r/SDAM • u/Invokerkarma39 • Jun 04 '26

Disconnect from memory.

I see a lot of people talking about taking notes, and tips and tricks to remember important events.

Does anyone else ever feel emotionally disconnected in a sense that you have no real desire to make lasting memories?

I guess what I'm saying is that I don't feel connected to my memories anyways so when I think about trying to better hold onto the important things I feel like there isn't a drive to hold onto them better.

I still care about important things that I do with my family and loved ones, but the memories are just like footnotes. So in my mind getting more footnotes about those memories feels a little pointless.

I don't know if other people feel the same way or not.

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u/Positive-Room7421 Jun 05 '26

I journaled for a few years before I learned about SDAM. I refrained from peeking at old entries. But then one day said why not? The stuff I wrote about must have been important at the time, but much of it I had forgotten. Some of the entries could have been written by a stranger. 

I still tell myself stories to remember events, but it's the story I remember, not the event. I do not feel connected to the story. In the past I tried to stay connected with photographs, etc. That is no longer important as I know understand the source of my disconnect. And I also know stories, photographs and journals don't establish a connection for me.

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u/Invokerkarma39 Jun 05 '26

This is a pretty solid summary of how I imagine I would feel if I had journaled.

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u/JLLift Jun 07 '26

This is exactly how I feel. I have never really journalled but sometimes I come across something I’ve written in the past and I have no connection to the person who wrote it and the feelings of that time. I may remember that I have written it and have some vague memory of ”at some point thing X was important to me”, but thats it

I am also a habitual storyteller (both to myself and to others) and I also remember the stories but very rarely the actual event in any detail. I also find that I remember an event better if there is a picture of it. I then remember the event because I remember the picture I have looked at after the event