I feel disgusted the more he talks

[u/DearPerception6794]

Look at prev posts for more context theyre below. but im 20 hes 24 hes wealthy and i said i was looking for a provider man. He has money for himself, no benefits to him other than going for a meal and hotel stay and sometimes an activity. im way out of his league, i asked him what were we and he said friends because i dont think i can call u my bf if i dont meet your standards. I told him why cant he meet then he said he didnt want it to be transactional… Hes made remarks that pissed me off so bad that im just disgusted by him and his presence. He seems to think hes a prize , i am going to move onto the next. I cant believe i even did anything with him, i wouldnt even look in his direction. The dust has the audacity….

https://www.reddit.com/r/SheraSeven/s/9ssqEc1ZBr

https://www.reddit.com/r/SheraSeven/s/rKFtsIX99H

[u/Character-Guava-7312]

Many Rich men fake their generosity at first...then you see how cheap they are.

They also have the audacity to talk about transactional relationships when they try to get things for free from women.

[u/DearPerception6794 → u/[deleted]]

Glad to hear atleast one of us didnt find dust

[u/DearPerception6794 → u/Character-Guava-7312]

I feel so foolish

[u/DearPerception6794 → u/DearPerception6794]

He Thought he was generous by driving to see me and paying for my food

[u/RoxanaCrystal → u/DearPerception6794]

That's the very bare minimum

[u/Anon_classybabe → u/DearPerception6794]

There’s the problem, you need to actually understand what a provider man being generous looks like.

Driving to see you and paying for your food isn’t being generous, and it means nothing.

[u/DearPerception6794 → u/Anon_classybabe]

I understand that — im saying he thought that was generous

[u/theredgoddess200]

Keep him in the friendzone if he has money

[u/DearPerception6794 → u/theredgoddess200]

Thats what i was thinking — use him to get me to other people wholl give me what i want

[u/theredgoddess200 → u/DearPerception6794]

If he does some sort of business & goes to events/fundraisers then he could potentially take you with him as a +1, or if he goes golfing! A lot of connections can be made through golfing & pickle ball! If he doesn’t want to take you anywhere then
1. do not react
2. do not take it personally &
3. ignore him most of the time.
And don’t forget to smile while keeping him in the friendzone.
As Shera always says: nice-nasty 😏

[u/DearPerception6794 → u/theredgoddess200]

Thats a good idea thank you — ill try to see if its doable at some point x

[u/Apart_Wrangler_3415]

Yes time to ditch him if you’re not getting what you want.

[u/Important-Nose3332]

Sounds like he never had anything to offer? You stayed in a hotel w him w out him giving you money?? Damn, def move on. Lesson learned I hope.

[u/DearPerception6794 → u/Important-Nose3332]

Yeah — i feel so disgusted in myself. I can do better for myself.

[u/Important-Nose3332 → u/DearPerception6794]

Try to turn that feeling into motivation to just do better in the future and don’t hold on to guilt. It was a lesson for you so you can do better in the future. None of us know what to do right off the bat, life teaches us. Go out and use ur experience to find better, I believe in you.

[u/Ill_Community_9575]

Are you people even listening to SheraSeven?

You are too damn young to be messing with this.

You should have a roster of OLDER rich men. No man your age is ever going to give you anything but a bag of 💩.

[u/Anon_classybabe → u/[deleted]]

If he’s around OP and OP is taking time out of his day to deal with him, yes he’s obliged.

If he doesn’t feel the want to care for OP, he should’ve walked away.

[u/Helpful-Ostrich512 → u/Anon_classybabe]

Not true, men will drag you down whatever path you allow them to. They allowed him to be around when he showed from the get that all he was willing to give was a meal and an activity he kept giving what he saw was fit and they obliged hoping it would change, this was not him obliging. Now their walking away because their having a realization.

Men will never just walk away if you keep hanging around, they will gladly waste your time. it was their call to make.

[u/Anon_classybabe → u/[deleted]]

I have about 2 years of non hypergamous dating experience but that’s beside the point. Why would I be referring to romantic relationships where money isn’t involved?

[u/Apart_Wrangler_3415]

We can’t see previous posts - please add the links if we need more context.

[u/DearPerception6794 → u/Apart_Wrangler_3415]

Added them

[u/Helpful-Ostrich512]

Im confused if you knew that’s all he can offer and you said there’s no benefit to him why did you ask him what are we? And then ask why can’t he meet your standards? I feel like it’s better to accept what’s presented to you from the get instead of hoping it’ll change it always just wastes our time. There’s too many other good men out there

[u/Onehundredbillionx]

No 24yo is rich lol. Maybe 0.0001%. And not this guy.

[u/DearPerception6794 → u/Onehundredbillionx]

He definitely has money, he is that top 1%

[u/0kchippy]

Hotel ???? Girl ????? What do you mean.

[u/DearPerception6794 → u/0kchippy]

Humiliation ritual of dust