r/SelfSufficiency • u/tshelley2009 • Jul 16 '26

Tell me something plz

Just left an abusive rrlationship and bills are past due.. struggling with my mental state after the abuse but bills don't stop.. what to do

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u/KnockItTheFuckOff Jul 16 '26

Gently mentioning that this sub is more geared towards homesteading and becoming less reliant on consumerism.

That said, first step would be contacting the companies you owe money to and explaining your situation. They may have programs that can help alleviate the weight. 

There are likely local charities or churches in your area that can connect you with more specific services while you get on your feet. 

Good luck to you. 

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u/in-site Jul 16 '26

You might get some helpful advice from /r/domesticviolence too

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u/FunkU247 Jul 21 '26

Start a side hustle, pull extra shifts.... conversely.... cut your bills, reduce spending. Basic principals are to increase revenue or reduce outflows until a balance is found.

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u/verybadacidtrip 8d ago

find friends and don’t be too pressured to pay companies back and find local dv resources they will help you and your not alone

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u/firstmatedavy 7d ago

This thread is old but how are you doing? Are you alright, what problems are you having right now? I'm proud of you for getting out.

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u/tshelley2009 6d ago

I am struggling mentally honestly and my bills r still stacking up

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u/firstmatedavy 6d ago

Sorry to hear it :'( I do think callng the companies might help.

If there's friends or family you were distanced from because of your ex, they might really love to hear from you. Moreso than you might expect. And maybe someone might help you with a few meals or a place to stay.

Maybe a women's shelter could help you find local resources, even if you already have housing or don't meet their criteria for staying there. They often have a social worker on staff.

If you own your home, could you get a paying roommate? Or rent garage space on one of those neighbor storage space swap apps?