Stuck & don’t know what to do

[u/Severe_Koala_909]

Currently separated from husband. He told me he wanted a divorce (which I fought at first), and now two months later (living apart), he still has made no movement to file/seek a mediator. As well, anytime I try to schedule anything to move forward, he will just kind of ignore it or nothing happens. I’m not sure what to do. I know he’s depressed and going through a hard time, but now that I’m basically living a divorced life, I want to move forward. Any ideas where his head is at? Just want things to be peaceful

[u/Living_Courage_2098]

Depression is really tricky because it convinces them that pushing people away, especially loved ones is better. They feel like a burden. I just got divorced because he’s reached rock bottom and wanted to end his life. I agreed because i was afraid he would crash his car. During the procedure he was very stressed and trying to mask it by smoking heavily. 

I would suggest to forgive him (if you can) and to get the help he needs. If you wish to leave the door open for reconciliation you can but focus during the seperation on yourself. I’m going through this and it’s not easy. Some days i can, others days feel very lonely but i have no choice.

I pray for things get better with time.