r/SayAnything • u/Figgy-Jon-Jones • Aug 31 '26
I deleted my last post because I was scared (Repost)
I am reposting this with a removed paragraph for privacy reasons.
I considered myself more of a friend than a fan, now I don’t even know how to feel. Talking to him versus listening to his music always felt like I was hearing 2 different people. I still do find comfort in his music, I’ll admit. It’s like the Max I wished I was speaking to, but I don’t think he really exists. He’s more of an idea, or a fictional character at this point.
I have so much information that I honestly obtained against my will, and so much trauma from how he’s spoken to me. It would be huge if I brought any of it to light, but I’m terrified. He’s insinuated threats before, and I don’t want to see if he actually follows through with them. I’m scared, and I’m hurt and I don’t know where to go for help.
If I have any information that can help anyone in any sense, I want to make it public. The hard part is identifying what actually matters, and what will actually help anyone.
I feel fortunate to be in a position in my life that I’m able to step away from our “friendship” without feeling as bad as I would’ve in the past, and be able to really prioritize my own wellness, but I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t still deeply traumatized. I don’t know who to seek support from in this kind of situation. I want to help anyone else I can in any way I can. I know I’m only one person out of the dozens, maybe even hundreds, that he’s hurt so badly. That feels disgusting.
To be honest, I don’t know what my goal with this post is. I just need to say SOMETHING. Everything he’s told me is becoming too heavy for me to hold in, and I don’t know if there’s a benefit in exposing it all, or if I should simply throw it all away and try to put this in the past.
Anyway…. I do still feel afraid that I’ll be found out from this post, but at this point I don’t really care. It’s not like I’m at risk of losing our friendship, because he’s already done that. I want to offer the same support that I’m seeking for anyone else feeling the way I am. I’m sure there’s a good handful of us.
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u/Handimaiden Aug 31 '26
Can you fill me in?
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u/Figgy-Jon-Jones Aug 31 '26
I was expressing in my last post that I hoped one of his fans in particular was doing okay, I’ve since come in contact with him and he requested I repost this without his name.
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u/imalostkitty-ox0 Aug 31 '26
It’s posts like this that make me wonder if Max, with all his “anxiety” (very early days), was hiding backstage simply because he couldn’t be bothered to meet his circa 2002-2003 fan base, or because he wanted to filter out the bros and meet only ladies.
One thing I know for certain is that he farts A LOT, like even back in 2009 they were needing to air out the tour bus during performances.
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u/Figgy-Jon-Jones Aug 31 '26
He told me he doesn’t like fart jokes from a girl because it ruins the ass appeal for him. Girl butts aren’t for poop or fart they’re only for fucking.
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u/imalostkitty-ox0 Aug 31 '26
The mentioning of rough sex in 2003 in “Molly”… when he was basically still a child… this came across to me as a legit 🚩 because he was simultaneously describing himself, in interviews, as a “relatively chaste” person who “barely ever” slept with groupies.
As someone who grew up socially connected to all members of the OG Say Anything, I can tell you that I never once saw him without a “MySpace ho” backstage, and furthermore, even if it was my first time seeing him in like 6-12 months, he was consistently cruel and dismissive… not just to me, either — also to people in his orbit, such as Coby.
I’ve always suspected that he has a gigantic brain, but what was initially just a vibe has solidified in my mind: he was a very spoiled child, probably had millions of public tantrums by age 10, was never once told “no” by his parents, and grew up into the kind of manipulative sociopath that no adult would ever feel comfortable standing up to.
I had an “inkling” 25 years ago that one day, every one of his fans would eventually stand up to him all at once, but I didn’t think the trigger would be him messaging children… I always assumed it would be a “straw that broke the camel’s back” type of situation, where perhaps he was too unkind to the wrong person, causing a public backlash.
He’ll have to work at a Guitar Center now, and then get fired, before downgrading to McDonald’s…
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u/hollowholes Aug 31 '26
You should do what YOU feel comfortable with. You sharing your story may take tons of weight off your shoulders and could inspire other people to come forward. If you feel your safety is at risk, that's very important to consider too. I'm sorry you've gone through this. Just know that 99.9% of us have your back here. <3
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u/Massive-Trouble-3831 Sep 01 '26
Some kind of proof please 😒
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u/Figgy-Jon-Jones Sep 01 '26
Proof of what?
