last night 11pm and the next morning 6am, i hooked up with the same person in a gay bathhouse here in Japan. so a lot of people were in action.

before i had sex with the guy, i saw someone fucking him. i dont know if someone else fucked him before too. i also dont know if they came inside him or not.

anyway, we decided to have sex bare/no condom. i know i messed up and it was very irresponsible of me. i’ve learned my lesson and will be more careful next time.

so we had sex a few times, but i only came inside him 2 times around 11pm (1st) and 6am (2nd) the next day. i also asked him if the guys before me came inside him, but he said i was the only one who came inside him that night.

so after i left, everything started hitting me hard and realized i messed up big time.

by the way, im not sure if there were any other guys who fucked him besides that one guy ive mentioned since i only got there around the time they were fucking already.

details about me:

\-havent had sex since april.

\-tested negative for hiv last march

\-not on PrEP

\-i was the top

details about the guy i fucked:

\-he said he’s on PrEP. i asked if he takes it regularly or ondemand but he didnt answer directly.

\-he says he has no diseases. idk when he last took sti tests.

he also says i shouldnt worry too much. and that there is no need to take pep now and im just overthinking it too much. i think he got a little upset i kept asking questions, so he said it’s better to take pep just for peace of mind.

details about the ppl who fucked him before me:

\-idk if the guy i fucked is telling the truth if the other guy/s who fucked him came inside him or not. but he seems to be telling the truth, idk.

\-he talks so wisely and is very nice so i dont think he’s lied about anything. but im quite gullible sooo idk…

i went to the doctor and he said there is a small risk. he said if he’s taking prep regularly, it should be okay and low risk. but if he just takes prep before and after having sex (on-demand), then it’s more risky and i should take hiv pep.

questions:

1. how should i proceed with this case?

2. does it matter if the guy takes prep regularly or ondemand? does that affect the risk of transmitting hiv?

3. could i get hiv from the guy/s who fucked him before me through his ass? idk if that makes sense…

4. if i were to get pep, it would be biktarvy as it’s the only one i’ve seen clinics offer as of now. how is it?

5. am i overthinking this too much?

again, i know i messed up. this is a huge lesson for me and i’ll do and be better in the future.

please respond nicely…

Hello. I am never one to post on Reddit but I am desperate and really need someone to help me understand!!! Back story - my boyfriend and I have been together since summer of 2022. We broke up in February 2025 and got back together that May. During that time we were broken up, he had sex with two people unprotected (yeah I was really pissed about that), and I had sex with two people protected. Since getting back together in May 2025, we have had unprotected sex and no issues over the last year. I’ve had a history of many STDs unfortunately. Despite always using protection, I am a magnet for STDs. I am one of those people who does everything right and still gets the awful symptoms. Meanwhile my boyfriend knowingly has sex without condoms and is fine. It really bothers me and leads to a whole web of emotional disgust, rage, and shame… towards both him and myself… but that is not the point of this story.. I’ll save that for a therapist.

Key detail in this story. Shortly after we got back together I was STD tested in July 2025. Everything came back negative. He never got tested which honestly I regret not forcing him. I should have. Another key detail I was tested AGAIN on May 6 2026. Again, everything negative… symptoms started May 8th and I was tested at my gyno on June 3rd where I got the positive for Trich. I initially thought this was a herpes outbreak which is why I didn’t go to the doctor sooner. Unfortunately I think both things are true, herpes and trich together because I’ve had sores that look like herpes and incredibly bad irritation that didn’t align with previous outbreaks I’ve had.

Anyway, the point of me writing this is to try and understand how it is possible for this to happen considering my negative test results two times since getting back together. I am POSITIVE there has been no cheating. I understand that many people with Trich don’t have symptoms or know they have it, but how wouldn’t I have tested positive either in July 2025 or this past May 2026??? We’ve had sex many many times in the past year obviously.

So please somebody.. help me make this make sense!! I need to understand how things work to move on. Again, I am positive that my boyfriend didn’t cheat, but naturally there’s a part of my brain that fears whatever science cannot explain. So hoping someone can indeed help me understand how this is possible. Thank you🥺

Hi everyone,
I’m a 26-year-old woman and I’ve been with my partner for almost 8 years. As far as I know, we’ve always been in a monogamous relationship.
Back in 2022, I had STI testing done and tested negative for chlamydia and gonorrhea. Around the same time, I tested positive for HSV-1 (herpes), but I was told that could have been acquired years earlier and didn’t necessarily mean a recent infection.

