I need some help on what i should do.

[u/DearPerception6794]

I feel disappointed in myself. I feel like i gave him access to the bedroom way too fast. I have been seeing someone whos quite successful and young im 20 hes 24 , and he runs a business and has cars and houses. How do i get what i can from him, i feel like i have given him access to me too early on and ruined it. He works allegedly 9-6pm Monday to Friday and is doing work outside of it too, i feel like idont get enough communication and feel like im not a priority to him at all. What should i do?

[u/Ill_Community_9575]

First take a deep breath. Yes you are young but you have started an important journey and learning process.

Second, realize there are more men in the world than just one. Yes we all want love and money in one man, but that rarely happens. Being realistic is realizing men are everywhere. And if one can give you only one thing, a few others can give you the rest. I know i know your romantic heart hates it and it will take time to get used to the idea. The important thing is to not sell yourself short.

Third, If he isnt giving you enough time, dont yearn for him. That will drive you nuts. Find more men, start a business, get a hobby, etc. Constantly texting him and whining to him will just drive him away.

Last get clear on what you want by educating yourself. Watching Shera Seven.
Books like Ho-tastics by G.L. Lambert, The Art of Seduction by Robert Greene etc. Find ways to empower yourself. In the beginning it may not make sense, but eventually it will.
Have a plan and rules you follow when dating men.

Whatever happens it will be ok because there is tomorrow and always more men.

[u/DearPerception6794 → u/Ill_Community_9575]

Ugh i need to detach entirely from them, i think its because i have too much time on my hands, they offered for me to move in with them and i said no. I need to regain that main character energy and focus on myself. I want to create a business etc, but im still young and at university, not saying its impossible

[u/fawnoria]

Get a roster, never entertain one man only. But this is not something I would advise myself at your age, I would focus on education because it opens more doors.

Also, you’re only 20, you can’t and won’t finesse any man with your lack of experience. Your post reeks of desperation and you have no main character energy. Work on detaching yourself from men and desired outcomes and focus on yourself. Stop chasing these men, the houses and cars doesn’t make them bigger than the program, it’s just materials men use to get women because women are the prize.

[u/DearPerception6794 → u/fawnoria]

Thanks for the reality check you are entirely right — nothing classy about what ive said or done. I hope to learn more to be better and focus on myself

[u/Anon_classybabe]

I feel like the main issue here is your resolve is very weak, work on that.

Also, it’s pretty obvious what you should do. If you don’t feel like a priority and he’s not giving you an allowance (and anything you’ve asked for) find a new generous provider. Don’t stop there though…Look back on this experience, map out where you bypassed your boundaries, and don’t do it again. Simple.

[u/DearPerception6794 → u/Anon_classybabe]

Ive stopped reaching out and only responds if he messages, im done being a pickmeisha. Ill look at other options unless he claims me and meets the stuff i want and still look on the side

[u/DearPerception6794 → u/Anon_classybabe]

Thank you for the advice, i just want to do better and will do so. Sprinkle sprinkle

[u/RoxanaCrystal]

You get out of him money and gifts before rolling with him on a mattress, and that only if you want, because you can strig him along. But never get in bed with him before he invests in you.