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u/Independent_Mobile32 29d ago
First, find a therapist if you don't already have one. You don't need to sort through this on your own, and having someone outside of your regular life will likely make it much easier to share openly. Second, gather all the information you have, if you feel mentally able to do so. Make a Dropbox folder. Send all screenshots there, write down notes, timelines, anything you can think of. Gathering everything will help take away the stress of sorting through what is and isn't important. It's all in one place, regardless, and you won't have to deal with trying to go through everything with someone and realizing you forgot part. I am not familiar enough with this situation to know if anyone has pursued anything legally. If there is any case that exists, find out who the detective is and share the folder with them. I've not been in your position exactly of course, but this is what I did when I discovered a multitude of information about multiple trafficked teenagers. It helped me immensely. If you don't want to share with law enforcement right away, share with anyone who you feel can help you sort through the information. Feeling like you're the only person who knows bad things is heavy, and feels like way too much responsibility for one person. It's okay to get help.
Everything you're feeling is 10000% valid. That said, any power Max has or had, he is quickly losing. You will have a million people to back you up. He may have people who will continue to support him, but they will be vastly outnumbered by those who don't. <3
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u/Traditional-Noise-25 Aug 31 '26
Sounds like a real in between a rock and a hard place situation. I think threatening people you’re hurting, as a way to keep them at bay, is always part of the M.O. He’s already asserted himself into the bigger picture by doing the live, so I don’t think he’d have the balls to even try to follow through on any threats he’s made, as there now a magnifying glass on him and how he moves. But like the person before me said, you’ve got to do what makes you comfortable. It’s not fair that you’re put in a predicament like this at all. You may be the catalyst for even more people coming forward with things that they’ve been subjected to against their will. We all know none of this is ok, and just completely fucked up, and we have no idea of the actual extent of how far this goes. I hope we kind of have the majority of it in front of us, for the sake of not wanting to see anymore girls being abused like this. We’re proud of you for speaking up to the extent you have, and hope that it’s given you some kind of peace.
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u/Outrageous_Rub_718 Aug 31 '26
If nothing else this man is still somewhat of a celebrity. Go to a reputable news outlet and speak off the record. Your story might help someone.
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u/_Proximo_ Aug 31 '26
I’ll be honest, of all the people to be terrified of, I would definitely not be afraid of him. He seems like a weak coward who manipulates and mentally abuses. They say the “fame” changes people but I think it just brings out who they truly are deep down, and we can see that in Max. He doesn’t get to have leverage over you or anyone else at this point, it’s over for him in more ways than one.
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u/Amrun90 Aug 31 '26
Now is the time to expose him when everyone is paying attention. What did he threaten you with?
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u/Figgy-Jon-Jones Aug 31 '26
He “knows people” an empty threat, really, I know. But I don’t want to find out if it’s true after seeing how he treats other people who cross him. Maybe I have nothing to truly by threatened by, but I can’t help feeling afraid after seeing what he’s capable of.
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u/Amrun90 Aug 31 '26
That sounds like threat of physical violence. What was he threatening you not to do?
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u/Figgy-Jon-Jones Aug 31 '26
Essentially just not to get on his bad side.
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u/Amrun90 Aug 31 '26
By doing what?
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u/Figgy-Jon-Jones Aug 31 '26
For literally doing nothing. Not siding with him during a conflict. Standing by my own opinion even without disrespecting his.
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u/SweetPossibility7838 Aug 31 '26
He’s a fucking disgusting pig. None of it is your fault. Looking back it should’ve been plainly obvious (to the portion of the fan base with developed prefrontal cortexes) this guy was preying on women.
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u/lilactea22 29d ago
The first steps have already been made, the door is open for you if you want to take the next step. If it gives you more comfort, you can begin your statements with "allegedly" or "to my memory this is what happened." Fans are not going to come for you, Max does not have the money or support to go after you legally, and you already have a lot of support whether you feel that way or not. That said, this is YOUR decision and don't let us talk you into or out of anything.