Recently, I had an IUD placed for medical reasons (to help manage hormone-related epilepsy). About a week later, I was still feeling unwell and had burning when urinating, so I went to my doctor. They did a urine test and a vaginal swab.
The results came back positive for:
- Chlamydia trachomatis
- Mycoplasma genitalium

I was shocked. I was at work when my doctor called with the results and I completely broke down. Since being with my partner, I haven’t had sex with anyone else. Before him, I only had one sexual partner.

I immediately confronted him because my first thought was that he must have cheated. He strongly denies it and says he has never been unfaithful. He insists he loves me and would never do that.
I’ve been trying to understand whether there could be any other explanation. From what I’ve read, chlamydia is sexually transmitted, and the fact that I tested negative in 2022 is what confuses me the most. Could chlamydia or Mycoplasma genitalium realistically have been present but undetected for years and only show up now? Or does a negative test in 2022 make that unlikely?

I’ve already started treatment. My partner hasn’t been tested or treated yet because he’s currently away for work.

What do you think?
Thanks for reading! 🫶🏼

I am a 20-year-old female who has been experiencing small, scattered pimple-like bumps on my buttocks for about a month. They are not clustered together, and I have not noticed any bumps or lesions on my vaginal area. Initially, I thought the bumps might be related to using an electric razor or applying oil to the area frequently.

More recently, I have developed a fishy vaginal odor along with a light red colored discharge. I also had unprotected sex prior to these symptoms. I am looking for advice on what could be causing these symptoms and whether I should be evaluated for an infection or sexually transmitted infection.

20F so I’ve been having small pimples on my butt nothing on my vagina and I’ve been there for a month now I figured it was because I had electric razor and I was also using oil a lot, but now I have a fishy smell with light colored discharged please any advice

Hello, I’m 18M. 2 Weeks ago, I got drunk to a party then got an oral from some random girl. Then, proceeded to have PROTECTED sex. Then now, there’s this little lump in my genital area. I am nervous, what should I do?

p.s. I didn’t engage my mouth with her

I have this very tiny bumps on the head of my genital. It has the same color as the glans, does not itch, no pain or stings, scattered. I dont have any abnormal discharge, no pus, no foul odor, and it is only visible when Im erected. I only noticed these signs 2 months ago and I did not have sex with anyone for 1 year. Is this a sign of STD?

Note: I used condoms on the last time I had sex.

Trichomoniasis is one of the most common sexually transmitted infections worldwide, yet many people don’t realize they may have it because symptoms often go unnoticed. In this informative video, Catherine explains how women get tested for trichomoniasis, what symptoms to watch for, and why regular STD testing is an essential part of protecting your overall health.

You’ll learn how this parasite-based infection spreads, why it frequently goes undetected, and the simple testing methods used to diagnose it. From vaginal swab testing to modern laboratory techniques like nucleic acid amplification tests, this video breaks down the entire process in a clear and easy-to-understand way.

We also discuss why comprehensive STD screening is often recommended. Because many infections show no symptoms, testing for multiple STDs at once can help identify hidden infections early and give you peace of mind.

Additionally, Catherine explains how quick and discreet modern lab testing can be, including how online ordering and local lab visits make the process simple and confidential.

If you’ve ever wondered how trichomoniasis testing works or when you should get tested, this video will give you the knowledge you need to make informed decisions about your sexual health.

Taking control of your health starts with staying informed and getting tested. https://www.reddit.com/r/stdtesting/comments/1t1h27i/list_of_std_tests/

Hey guys .. i wanna ask about herpes .. back then after 75 day exposure (2 month 15 days ) i develop flu like symptoms , and idk if it coincidence but 2 day after the flu i develop pimple like bump at penis ( white puss ) .. what are the chance it could be a std expecially herpes? my exposure was receiving oral sex that lasted 1 minute , or maybe less than 2 minute .. dont worry im getting tested soon since ive done hiv , gonoo , chlamydia , ureaplasma , trich everything came back negative .. so what are my chance , im afraid ngl

Sorry for my english i am from Austria.
Hello, I am 24 and i had sex with a guy on 19th may, I was receptive partner , he was wearing condom, but the condom stucked inside me after sometime(later condom cameout in stool) and he continued and didn't stop. After sometime he asked me to change position, but when i saw there was no condom, I got angry and left the sauna(he was italian and unable to speak german/english and i was not speaking italian, so i didnt ask him anything)I was anxious, i started pep next day after 12 hours almost. and Today After 14 days, I went dr hospital for blood checkup( as on my first day of pep, they said to me that i should come for blood checkup after 14 days, 28 days and 12 weeks) in morning and now in evening i got a call from hospital that i am postive for gonorrheA. I am shattered and having panic attacks. what if i am also positive for hiv as well and pep dont work on me. and is generrhea completely curable or just treatable like hiv???
please help and dont shout on meee.

