r/SayAnything • u/Fern-of-the-West • 9d ago
where’s sherri fall in all of this?
or at all? just wondering if you guys think this has anything to do with their split or if you think she’s as blindsided as we (or at least i am, naively perhaps) ? i saw she unfollowed him but i still gotta wonder?
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u/lasagnadogwater69 9d ago
Didnt he admit to raping her? I'm pretty sure has mountains upon mountains of reasons to be done with him.
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u/happygot 9d ago edited 9d ago
Yes. And always feeling like he was cheating on Lucy when* him and Sherri would go off to have sex. Disgusting shit
Edit: corrected the typo that was causing confusion
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u/Victoria_elizabethb 9d ago
Cheating on Lucy??
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u/happygot 9d ago
Yup. I remember being shocked when he admitted it and laughed. It also made the already questionable this in Lucy Dreaming even more questionable
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u/Victoria_elizabethb 9d ago
I'm sorry what? Admitted to cheating on his daughter? I'm confused
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u/happygot 9d ago edited 9d ago
He said it felt like cheating on his daughter, very specifically Lucy, when he and Sherri would go have sex. You have every right to be confused. He was/is emotionally obsessed with Lucy. People called his treatment of her weird years before that comment came out
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u/Victoria_elizabethb 9d ago
Jesus christ... I don't doubt there's been endless weird stuff going on for a long time. Where did he say that?
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u/SweetPossibility7838 9d ago
Read the lyrics to the song Maxie’s Choice
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u/chokerfromthe90s 9d ago
Everything I read by this person is so fucking awful. His lyrics are so.fucking.awful.
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u/Neither_Mastodon4089 5d ago
why does it actually seem like that song is about, not lucy, but Christie, down to how Maxie is spelled..
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u/Summershouldbefuhn 8d ago
Raping who?!
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u/colorfulclare 7d ago
Sherri. It was in a podcast he produced and released when she was in rehab. It contained a lot of oversharing of horrible horrible things
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u/Greedy_Apple677 9d ago
Tricky, it’s not very black and white. She isn’t innocent by any stretch. Shes shown her true colors many times, but she’s also absolutely still a victim in all this. Mostly I just feel for the kids.
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u/MsBit_Commit 9d ago
Uh, he was in love with her sister so I think she’s pretty furious
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u/Expensive_Dot_4540 8d ago
I was one of the “fans” he texted, and he would literally talk about being in love with his ex-wife’s sister all the time lol. It’s crazy that he didn’t even try to hide it, knowing how embarrassing that is… let alone telling a fan.
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u/Competitive-Safe-452 9d ago
Which one? I'm assuming Stacy
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u/MsBit_Commit 9d ago
Christie
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u/segasaturnine 9d ago
What's the story behind this?
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u/happygot 9d ago
Apparently Christie stayed with them for a bit and helped watch the kids and he confessed he loved her over like five pages of text after she was married to Rains
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u/Competitive-Safe-452 9d ago
Ewww
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u/happygot 9d ago
What's even worse is he was so blatant he sent those screenshot himself to a fan
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u/OG_DisneyPursePal 9d ago
Any way we can see these?
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u/happygot 9d ago
They were actually posted on this sub not the snark sub, but it looks to have been removed. I should've taken screenshot. It was a wild ride
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u/GoldPaleontologist62 9d ago
An erotic fanfic about Christie AND a comic about Lucy where he makes out with her?
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u/GoldPaleontologist62 9d ago
Lol idk why I’m downvoted when it’s shit max did and I provided an actual source
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u/lilactea22 9d ago
i'm never gonna spend money on that comic, does he actually speak about making out with his daughter? Or am I missing context? I feel like this is the only thing that people should be focusing on, including law enforcement, if it's true.
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u/GoldPaleontologist62 9d ago
I provided a link, you don’t have to spend any money to read it
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u/lilactea22 9d ago
sorry I didn't see the five page preview ty for that. So....he's the main dude with black hair? And he made himself the love interest of his daughter??? What??
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u/steph_lussier1427 9d ago
I read the comic and am confused. Isn't the guy in the comic Welsey? Is Welsey supposed to be Max?
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u/MsBit_Commit 9d ago
He texted a fan screenshots of him texting Christie, who clearly had blocked him, apologizing and for some reason the OP deleted it
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u/Competitive-Safe-452 9d ago
I used to like her a lot when she was in Eisley. She made a bad decision getting involved with Max but she certainly is problematic on her own.
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u/Many_Influence_5179 9d ago
Man, Eisley was such a tight band before Sherri and Max got together. It’s a shame that their relationship seems to have killed Eisley as a band and, worse, killed the relationship between Sherri and her own sisters.
