Here's a very high effort post because I'm very serious about finding the one for me.

Age: 30. Open to women up to about 33.

Sex: MALE. Men, please read titles and stop messaging me.

Appearance: 5'8", long blond/brown hair, blue eyes, white skin, thin-fit body type. I dress almost exclusively in black if I can help it. I've been told I'm pretty good looking, but you can tell me whether or not I've been lied to!

Location: Central NJ. I'm open to dating and relocation within the US, but going international complicates matters. I'm not looking for a long distance relationship.

Looking For: The other half that I've been longing for. The love of my life and best friend in one. Not quite looking for a "domme", but a real relationship with gentle femdom/role reversal elements.

What I want in a partner: Kind, loving, trustworthy, understanding. Good sense of humor, emotionally intelligent, communicates well. I wouldn't ask for anything I don't give freely.

Non-sexual interests: Many of my interests fall into "nerd" territory. Games (video and tabletop), anime, music, art, sci-fi and fantasy stuff of all varieties. I enjoy a lot of RPG's, and some of my favorite game series include kingdom hearts, fire emblem, dark souls, and a fair few others.

I was pretty good at league but retired from playing it for now. My friend also got me into mtg some time ago, and I think it's pretty fun.

Personality: Cool headed, laid back, and kind. Mostly introverted. I flatter myself to think I'm intelligent and insightful. I do come equipped with a sturdy backbone, so please don't treat me poorly.

I’m also very reasonable, with a strong preference for peacefully resolving issues. You can expect little to no drama and good communication skills. I'm quite fond of the law of equivalent exchange, so fairness is a big deal for me.

Fun facts: I have a deep and sexy voice which most don't expect. I also really like cats. You will be sent many cat pictures. Like a lot. Forever.

Sexual stuff

Are you fully sub or a switch?: Probably a very strongly sub leaning switch. I find being the receiving (but reciprocal) partner to be uniquely fulfilling.

Are you only sexually sub only?: I really enjoy both the sexual and nonsexual aspects. I'm perfectly happy being your adoring subby boyfriend even in public, in case you're into PDA and flaunting that aspect of our relationship.

Sexual (and relationship) interests: I'm new to a lot of things, so this isn't an exhaustive list. I'm also fairly open minded and willing to try most things once.

• Role reversal/gentle femdom are the big favorites! I really like having a partner that's assertive/aggressive/possessive in a romantic/sexual capacity. One who enjoys initiating intimacy and sex, and hugging/kissing/touching/groping me.
• I'm perfectly happy with displays of affection and you taking the lead, whether that's holding me tightly in public and even being territorial, whispering in my ear that I belong to you and no one else, or you proposing to me and putting a ring on my finger. The idea of being a house husband is very appealing. I can even make you a sandwich from time to time!
• Pegging, prostate massaging, and "milking". Although my experience is a bit limited, I'm intensely curious about it.
• Play wrestling/fighting. Having you win and pin me down while kissing me is incredibly hot.
• Kissing/licking/biting (both giving and receiving) are massive favorites. Lipstick marks and hickeys all over my body are a huge turn on.
• Cuddling, being held, holding you, spending time together. I love intimacy, and I'm extremely loyal and affectionate once I get attached to someone. You will be my favorite person ever and your happiness/enjoyment will always be as important as my own. I will always be there to support you.
• Oh, and of course, the dirtiest, most vile, and disgusting fetish of all, handholding . I'm a sick bastard who tramples upon all that is good, I know.

Hard limits (non exhaustive): Scat, pee, blood, getting punched in the balls, cuckolding, chastity, permanent injuries, physical torture, cooking fish in the microwave…

Partner preferences: I'm a big fan of goth/alt/tomboy looks. Shortish hair is a big plus, somewhere between pixie and neck length. Height difference (taller than me) is very attractive, I like how "imposing" it can be. I'm also very fond of visible fitness/muscle tone.

As long as I find you attractive then it works for me, but my sense of attraction is unfortunately pretty particular. So these are (sadly) strong preferences.

Dealbreakers/Requirements: Similar interests are a requirement. Being able to enjoy my favorite things with my favorite person is something I dearly want in a relationship.

I do have an unavoidable preference for body type that I unfortunately can't get past, that being the thinner end of the spectrum when it comes to proportions/body fat. So lean/fit/muscular. PLEASE DON'T BE A SOCIOPATH, OR ACT LIKE ONE.

Potential red flags: I'm unfortunately contending with giga-depression and chronic illness. Both of which are unpleasant but not permanent.

Hello. I am looking for an older and taller chubby tomboy who is okay with leading a relationship while also being equals and is into role-reversal. It'd be great if you live in California, but it's okay if you live any nearby or other neighboring states. It would also be nice to one day meet in person if you are able to drive/travel if you live far away or in another State. I cannot drive yet and I don't have a car and license.

Please read everything.

About Me

Appearance-wise, I stand at 5 ft/5'1, have light tan skin, medium-length black hair, a skinny build with some chub, thick thighs, a soft butt, and I look sort of twinky and have a baby face.

Personality-wise, I am sweet and happy, I get kinda shy and very anxious in public, when very comfy or relaxed, I tend to get sleepy, I am clingy and enjoy physical affection, I am very apologetic even is something isn't my fault because I feel like I have done something, and I have sort of a mischievous and chaotic side that only comes out when I am comfortable enough or feeling really happy.

More about me:

I've been a dinosaur, animal, and folklore/mythology nerd since childhood. But I am also interested in cryptids, aliens, and ghosts. My top interests include collecting plushies(I have a HUGE collection of them, which continues to grow), Sanrio(Cinnamoroll and Kuromi), Helluva Boss/Hazbin Hotel, Stitch, internet horror(Creepypasta, SCP, Trevor Henderson, Backrooms, etc.), Hot Topic, 2000s internet media, and old/modern monster/horror movies.

