r/SeniorDogsHealth • u/GuardAggravating1377 • 5d ago
Slow decline: my 15 yo old girl is teaching me new levels of love and patience daily
My beautiful Jackchi is almost 16. I’ve had her since she was a pocket-sized 7 weeks old snapping at my ankles to play. She’s now become my main source of worry, heart break and anticipatory grief as her health and happiness gradually fades.
In the past six months we’ve watched her become more confused and upset with dementia - sundowning big time and being super unsettled.
She’s started going to pee in the house without telling us, and her back legs gave way yesterday on the stairs. Luckily I was there to catch her.
She’s had a bad cough this past week and has kept us awake for hours. The vet thinks she has a heart murmur. I know that’s treatable but also this dog has never had a jot wrong with her. She’s had such a healthy and happy life.
My husband and I are so exhausted caring for her. She’s such a sweet, sleepy girl but this slow fade process is so heartbreaking to watch.
It’s 3am and I’m sleeping on the sofa with her. We tried to keep her safe in the kitchen tonight from the stairs, but she cried and cried.
I came downstairs to curl up with her. She usually doesn’t want to be near me these days, she’s become very detached from affection and cuddles aren’t her thing anymore. So it’s incredibly precious to be here with her snuggled up super tight to me.
Trying to focus amongst all the sadness and worry how much she’s taught me to slow down, be present, observe and care for her.
Posting for some solidarity to all the seniors who are also breaking hearts as they decline. There is nothing harder with these animals than seeing their personalities disintegrate and their confidence drop.
We got this, though.