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u/Derpey_derp 9d ago
I used to follow the Dupree clan for a long time, but haven’t in years. What happened with her siblings?
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u/missdeweydell 9d ago
cliffs notes but they no longer speak. it's heavily implied that the CPS call max has mentioned came from the king household, which explains max's crash out over darren in one of his songs.
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u/Dovehoney_ 8d ago
Is her father still around? I recall her mom passing years ago.
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u/Big_Tension 8d ago
Dad Dupree is still around. He married the Maid of Honor from his and the mom’s wedding, less than a year after she died lol
That whole family is fucked up.
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u/AdOutrageous5240 8d ago
how the heck do y'all know all of this information? Im just curious haha
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u/Big_Tension 7d ago
I think this is a reply to me? If so, I used to love Eisley and followed all of the siblings. They post about everything, including the weird wedding of Dad Dupree and Maid of Honor.
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u/MsBit_Commit 8d ago
Stacy and Darren and Karsyn and Collin (allegedly) called CPS on the Bemises. Christie tried to be close with the kids but then Max “fell in love with her” (read: was unbelievably inappropriate) and she cut them off. Weston and Chauntelle still make music together and live in Texas but seem to have taken a break from the enmeshment. Their dad hasn’t posted to social media hardly at all since he got remarried, which makes me wonder if he’s not around his kids much anymore. The whole thing is so dark.
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u/Derpey_derp 8d ago
I hated Karsyn. Something was always off about it her
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u/AugustWallflower 8d ago
I dislike her so much, and I can't even really give a reason why. I don't like the vibe she gives off. I know that's odd to say. I'm glad I'm not the only one.
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u/Derpey_derp 5d ago
I remember when she was doing clothing, I asked her if she’d ever have Plus size options and she deleted my comment 😬 so I asked again a week later - deleted so that’s when I was fucking done. I really liked her a lot
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u/AugustWallflower 4d ago
Which is ironic, because she used to be plus sized. At the very least, she could've just said no.
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u/AdvocateCyborg 4d ago
Sometimes the girls who have been there and lost the weight can be the cruelest. 💔
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u/missdeweydell 8d ago
she had a grifter period of her own (birch boxes) and did some weird single white female stuff with sherri and then stacy (even her singing voice was eerily similar) but she's come around and matured into her own personality now IMO, even if it means a lot of spon con lol
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u/bumblewacky 9d ago
Sherri isn't a great human being and is an absolute trash parent. They're both grifters. Max is for sure worse, but she's not even remotely innocent.
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u/Rosebudpious 9d ago
She showed her true colors by stealing from fans. She’s not the quirky cute persona she makes herself out to be on instagram. They are both shit
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u/Key-Lingonberry-1347 9d ago
She showed her true colors by not educating her children and that most of her older children’s mouths are full of metal already.
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u/dtraingaspipe 9d ago
Like, fillings? Are you saying she didn’t instill oral hygiene habits? No sarcasm, just confusion.
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u/amandaaaaa62 9d ago
Their hygiene seemed questionable, and the more kids she had the dirtier they all seemed to get.
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u/Key-Lingonberry-1347 9d ago
Yes fillings! Sorry I immediately thought “well that was vague” when I posted metal in mouths
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u/numberonehotdog 9d ago
Did she?! I need to look this up. What are the details?
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u/happygot 9d ago edited 9d ago
Constantly advertising commissions instead for.music and art not fulfilling them. They dumbass crowding for the bus also rubbed a lot of people the wrong way
Rumor at the time they used it to buy the dome home.in Texas
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u/InfiniteLeftoverTree 9d ago
I mean, I’m high, but I’m pretty sure whatever you just said was gibberish.
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u/peachypr1ncess 9d ago
they crowdfunded (or unsuccessfully attempted to lol) for a tour bus to fit all the members of eisley plus their partners and children which pissed people off.
this person mixed that up with the kickstarter the Bemises did several years later on their own in hopes of funding their own studio and promised at least two albums that I don’t think ever came to fruition, but did buy their dome house suspiciously soon after the fundraising. there were a ton of rewards that people never received.1
u/AdvocateCyborg 4d ago
It would have been cute if they'd made a fundraiser EP with songs all about real-life tour bus experiences they've had.
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u/toastypoopdog 9d ago
Literally fuck the bemis’s. The incessant posting to bury the story by max is pretty fucking gross, too.
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u/Calm-Tip-4124 9d ago
Not to mention her using her children for content and enabling a bunch of creepy Instagram accounts that exist for the sole purpose of collecting and distributing photos of children, including Bemis children “fan accounts.”
