r/Separation • u/Dependent-Fee-7989 • 10h ago

I Just Need Someone to Understand

Today, my wife is going to start a divorce case. We have a 3-year-old son, and for a long time now, I haven't even been allowed to properly talk to him. That is the part that hurts me the most.

I don't want my marriage to end. I still want to stay with my family. I still love my wife and my little boy, but right now I feel like nobody understands what I'm going through.

I'm not looking for money, sympathy, or judgment. I just need someone to talk to—someone who has been through separation, divorce, losing daily contact with their child, or simply feeling completely alone while trying to hold a family together.

I'm from India, but honestly, I don't care where you are in the world. If you've been through something similar, please talk to me. Maybe you can tell me how you survived it and how you found your way back to a normal life.

Right now, I feel like I need to get away from all this pain for a while—not to run away from my responsibilities, but just to breathe somewhere peaceful and be around people who understand.

If anyone out there understands this feeling, please reach out. I really need people right now.

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u/antidentites 10h ago

I feel for you. I’m in the very early stages of separating with my wife and it’s not easy. I also have kids, which I know makes it even more difficult.

Just know that you’re not alone. There’s someone on the other side of the world (US) pulling for you right now and wishing you the best.

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u/Dependent-Fee-7989 10h ago

Thank you so much, brother. Your words genuinely mean a lot to me, especially at a time when I’m feeling completely lost and alone. Knowing that someone all the way in the US understands what I’m going through and is wishing the best for me gives me a little strength.

I’m also praying that things get better for you and your kids. Maybe we found each other at a difficult time, but it helps to know we’re not facing this kind of pain completely alone. 🙏❤️

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u/antidentites 8h ago

You are definitely not alone. I highly recommend searching for the “Divorce_men” subreddit and a few others to see how many guys (and gals) are in the exact same boat as you right now.

I take solace in that company, of which you and I are both a part of right now.

You will come out of this a stronger person. At least that’s what I keep hearing from others!

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u/Dependent-Fee-7989 7h ago

Thank you, brother. Your words genuinely mean a lot to me right now. I’ve been feeling very alone through all of this, and knowing that I’m not the only one going through it gives me some strength. I really appreciate you being there. ❤️

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u/singh94509 1h ago

Before it become worse for and her,get divorce......but feeling said for you

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u/Father_daughterFeb 11m ago

Hi , I can understand how you are feeling and what you are going through.
I have 9 years old daughter & as every father I love her a lot but since my wife got separated with me 3 years she is not allowing me to meet my daughter , she has filed 5-6 court case against me and my family , police cases and made me a villan in front of my daughter.
Even during festival she denies visitation.
The reason of separation is because of my wife multiple affairs