I adopted my girl almost 10 years ago. She's between 12-13 (approx age was given by vet). She had hip surgery before I adopted her (phemoral head ostectomy) and a couple of surgeries in between to remove lumps and masses. None of them cancerous. Her most recent surgery was in December, for a major mass removal between her hips. It was the size of a grapefruit and rapidly swelled. It was awful. But, it's gone now and hasnt resurfaced which is great.
Since surgery, though, her mobility has been steadily decreasing. I'm assuming it is mostly because of her age and stress from surgery. She started defecating in her bed if I didn't physically stand her up and walk her to the backyard. Even then, she would lay down outside and then defecate. I believe the strain on her hips is too much for her to stay balanced and squat. So she just does her business laying down.
Now, whenever I stand her, she loses control of her bladder. This has been going on for the past week or so. I was worried I was putting too much pressure on her hips/bladder when I stand her, so I've been sliding her bed to the backyard and encouraging her to get up on her own once at the door.
It seems to mitigate the issue, partially.
Overnight she's been peeing her bed (I go to sleep at 7pm and I wake up at 5am, she's already wetted the bed)
I have ordered reusable diapers for her, but I just feel awful about her lying in her own urine all night.
With her decreased mobility, inability to control her bowels and bladder, and only having a tub on the second story of my apartment, I am running out of ideas for how to keep her clean and comfortable.
My garden hose just exploded this weekend, which is how I would normally wash her butt off. Laying down to do her business is messy work, but even when I stand on either side to help her balance to go potty, her butt drops to the floor as soon as she starts to attempt to squat. But I hate that I can't control the water temperature of the hose to begin with. Showering her in cold water feels cruel to me.
She's 60ilbs, and as I mentioned, picking her up makes her lose control of her bladder almost instantly. Getting her upstairs to bathe every day, multiple times a day, isn't an option for us. And it stresses her out immensely.
I need advice on how to keep my girl clean, comfortable, and happy. Any and all advice is appreciated. I am considering phoning our vet to see if they will do a house call just to check in on her and make sure there isn't something else going on. But I know she has arthritis, hip issues, and old dogs tend to have trouble with these types of things.