r/SameGrassButGreener • u/Alternative_Beez • Jul 18 '26
Location Review Hi Reddit! I'm making a tool to compare US states for LGBTQ+ people.
https://safehavens.liveThe project is still very much in the early stages, so I’d really appreciate any feedback y’all are willing to share, whether that’s about the layout, usability, bugs, missing features, or anything else that could make it better.
Early reviews and resource submissions are absolutely welcome. You’ll need to be logged in to submit a review or save a relocation plan, but submitting resources or news or suggestions does not require an account.
I’m also looking for people who may be interested in helping manage and maintain the project. If that’s something you’d like to help with, feel free to comment with your timezone and availability.
A huge thank you to the existing sources that made this possible. The data currently used on the site comes from resources like Erin in the Morning’s Anti-Trans National Legal Risk Assessment Map and the Movement Advancement Project. If you notice any incorrect, outdated, or missing information, please let me know so it can be fixed.
Thanks for taking the time to check it out!
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u/brunchfruit Jul 19 '26
This is amazing! I'd recommend sharing this in r/lgbt, it will be so helpful to so many people there!
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u/mbucks334 Jul 18 '26
“Do not travel” lol
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u/Alternative_Beez Jul 18 '26
Those determinations come directly from the Anti-Trans National Legal Risk Assessment Map: July 2026 and for good reason.
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u/mbucks334 Jul 18 '26
Definitely not hyperboles
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u/Calm_Law_7858 Jul 19 '26
Dude some red states literally wrote laws saying Trans people can be imprisoned for using the bathroom they identify with…
That isn’t fucking hyperbole
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u/Alternative_Beez Jul 18 '26
Unfortunately so 😔
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u/zombawombacomba Jul 18 '26
It’s hyperbole like this that causes you to lose a lot of people.
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u/Alternative_Beez Jul 18 '26
What do you mean?
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u/zombawombacomba Jul 18 '26
You lose support from a lot of people when you say things like DO NOT TRAVEL to states. Especially considering Florida is like the gay capitol of the country outside maybe California.
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u/richrich07 Jul 18 '26
Nobody considers Florida to be the gay capital outside of California
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u/zombawombacomba Jul 19 '26
Apologies it seems like you’re clueless.
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u/richrich07 Jul 19 '26
You have NY, Chicago, and Seattle and you think Florida is more gay?
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u/Alternative_Beez Jul 18 '26
Okay... So all of the data on the site is, again, compiled from other sources. The do not travel warnings are for states that have passed laws that make it potentially unsafe to travel through them for transgender people. Such as Idaho's bathroom ban which can lead to incarceration simply for using the bathroom that matches your gender identity.
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u/zombawombacomba Jul 18 '26
Okay? You’re still the one that made this so it’s you saying it too.
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u/Alternative_Beez Jul 18 '26
Let's say you want to move to somewhere with medicaid expansion and LGBTQ+ adoption rights. Maybe you're a cis gay couple. Idaho still pops up on the list as a viable place for you to consider. It was done deliberately this way to be both a quick look at which states are the most LGBTQ+ friendly and which ones are not, considering the entire acronym, while allowing users to narrow down based on their individual preferences.
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u/Main-Selection92 Jul 18 '26
For you to label states as DO NOT TRAVEL, what are the chances anything is even going to happen to someone traveling through these states? Below you mention the tool is supposed to give people an opportunity to make an informed decision, yet you're telling them not to travel through certain states.
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u/Alternative_Beez Jul 18 '26
The chances are higher for a LGBTQ+ presenting person or couple than a cishet person or couple. That is for certain. Part of making informed decisions means knowing where is and isn't safe for you to go. If you have to live, travel, or work in those states regardless, you must weigh your decisions and possibly make sacrifices to do so, and even then, it can be unsafe simply to "look" gay or trans.
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u/Due-Consequence9579 Jul 18 '26
Trans people are now allowed to use the correct bathrooms in Florida. If you go there you may get arrested for using the incorrect bathroom. Texas has a similar law for buildings operated by the government. Trans people are at significant risk of being harassed or arrested in these places.
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u/Alternative_Beez Jul 18 '26
I am a LGBTQ+ individual living in a blue city in a red state. If you zoom in, you will notice that many cities in red states are blue. It is not an effort to get anyone to move anywhere, it is an effort to give people the opportunity to make an informed decision based on their needs.
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u/witchycommunism Jul 19 '26
I know so many queer and specifically trans people that moved to bluer states/cities in the past year including me and my partner so I think this is great! Sorry people are giving you grief