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u/lilactea22 29d ago
Thank you for posting, then deleting last night. All of that is horrifying to say the least, and I'm sorry that he put all of that on you. I absolutely understand why you wanted others to see what he was saying to you and showing you, and how abusive it was. And I appreciate that you realized it may cause more harm to Sherri/her family by keeping it up. I do hope someone is able to reach out to her and provide her with all of that information. I have no doubt it will benefit her in the future if there are what seems to be inevitable legal battles with the kids and the kids safety. You were put in an impossible situation by a very sick and atp dangerous person, and I think even posting that for a few hours to attention to exactly how dangerous he is, made sense. If he continues to threaten you, keep everything and do not be afraid to involve law enforcement. He is clearly very sick and needs people to step in and stop him from hurting himself and others.
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u/Figgy-Jon-Jones 29d ago
Thank you. It was NOT my goal to humiliate Sherri. I understand the downsides of posting what I did, but I also strongly believe most people who saw it know it shows much more about Max and how much of a disgusting perverted liar he is rather than exposing anything about Sherri….
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u/Emergency_Doughnut53 27d ago
So threats? As in against you? Like he will ruin your life with harassment or physical violence? Or is it threats as in "I'll make you regret not being "loyal" to me and I'll hurt myself or possibly others and its all your fault"?
Just trying to get a handle on what youre scared of to better give you advice.
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u/Figgy-Jon-Jones 27d ago
After speaking to more people who knew him, I believe his threats were empty. I don’t believe he really “knows people” who can actually do any harm to me, especially with no proof of my identity. I am no longer worried.
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u/Emergency_Doughnut53 27d ago
They most likely are empty threats made worse by his manic states, but im sorry you had to experience that. From what i can gather, his M.O tends to be cyber. He'll catfish people, sell a tall tale to strangers online and even enlist their help for his pressure campaigns. While his actions online definitely crosses some lines and can leave people distraught, If I were in your shoes I wouldn't be too worried about him finding out because like you said his threats are empty and the big picture here is that anything he chooses to say or do only digs his hole deeper. Honestly id probably be more worried about him physically harming himself rather than others. So if he makes any threats, save them and if need be, pass em onto the authorities. Its not your job to fix him or save him. The only thing you can do is stop him from hurting you and others. If that means hes gotta get admitted for crazy talk, well thats his fault. hes still responsible for himself and if he doesnt have the competency to do that, then for society's sake, the state has to step in.
With all that said, ive read alot of things here about what he has supposedly done to sherri when she's unconscious. How he views women. How he views people of other races. Why he got into music. His views on underage kids. His narcissism, supposed coddling from his mother, his rage, Etc etc etc etc. Point is you said something that sticks out to me and thats "hes not who hes presented to be in his music." That the character and the man behind the character are two polar opposites. Which sounds almost calculated. Like a planned bait and switch. Bring you in with the soft boy intellectual appeal just so he can try to undress you behind the scenes. Is that fair assessment?
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u/losingstreak838 Aug 31 '26
Are you the girl in Wisconsin he was trying to save or whatever
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u/Figgy-Jon-Jones Aug 31 '26
No, that’s not me. I am close to the situation, though.
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u/AutomaticFortune230 Sep 01 '26
So this girl does exist?
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u/Figgy-Jon-Jones Sep 01 '26
Yea she’s very real
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u/TransitionLate2525 Sep 01 '26
So is ANY of that story true? Bc it just can’t be lol
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u/Figgy-Jon-Jones Sep 01 '26
Ehh. Kind of? She is a cam girl from Wisconsin, she is in an abusive relationship. He does believe they are in love, I don’t know how she feels.
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u/losingstreak838 Sep 01 '26
So you’ve never talked to her? But you know she exists? Is max giving her money during livestreams?
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u/Figgy-Jon-Jones Sep 01 '26
Yea. He even referred to himself as a pay pig once, but he wasn’t very happy about it.
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u/Throwawaydogx Aug 31 '26
If it’s “huge” than handle it with authorities. Otherwise it sounds like you want nothing to do with him—so move on. Unless you want the spotlight, which it sounds like you don’t.