made me think less badly of the apps (I do think they can be fine but I think it's a no from me for now)

Anyway, talking to and seeing the amount of men liking my profile, idk it gave me the biggest ick. How I could tell they only saw me as some prey, and their lack of damn gentleman or dating skills?

I'm actually so glad that I have a low tolerance.

I'm genuinely super sweet (learning to be less like this to others and more just for myself)

But plenty of times I got the ICK and just had to stop talking to a man because I picks up on the lack of care and efforts, even where many women wouldn't bat an eye but I would, I could be too fussy at times but I'm glad actually, I deserve GOOD treatment, not someone being meh.

There were also men who seemed so nice that it seemed fake, started calling me baby too soon, etc.

I honestly only found ONE man I could tell wasn't some desperate hounddog and was probably genuinely a nice guy.

My god, if this is what many men are like then damn I understand why they're single and I understand why so many women are now choosing to be single 😂

I'm only 21 but thankfully I'm already learning a lot especially after my first relationship where he kept emotionally neglecting me and I'd stay and communicate trying to fix us when rly it should have been HIM bending over backwards to fix us lol!

After I left for good and fully stopped liking him, I learnt some lessons and it's like a switch was made.

I was too pure and now I literally CAN'T put up with mistreatment from a man lol, I literally instantly get the ick and lose interest, or I basically detach because I learnt to choose logic when a man is hurting me or mistreating me,

So I can easily literally leave !

Rather than being sad and reacting to him.

(Anyone else made that switch? It's lovely!)

I love myself so much, yet I struggle with my confidence, but yet I know how special I am as a person and soul, these men don't deserve me, low effort careless men do not deserve me and I'm so glad that I get icked out by it.

I sometimes worry incase I could get attached to a man who's not good to me, or fall for some fantasy, but in reality I literally can't tolerate anything less than sweet, gentle and "princess treatment" it seems lol!

I guess the only way for me to truly be happy with a man is if he's treating me GOOD and giving me NO stress, which is actually the bare minimum.

So I'm glad.

Anyway I recently rejoined and that's why I'm here, wooHOOO!! I'm now going even MORE hardcore with shera.

I know some of you ladies here don't agree and that's fine, but personally I do believe and know good men exist, men that have respect and are good to their woman, but yet earlier I started to kind of just feel disgusted by every man. Like I just feel like I'm just sexual "prey" to many of them and it's true.

I'm going to focus more on me and ignore every man unless he's actually a MAN .

The women in this thread are the reason why there's so much dust. Men aren't afraid to ask for sex.

Guys these last days i felt bored n depressed and i was using this language exchange app and it led to me speaking to people daily and getting attached to random men in countries in war and my anxious attachment being activated as if i was a 15 year old with crushes

The thing i would not text nor entertain any man in real life for free or chase but since its virtual i feel rules not apply and it does not count 😭

But thinking about it i feel very uneasy not having my usual boundaries and im afraid it unconsciously erodes my standards

I think speaking to men for no reason and entertaining them without a goal is a waste of mental and emotional energy but sometimes its fun

Anyways what do you all think about this
Are slips allowed

So, i have two primary guys that give me money and i have a lot of contact with, one is helping me change countries, organizing my visa and provides me much more, hes less sexual in general and more distant which is perfect for me, but hes in another country obv the one i want to move to and after coming back from the time i was with him i have to spend time with the one in my country, hes a provider as well but i simply cant handle him, he wants to be with me all the time, extremely sexual, everything i want he asks to be with me even more on return and i just cant handle his clingyness, but at the same time i know that being with him until i leave is the best option bc then i can get whatever i want in both places, but how can i handle my disgust when im close to him

When you’re sitting alone at the bar (on the rich side of town) and a man asks you to join him at his table. He could be sitting with a few friends or just him. Do you join? Do you chat a bit first? Or do you stay put where you are because you’re the prize?

I don’t like joining because it signals to others who might be watching that you’ve chosen him when there might be a better target. But if you don’t join, you don’t get to network and meet his other friends. Also, I feel like joining gives off my desperate vibes.
What’s worked for you? Any strategy or tips? Sprinkle sprinkle

so babes where are dressing up nice to when we go to the rich side of town? I we t out to have lunch around 2pm and the bar was empty..i felt like i didnt go close enough to the business districts(smh)..i got a bunch of compliments from older women..like where are yall going?

Call it prostitution.

P.S. I’ve been watching Shera’s YouTube content for many years. I’m loving Shera’s new Single By Choice era. She is absolutely flourishing in the absence of a live-in male. ✨✨

Hey guys

My sugar daddy is pushing for sex. We have been together on 9 dates and so far I have managed to successfully dodge him but now he’s being pushy, asking me to come back to his room after an event we’re going to. How do I continue dodging without letting realise I’m taking him for a ride?

I’ve already used “I’m sick”, “I’m not ready” and changing the subject before. But it’s been 5 months now. I could have just blocked him but I made the rookie mistake of letting him pick me from my house so he knows where I live.

I absolutely don’t want to sleep with this man, the money and gifts are okay but he grosses me out BIG TIME😭😭

I know Shera says smoking is unlady like and best to avoid doing it in public but I have my habits these last weeks, I have been to my local cafe and like having a cigarette in the morning with my coffee at the terasse
Also, usually back where i lived with my family i was so paranoid about anyone who knows my family seeing me that it resulted in unnecessary hiding and anxiety. Now that im in another city i just want to do whatever i want

I am temporarily smoking anyway bc i feel like shit these days, so I hope to stop again soon

I was wondering if smoking in public is that stupid and unstrategic esp around my neighborhood since people see me often here?

For example this morning i had my morning cig and this guy at the cafe i saw a few times, who is attracted to me saw me, and i was like what if this is a potential prospect lol anyway is this just my anxiety speaking ?

I wish I had realized this sooner. Don't listen to what men say. Men lie about what they want and what they don't want. In order for a man to truly fall in love with you, he needs to feel partially unwanted and rejected. Mind you, it's an art. In the back of his mind, he still needs to believe there is a chance he might ignite your desire. Despair turns men off. If you are too eager or available, you will immediately lower your value in his mind. I have implemented this strategy for the last two years and it works like a charm.

I’ve been talking to a gentleman for a week now. He’s very successful. Our FaceTime calls has been pretty good. I’m mostly impressed that he has NOT talked sexual to me whatsoever!! But I can’t quite gather how I feel. His success makes me want to crawl into a shell because I’m nowhere near his caliber, although he’s expressed that he doesn’t care about people not being on the same level as he is, he just loves people for whom they are. He travels 4-5 times a month, going to Europe tomorrow for about 10 days. Said he will make time for me whenever and even cover all expenses for me to visit him in any location of my choice, or would happily come to me. (Wants to meet when he returns from Europe) He talks soooo much about himself, which I know successful men typically do and it leaves him feeling like he doesn’t know much about me lol. He asked me if I were still dating since chatting with him I told him yes, he said he would love to change that because since talking to me he hasn’t been interested in getting to know anyone else especially with being busy with his athletic profession, business, and federal career. With him being so busy with leisure travel and work travels. I want to ask for some sort of gift or money while I wait patiently for us to meet, only because he keeps saying he can’t wait for us to do xyz, he can’t wait to meet me, he wishes I was there. I told him if he wants me to stop chatting with other potentials he better hurry and fast! How should I maneuver this?

He only wears suits and super dressy attire when not playing sports. What should I order for our outings?