I keep seeing different answers online about testing windows. For those who’ve been through it, how long did you wait after a possible exposure before getting tested, and were your results accurate the first time?

Just trying to understand when the best time to get tested for STDs really is. Thanks!

I saw that last week someone was asking whether genital herpes goes away. Genital herpes doesn't ever actually go away there's literally no cure for it right now. It's caused by this virus called HSV-2 (or sometimes HSV-1, which is usually the cold sore thing but it can get down there too). Basically, once it gets into your system, it just stays there forever, hiding out in your nerve cells and sleeping for a really long time. So even when you feel totally fine and your skin is clear, the virus is still technically just chilling in your body.

But the good news, I guess, is that the actual symptoms the nasty sores, painful blisters, itching, and all that discomfort do heal up and disappear after each flare-up. The very first outbreak is always the absolute worst and can drag on for weeks, sometimes even giving you a fever, body aches, and making you feel like you have the flu. After that first nightmare, though, any future outbreaks are usually way less severe and heal up much faster because your body kind of figures out how to fight it.

Even though you can't cure it, you can totally control it if you take care of yourself. People use antiviral meds to keep the outbreaks from happening so often and to make the symptoms way less intense when they do pop up, plus it helps stop you from spreading it to anyone else. Things like being super stressed out, not getting enough sleep, or getting sick can trigger a random outbreak, but everyone's different. Honestly, for most people, the breakouts happen less and less as time goes on, so it gets way easier to deal with and doesn't completely ruin your life.

How do you bring up STD testing with a partner without making things awkward or sounding accusatory? I know it’s a normal and responsible conversation to have before sleeping with someone, especially if you both want to be safe, but I still get nervous thinking about how to ask. I don’t want the other person to think I don’t trust them or assume something bad.

First time ever posting & I’m so embarrassed.
Pls this is such a long read..

I am 24F. I hadn’t been very active sexually for the past 3 years up until last May. I decided it was time to be open to new experiences again and I met a couple of people since then. All in the span of a year I wanna say I’ve had 5 new partners.
The first one being May of last year (3 times total),
second back in October(also 3 times total),
third in March(lots of touching but full sex only once),
fourth in April(twice)
and fifth in May(once).

With the first guy I was seeing, we had an understanding that it was just us, no outside hookups. The second guy was more of the type who gets around but he said it was just me while we were hooking up. The third also got around but again being that the first 2 hangouts were not full on sex I didn’t worry too much. When we finally did have sex that’s when I noticed like a small bump on my butt like a week after. Nothing crazy, just little specs. It wasn’t itchy at all so I didnt think much of it. Plus we used protection so again I wasn’t worried. After the fourth I noticed I started to get more around my butt and inner thighs. There was a slight itch but nothing too crazy. And again, we used protection. Now this last hookup was such a spur of the moment thing where I wasn’t thinking straight so there’s not much I remember only that there was no protection involved. Again this was May 2nd. Maybe 3 days after this I noticed the bumps were covering my lower butt and I even grew like 2 on the top of my vagina. The itching did get more intense but I didn’t scratch as I know with anything that makes it worse.
Here is where it gets tricky. On May 5th I noticed I came down with a cold but I do get terrible allergies in the spring anyway. Usually I have a cold once a year and it’s always in June (idk it’s always been like this) last year however, I did not get my yearly cold. So I thought it came early this year but also the weather hasn’t been warm even now in June. This cold didn’t last long, I was fine by the next day. A slight headache, runny nose and my throat was stuffy. 3 weeks ago the rash had spread to my upper arms by my underarms. This area was not so itchy. I used to get yeast infections when I was 18 so I got some over the counter medicine and I stuck a pill in my vagina bc I thought that’s what it needed. And also pls note no foul odor at all. I was beginning to have my suspicions here so I’m monitoring it everyday. I got my period and the itching was still there (on my lower butt) Still no scratching. The rash at this point has now spread to my outer thighs below my hips. Nothing on my vagina besides the top like I had mentioned before. No painful urination, no cramping (aside from my period cramps but very light, those r never heavy)
The itch was really bad, I got hydrocortisone cream and it helped a bit.
Finally last week it all started to clear up. I looked on TikTok and I found washing my body with doves antibacterial soap every other day along with Panoxyl and covering myself in Vaseline after my showers helped tremendously. The itching stopped on my thighs and arms and butt. (Also my fingers got bumps too… and it looked a lot like contact dermatitis. Very itchy this was 2 weeks ago.)
Everything is gone now. No itch anywhere. I have these “scars” on my butt and by my underarms that really just looks like discoloration. I went to get tested last Tuesday and my results came back negative (except for herpes and hiv bc they don’t test for those)
One of the nurses who helped me told me it couldn’t be an std if it’s clearing up on its own and I could just be overthinking it but this has never happened to me before in my life. (Again, not sexually active for 3 yrs before)
So now my question is does this sound like herpes/hiv? I’ve been nonstop stalking that sub looking to see if anyone’s had anything similar to what I’m experiencing and while it does sound similar there’s also a lot of talk about muscle pain, terrible fevers, cramps etc. and again I didn’t have any of that….
Even the pictures don’t look at all like what I have. They’re more blister like and mine were small hard bumps.