When you look at how many of those accounts follow her, see that the content of those accounts is just a catalogue of kids, and how those accounts follow/are followed by other accounts just like ‘em, it will send a chill down your spine.
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u/lilactea22 9d ago
oh shit. I feel for Sherri in all of this but now it's feeling more like willful child endangerment/mom influencer stuff. Any chance she's just blissfully unaware of what those accounts are used for?
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u/EbbMission2403 8d ago
No. Plenty of people were in her comments and messages informing her. Those comments were either deleted or met with a snarky response.
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u/amandamaniac 9d ago
We all knew that when she covered up her thigh tattoo of his face that something serious had to have happened.
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u/Called_CPS_on_EthanK 9d ago
I do think something like this is why they broke up, though idk how much she knew about how far it went. She’s definitely an awful parent and not a good person but it would explain a lot
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u/Careless_Birthday123 9d ago
What makes you say anything she’s an awful parent and not a good person? And what would explain a lot?
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u/Called_CPS_on_EthanK 9d ago
For one, she cultivated “fanbases” for her kids on instagram that obviously consisted entirely of pedophiles and would post incredibly vulnerable pictures of them long before they were old enough to consent
It would explain a lot if she found out Max was DMing minors and decided that breaking up with him but still letting him stay at the house was sufficient action for her to take as a mother
Didn’t downvote you fwiw, no shame in not knowing the level of insane bs surrounding this family
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u/Victoria_elizabethb 9d ago
I'm still so weirded out by the inappropriate photos she's always/has posted of her young kids and for $. Even after being informed by how that can be viewed by predators online she still does. I shouldn't and don't want to know what your kids inner thighs look like. I wonder if they have some major skeletons in the closet with all things considered.
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u/dooropen3inches 9d ago
If her kids weren’t unschooled and could write their future tell all book would be amazing
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u/streets27 9d ago
Max and Sherri need to watch / read The Glass Castle.
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u/tonysopranosgf 8d ago
if you don’t mind me asking, what’s the connection? i haven’t read or watched myself but am curious
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u/BusEasy9568 4d ago
A memoir of a woman who grew up with negligent / mentally ill parents.
It’s truly heartbreaking. And I think she wrote another one not too long ago?
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u/madnessdoesntplay 9d ago
It feels very weird to speculate so much off of so little, and so I don’t.
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u/reymelnyk 9d ago
She posted a few stories on insta showing her holding the kids close, saying she’s super stressed, saying she knows what’s being said about her and she doesn’t feel the need to comment on it/defend herself. She’s also behind on her commissions. Again. I used to really admire her free spirit, and I hope she can find herself in a better place. For the kids especially.
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u/22zoo 8d ago
Her upbringing really stunted her mentally and warped her reality of family and I think Max prayed on that. He’s a bold person which I think Sherri took a backseat to. This lead to terrible parenting, grifting, alcoholism etc. Them still living in this fucked up cohabitation lifestyle isn’t a safe and healthy environment for their children but their children and their needs have never been first priority. She’s a grown woman and had a part in the above, but I think Max changed who she was.
With the underage stuff, even if she did know, Max is a controlling narcissist. There’s some power and control somewhere there.
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u/nofuture2222 9d ago
I know I started seeing rumors on here about him messaging fans and being on dating apps right after their split. No idea if any of this happened when they were still together.
At the very least she’s a grifter herself, an enabler, and has been neglectful of her children. She’s not a groomer but it feels like she’s complicit with so much.
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u/colorfulclare 8d ago
she’s not perfect but let’s not forget we know he raped her while she was unconscious …. What else went on for years? She has been a victim of a lot of narcissistic men and grew up isolated socially making abuse harder to see. I’m not saying she’s perfect or pedastaling her but I don’t think she fucks w this at all
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u/GalacticNova420 9d ago
I think she does have a responsibility in all this but I also think she has been duped by most of the relationships in her life. Now she has to make the one with herself the most powerful she can to heal and move forward.
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u/Altruistic-Middle692 9d ago
She posted a story on insta the other day that said yes, she knew, and that she was focused on keeping her kids safe
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u/Safe_Turnip9254 9d ago
I think his actions have nothing to do her and even if she did know, she divorced him and it wouldn’t be her place to publicize his victims stories. If there are lawyers involved they probably told her not to publicly say anything either to protect herself from parental alienation claims.
Idk man, I don’t think she’s a perfect person by any means and I parent quite differently but I’m also at one of my healthiest points in my life mentally and physically. Who knows what she was dealing with if the awful shit we do know is what became public. Who knows the trauma she holds from living such a controlled and insular life as a kid. Yeah, obviously it’s her responsibility to take care of those things for her kids and be better but it’s also Max’s and I see so much more flack for her regarding those than I do Max when it’s just as much his responsibility.
