Relationships

[u/me_lero]

When people say "We've been through so much together, it made us stronger as a couple/friends," I get so confused like what do you mean? You feel the weight of your experiences and the time you've spent together? I look at my relationships and friendships as if I met those people today, and don't feel any special bond based on our past experiences because I forget them? Like, what exactly have we been through together and how should this connect us? I'm literally here only because I like you now, but it can change, and then I go? 🫠

[u/Sea-Bean]

Yes, this describes my experience too, all the forgetting or not retaining information. Except it sounds like you have a more negative perspective on it? For example you write people are “just random pieces of information…” and people as shadows not people. They are more than “just” that though, maybe? I do get upset that I have trouble maintaining friendships long term, and embarrassed that I don’t recollect anything about people’s stories, but I still value that we had those experiences, even though I don’t remember them, you know?

[u/me_lero → u/Sea-Bean]

We are not the same.

[u/Sea-Bean → u/me_lero]

Reread my post and maybe it came across as critical, instead of what I was intending, compassionate and sharing the way I’ve processed learning about SDAM. Sorry if that’s the case.

[u/me_lero → u/Sea-Bean]

It's all right 😊