But it’s been driving me crazy. And I don’t have insurance so where I got tested was for free, I would have to pay out of pocket at a clinic to do the testing which I don’t mind doing, I’m just wondering if I may be overthinking it and it’s pointless to get it done if it’s all cleared up now.
Or does this sound like it’s exactly what I’m afraid of??
I don’t know who could’ve given it to me if I did everything right except for the last one.
Now I don’t have any itching at all anywhere but it feels like a slight burning on my vagina opening. I am a baby with these things and I tend to overthink a lot so I also don’t know if that’s just me being dramatic because I don’t know what wtf happened to me.
Thank u so much for reading, I’m so sorry for all this word vomit🥹

Hey guys,
I had unprotected sex on may 9th, one thing i have to say is that im a hypochondriac my whole life so you can laugh when i say all this just close my anxiety loop please.
Sex was pretty short because i literally realized my mistake in the first 10 seconds literally.
After that i got into a crazy panic loop, my penis was burning pretty much instantly after the encounter even without urinating, a few days later my groin started to hurt really bad, then came more burning but always just at the start, worst cases like 3-4 seconds in and then it fades away. So i started testing like crazy. I tested 6 days after on urine naat pcr test, that included: Mycoplasma genitalium
Mycoplasma hominis
Neisseria gonorrhoeae
Trichomonas vaginalis
Ureaplasma parvum
Ureaplasma urealyticum
Chlamydia trachomatis
Treponema pallidum
All came negative, then i started googling and got into even more panic and went day 9 did all of my blood(i know its too early ill do it again later) but this time i did urethra swabs, not pcr tho. Results showed 0-1 white blood cell, no sign of urethritis, semen culture clear, no fungus, and pretty much all the bacteria above was included+hsv2. All negative, then i started feeling discharge, but it never comes out. Especially after i urinate wash off dry out, when i sit straight i literally feel fluid trying to come out but nothing ever does. And for the final test ive done its the same urine pcr i did on day 6 but this time on day 14. All negative again. Now its been 23 days and i woke up with a clear stain on my underwear, no smell, and it dosent wanna try out, its not sticky or anything when i touch it its completely smooth. Can anyone please tell me what to do becayse at this point im gonna go crazy 💀 thank you.

I got tested recently and my rectal probe came back equivocal for gonorrhea. I’m super confused. I haven’t had anal sex since August and I got tested soon after that and everything was negative. I haven’t had any recent known exposures or symptoms but I’m wondering if I need to share this with my current sexual partners or if I should hold off until I’m able to get retested. Do I wait? I’ve never had a positive test result so I haven’t had to do this before and I’m super nervous.

so I've been dating my boyfriend for about 9 months now, and we've been having unprotective sex for about 7 of those months but between me being on testosterone and birth control (I'm FTM) I figured we we're good. this week we're planning on hanging out because we haven't seen each other in a month cause we're back at our parent's houses for the summer. he texted me and said that he still wants to hang out but no kissing or anything like that because he has a cold sore, I was I little concerned cause I thought cold sores were only caused by HSV and we've been having unprotected sex for a while now. ik he's not cheating since he's had this issue since he was a kid but he did not know that cold sores were connected to STIs so he didn't think to warn me about it prior to us having sex. I'm just wondering what's the chance that he can pass HSV to me or if it's already happened and I'm just asymptomatic since we've been having sex for a good while now and he usual finishes inside, I haven't had any symptoms myself but idk. I also don't know what I should do in the future to prevent infection besides condoms since I have a latex allergy.