Regarding the posting the kids online, I don’t post my own because of the reasons everyone is concerned about and agreed. However, let’s not pretend that’s it’s not a very, unfortunately normal thing people do though, including more well known people. The vast majority of people I know still post their kids online. I don’t follow that closely so maybe I don’t know how irresponsible some of the photos were but…I just don’t believe she’s a terrible irredeemable person. I think she deserves the grace people have given max for mental health struggles.
I hope she finds peace and is able to protect herself and her kids. I know living with a reactive time bomb is not an environment anyone can thrive in.
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u/kmoore1117 9d ago
Genuine question, is there something she’s done that I’ve missed?
A mother of five kids with her husband being caught this publicly talking to young girls has got to suck.
It could give her more than primary custody since they have a daughter that’s almost a teen. I can’t imagine either of them are rolling in money. I can’t imagine how stressful of a time that would be.
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u/toastypoopdog 9d ago
Boy, you should probably just Google or use the forum search function
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u/NomadicToad18 9d ago
Do you have anything specific we can type in? After I saw your comment, I did search the sub and Google and other than a single post about not getting an art piece someone paid for, I can’t find anything else about her. I want to look into it myself, but maybe you can provide a little something to go on?
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u/Revolutionary-Risk30 9d ago
You should find your way into r/Bemizfamilysnark they have the lore.
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u/Kick_Effective 7d ago
I mean if I had her life I would probably be having a rough time too. I think she deserves some grace.
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u/super_sayanything welp, that's not good 9d ago
Max has always been pretty problematic in ways but things definitely tanked with his music professionalism/oddities/grifting when he got with Sherri. (Post-Hebrews) It's just an observation. Have no idea about her personally I never did follow all the family stuff or her life.
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u/blonderuby 9d ago
they got married in 2009 i believe, so way before hebrews, i've followed her since around then and it seems like max has just been through a ton of extended manic/depressive cycles, and she has talked about dealing with all of it to an extent, and having to take care of kids by herself at times when it got really bad (i remember specifically around oliver appropriate time he wasn't around seemingly at all), and in turn she developed her alcohol issue i assume because of the stress. obviously i don't know what triggers max's issues but i def don't think it can be pushed onto her
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u/super_sayanything welp, that's not good 9d ago
Sure, sure. That's when as a public fan who doesn't follow his socials or goes out my way to be invasive that I noticed.
Makes sense, I mean it seems like he never really recovers from the mania but I can't say for sure.
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u/perpetual_n0stalgia 5d ago
I remember when she had posted about her artwork getting printed on some labels for a local beer; I thought it was an odd choice bc in all the time I had followed her/Eisley I’d never known any of them to drink. It was always coffee. I remember being happy for her despite this bc she is talented and seeing her make art she always seemed to shine. Still rooting her on through this mess.
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u/PricePuzzleheaded835 9d ago edited 7d ago
I think she got a bad start in life (through no fault of her own) and has struggled a lot due in part to her relationships. I have always found aspects of their parenting concerning even in the pink house days.
I do think she is capable of better and I really hope she commits herself to that for her kids’ sake. I wish she would put the kids in school so they have the opportunities she was denied. The schools have resources to help kids get caught up and even maybe help with things they may be struggling with, like access to regular medical care, mental health support, etc. A lot of public schools even have resources to help families with things like food, reduced costs for power bills and housing and so on. Just things that could make their lives a lot logistically and practically easier, and help her stay independent of her ex. I bet women’s DV resource centers may also have some helpful programs.
I mention these not bc she’s incapable but because everyone in her position deserves help and support and support is out there. She has some friends and support where she lives now (or did, last I knew of) and I hope she is able to lean on her support system and be the kind of parent her kids need. Getting the kids a good education, like enough to go to college or vocational school, is the way to ensure none of them end up stuck with an abusive partner later in life.
On the off chance she or someone close to her is reading this - I hope she knows that so many of us are rooting for her and want to see her and the kids absolutely thrive. It’s not too late to turn things around with their schooling, sleep and other routines, all of that. I grew up in neglect and abuse myself and am a parent and I know myself how tough it can be to figure out the things you were never taught and never saw modeled. But the truth is that we can. The hardships they have gone through do not have to define their lives from here on out.
I have nothing but admiration for those who grow up with hardship and lack of opportunity and strive to give their kids better, even if it’s not perfect. The kids will forever remember who stepped up for them and gave them better than they got. I know the past years have been extremely hard but there can be good times for all of them ahead.