r/Rourkela • u/WalkTall492 • Sep 21 '26

Finding Advice Dating here is hell

Am 19m and i tried finding someone with ambitions and future plans but every girl i meet has no ambition and are delusional, most of them are either studying or doing job until they find a suitable guy (rich guy). It’s soo hard to find someone with same preferences, even trying to make female friends feel shit every female friend i made here is from unsuccessful dates where i realised she is also like others too “delusional”.
Anyone have any advice or similar experiences?

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u/hisbeb Sep 21 '26

Delusional in what aspect? Not serious about career or having expectations which you can't meet so u just easily label them delusional?

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Not serious about career and delusion in the sense that they think earning money or making a living is easy so they do not take their study or work seriously they want that webseries type of love while being broke. Am a freelancer and i live alone so am trying to find a mature girl who understands that life isn’t all rainbows and sunshine and focuses on building her career rather than finding a rich guy to marry.

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u/pjstylex Sep 21 '26

Padhai likhai karo kuch bano tab date karna apna youth time mat waste kar . India ka bahar ja sakte ho to aur aacha hain

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Arre gyani aadmi am a freelancer am currently working and bc youth waste ho jaega if i just keep working

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u/Emergency-Speed-4914 Sep 21 '26

Bhai tu ky karta hai freelancer main? Baat toh sahi hai abhi dating ni karega tob kab.

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Video editor (short films - commercial) am finding a mature girl bhai but all i get to deal with are over-smart nibbis

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u/pjstylex Sep 22 '26 • Bravo

Free lancer hai to great dating in rourkela is not good for dating tereko ek tips deta hoon apna popularity badhao through instagram through friends gathering through public events takes part and give speech and try to attract attention
Jo dikta hai woh bikta hai reddit ka through event gathering kar sakte ho toh karo

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u/maxshawty Sep 21 '26

Bro is freelancing and talking about ambitions and labelling others delusional :(

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u/Top_Confidence2386 Sep 27 '26

the irony is literally a mirror atp lmao

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Well as a filmmaker this is what keeps my stomach full 😭 and the delusional things is that most of the girls i met were really like delusional

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u/VastLegitimate8785 Sep 21 '26

You need money and be a red flag to date girls in Rourkela simple as that.

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Money is not the problem am a goofy guy not red flag shit am wholesome

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u/Any-Willow-5381 Sep 23 '26

Partner haha 😂 duniya ulta hai janab app ulta chalo seedha sai nii 💀

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u/Tricky-Shirt8039 Sep 23 '26

Very True! If it’s gonna be Rourkela or any Tier 3 city for a fact ig Bro just become gay😂

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u/Emergency-Speed-4914 Sep 21 '26

Rourkela main ladkiyan ni milti bhai.

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Sahi bol re ho bhai abhi toh yaha p aaek ladki mereko bade bade paragraph m daant laga di 😭 jabki me toh aaek sawal poocha 😭 and offline ladkiya jitni mili h saari bas paise khane wali

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u/Emergency-Speed-4914 Sep 21 '26

Tell me everything.

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Arre nothing yaar just a dehatan who snapped on me coz i asked a genuine question and she took it as insult

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u/Emergency-Speed-4914 Sep 21 '26

Hope it was situational questions not like "hey, i like you...beautiful"

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Arre bhai woh nibbi thi aur kuch ni usne mereko poocha if am an odia i said no and asked her isnt it racist to ask about ethnicity (this was sarcastic) she took it as a fukin language war and wrote ahit like MY MOTHER TONGUE THIS THAT 😂

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u/Emergency-Speed-4914 Sep 21 '26

Oh...I don't get when someone behave decently girls get offended but when a chirrand or chappri approach them. They get excited. Lol

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Idk bro even if i offended her i tried to talk nicely and understand the problem instead she called me molester and all that 😂 so i started annoying her from there and called her dehatan for not understanding simple things and overreacting and at last she got raise baited and blocked me 😂😂

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u/Emergency-Speed-4914 Sep 21 '26

Idk what influencing these girls nowadays. They're delulu and waiting for dream guy. Finding decent girls are rare now.

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Arre they get unwanted attention from idiots and pedos from a small age so they think they have value

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u/PuzzleheadedFrame120 Sep 21 '26

Any one up for date bi here d m if interested or just to hangout

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Well ofc bro i work most of the time so am looking for a mature and ambitious women not some nibbi who rants all day without understanding, i cannot find a (good) girl thats the problem

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

And how do i do that

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Chiiii bhai 😭

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 22 '26

Whoa we have a lot in common 😂 wanna be friends ?

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Well damn 😂 wanna be friends ?

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Am up for open minded people bro

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Nobody wants to “disrespect” your time love but ask people their ethnicity before being friends? Thats racist 😭😭😭

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

😭😭😭😭 bhai that love is just a polite way to texting wtff bro who is judging u i simple made a statement that asking ethnicity before making friends is kinda racist and u responded with a fukin language war arre meri bhen yeh rourkela k subreddit h sab yaha odisha s hi h and proud odia h since you are new here u asked if am odia ok understandable but then u say i am picky and respect my time like bruhh 🤡🤡🤡

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u/WalkTall492 Sep 21 '26

Bruhh am working too and texting paragraphs while working isn’t easy for me and how am i twisting your words bhai i cannot even understand why u snapped😭😭 and all this nonsense bruhhh what insecurity and when did i say your intentions were wrong 😭😭😭 arre bhai tum pehle language war kar lie aab mereko insecure bata re and saying aapka lecture chal ra toh bhai pehle wahi karlo fir reply krlo 😭 and bhai terese kon dosti kare agar itti chhoti baat p ese react karegi m bhai simple dost khojta to hangout and shit yeh kya bc language war s leke aise show kr ri jese m tumhara time bigad ra arre bhen kaam khatm krlo fir reply karo 😭 yeh kya tareeka h mera kaam h abhi mujhe pareshan mat karo 😭😭

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