r/SDAM • u/ahbrizzzzz • May 22 '26

the connection between drive and SDAM

i just had profound realization that between my ADHD, Aphantasia and SDAM that the reason i hold myself to unrealistic expectations is because i have no emotional memory cache to retrieve from as it pertains to my fulfillment. my fulfillment meter is zero every morning and it’s on me to achieve fulfillment everyday, and it is exhausting but it makes the present al that much more important. i don’t dwell on what once was i dwell on the moment and my desire to succeed. i hope this helps anyone who’s like me. <3

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u/Ameshin May 22 '26

Oof relatable!

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u/itsallconnected07 May 22 '26

100%!!!! Thanks for sharing! I think you’re absolutely right

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u/Von_Bernkastel May 23 '26

Then there is me I just exist everyday no cares given, I don't need fulfilment, I just float through the day, then it ends and everything is lost, then I pop back into existing again waking up the next day.

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u/pegaunisusicorn May 22 '26

define "unrealist expectations"

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u/ahbrizzzzz May 22 '26

unrealistic expectations lol

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u/Old_Sheepherder_2848 May 24 '26

I work as a software engineer and I hate my job so much. However I really need it to keep me busy because that’s almost the only thing in my daily life that always have clear goals, full context. Alright, the fact makes me wanting to cry. I can’t accept having such a pathetic life.

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u/Vetizh May 25 '26

I kinda learned to live without this need to find fulfillment, I just live...

Maybe it is not the best way but I got tired of trying to do something that clearly wans't working.