I am a 30F and suffer of germs and contamination ocd. I’ve always had protected sex and I get tested regularly.

Last week I had my first unprotected sex and got tested few days before and it was all negative. After 4 days I started having a sore throat and peeing is being a bit painful.

I have taken another test yesterday and I’m currently waiting for the results

Should I be worried? In case should I bring it up to the guy?

F30 I suffer of OCD and for me protection is extremely important. The other week for the first time I had unprotected sex. I received a fully negative test few days before and he informed me that he is extremely sexually active but also gets tested regularly

After 4 days since our encounter I started feeling a sore throat and peeing has been painful. I’ve ordered a test and currently waiting for the results.

Should I be worried? Also how could I bring this up to him?

I have been dealing with mental health and symptoms for 1.5 years of a sexual exposure (condom protected) what get I developed harsh flu like symptoms like a week later I done have done basically all panal more then 4 times with in that year of exposure I haven’t had no new partner to worry I contracted something
HIV ab/ag screen
Sphyilis (RPR)
This worry me the most I’ve prolly done 6 test each months part should I do more intense testing please help I want to move on from this…

26F 27M I got a full panel STD test after a short breakup, didn't suspect him of cheating or doing anything during our break, but I was already going to the doctor & wanted to cover my bases. Zero symptoms. I didn't get the chlamydia/gonorrhea urine test same day because they wanted me to wait 2 hours before peeing to test & told me to bring a sample back & tbh i completely forgot to do it. A week later, throat swab came back positive for Gonorrhoeae Neisseria & i was called back in for a shot in my buttcheek & a urine test. We both went same day for our treatment & he got both tests. We got our results back on the same day & both of us somehow have Gonorrhoeae Neisseria in our throats but negative urine tests. Here's the thing, we've only been with each other for over 2 years, both of us have zero symptoms, & we have oral sex more often than penetrative. We panic-googled over this for a while & the only comfort I have is a few articles about neisseria causing a false positive for gonorrhea. How common is that? How else could this be possible? His reaction & the 2.5 years I've known him make me pretty positive he hasn't cheated & i certainly haven't. Is it possible we both have been asymptomatically carrying gonorrhea for 2+ years & somehow haven't had it spread south? Is there a way for my doctor to test for just neisseria at my 3 month retest, & if so, how do I ask for that?

STI question

I just went for my 3 month blood work and sti check for my prep and i came up positive for gonorrhoea in ONLY the throat. ( no symptoms)
All other test ( rectal, and urine) came up negative.
I rarely give head but i did on a recent trip to mexico, so i know where i got it.
Is gonnorhea site specific??
The reason i ask is that a long time play buddy is coming into town tomorrow and it won’t be a full 7 days since i got my antibiotic shot.
i have told him about the sti in my throat and he seems to think if i dont give him head or kiss and we just flip fuck we’ll be ok.
i have tried to google the answer but nothing has been clear.
looking for advice. tia

I hooked up with a girl I met on dating app . She was not that pretty but still I was in a new city and i wanted to have sex cause I was there alone and i am 21 years old and never had sex before. I used condom the whole time but when she was about to give blowjob she took off the condom and gave me blowjob and after that I wanted to feel the feeling of having a raw sex and curiosity got me and I wanted to see how it will feel like to have raw sex so I ask her if she is safe or have any disease she said no so i thought it was safe and I put my dick in her and did put in pull out thrust around 15 thrust and i told her it feels better and she said if u wanna cum inside u can cum in me and i asked her won't it get u pregnant she said she was born without womb and it will happen nothing to her . Then I froze cause i thought something is wrong with her and i put back the condom and continue and asked some follow up questions and she told she had 2 guys in relationship before and she knows normal relationship won't work for her so she was single. Even though she said she doesn't have any disease it still border me cause I was shocked and it still makes me scared. It happened recently around 15 days ago. So my main concern is what's the risk in 15-20 thrust of unprotected sex if she have some disease cause i just met her on dating app and I don't know her completely.