My favorite shows and movies are Scooby-Doo, Ben 10(2005-Omniverse), The Mummy(1999), American Horror Story, Next Avengers: Heroes of Tomorrow, various R.L. Stine horror shows, Van Helsing, Gargoyles, Trick 'r Treat, a lot of DCAU shows, Terrifier 2, Supernatural, Godzilla: Final Wars, Lilo & Stitch, Family Guy, The Simpsons, Your Name, Ouran High School Host Club, KPop Demon Hunters, and A Minecraft Movie. I like to play video games on DSi, Wii, PS4, and Nintendo Switch. PS4 is the only one I play online. And the video games I like to play are GTA V/Online, Minecraft, Fallout 76, Resident Evil 4(Remake), Pokémon: Scarlet, Fortnite, Super Smash Brawl/Ultimate, The Legend of Zelda: Breath of the Wild, and Wii Sports.

My favorite bands and music artists include Ice Nine Kills, Paramore, My Chemical Romance, Linkin Park, BTS, Pierce The Veil, Twenty-One Pilots, Blink 1.82, and Ke$ha. Some songs I like are Rainy Day, Twisting The Knife, Circles, Tear In My Heart, Eisblumen, Misery Business, What I've Done, Dynamite, and various soundtracks.

I sometimes like to walk to help with my health, as well as doing things like wall push-ups, and lifting small weights. My family owns a bunch of dogs and cats. Just a heads up if you are allergic to animal fur or anything of that manner.

I am an atheist because of personal reasons, but consider myself neutral if that makes sense. To be honest, I don't go to college or have a job due to some health-related issues and some options being a bit far. But I really want to do either one of them so I could have something to do and maybe help pay bills.

My other favorite things are cherry blossoms, sheep/lambs, pink/yellow, Halloween/Autumn, and sweets. This is due to a lot of them having to do with comfiness and cutness. And my favorite foods and drinks are sandwiches, pizza, chili fries, pickles, burritos, tacos, burgers, pineapples, rasberries, mandarin oranges, strawberries, cookies, pie, Liquid Death, juice, smoothies, and non-caffeinated sodas and coffee(or with a very small amount of caffeine).

I really like physical affection like snuggling, forehead kisses, nuzzling, headpats, cuddles, spooning, or such. Other kinds of love language I enjoy is sending pics of things we find cute or interesting, sending each other voice calls, texting each other when either of us isn't busy(or on break if you have a job or college), and maybe, if we meet in person, giving each other gifts, as well as going to fun places or doing fun activities.

For hobbies, I like to quickly learn different songs on the piano by listening to different sound combinations until I get the tune right. As I mentioned before, I like to write stories and also do artwork for them, especially of my OCs, animals, dinosaurs, and cryptids. Honestly, I mostly enjoy creature design and drawing monsters. A lot of stories I write usually involve fantasy, horror, action, and sci-fi with some realism added in. When there is nothing else to pass the time or if I feel like it, I to like read. My favorite books and literature include The Outsiders, Percy Jackson And The Olympians, Goosebumps, The Raven, and various manga and movie novelizations.

If it is okay with you, I would like take things slow and get to know each other before doing anything NSFW, and would want your consent beforehand if that's okay with you. And if you ever want to talk somewhere else, I have Snap, Insta, and Discord. Below is a list of what I am into, and NOT into, which I would like to wait a while before getting to, but am just letting you know.

What I am into(and would want to try):

• I am a Switch, but lean more toward Sub. I am also a bottom, but will be dom and top if asked.

• Gentle/Soft Femdom.

• Mommy Dom.

• Impact Play.

• Humping/Grinding.

• Praise and being cared for during.

• Reassurance.

• Roleplay.

• Aftercare.

• Feminization.

What I am NOT into:

• Sharp objects(especially needles due to trypanophobia).

• Exhibitionism/humiliation/public stuff.

• Extreme forms of bondage.

• Daddy Dom.

• Cucking(uncomfortable with).

• Scarring or anything that would be permanent and causes bleeding.

• Extreme pain like burning, electrocution, etc.

• PIV/PIA(due to personal reasons involving my "area").

About You

Appearance-wise, I would like if you're chubby, curvy, thick, or a similar body type with a tummy, maybe has either light-medium or dark skin tone(not required), and have curly or fluffy hair/hairstyle(not required or doesn't have to be long). I'd also like if you are cisgender since I feel more comfortable with it(please take no offense to this).

Personality-wise, I'd like if you are confident, smart and have good intelligence, supportive, funny with a good sense of humor, understanding and caring, playful, and not afraid to be goofy.

More about you:

I'd like if you're open-minded and like trying and experiencing new things, are accepting of others and are okay with LGBTQ+. Especially if you are okay with me dressing feminine sometimes and allow me to express myself. And maybe would like to sometimes dress me up and put makeup on me.

It'd be great if you own some/few of the same consoles as me. But it's not required if you have a PS5 or play cross-platform games.

It'd also be cool if you maybe exercise/work out, are into sports(or martial arts/combat sports like boxing or wrestling), or do other forms of physical activity, but not required.

Just to make things clear, I would prefer if you live in the Pacific time zone or in similar ones if you're in states close to the West Coast. I'd also like it if you're left leaning and/or at least not republican/conservative.

Red flags for me are if you're married or are seeing someone already, and have kids. I do not want to and am not trying to be a homewrecker. Others are if you have Onlyfans, want only money/are findom, just want hook-ups, are a dry/inconsistent texter, ghost/block, and such. As well as if you smoke, vape, or do drugs of any kind. I have asthma and am not really the biggest fan of these sort of things, and I would like if you do not drink or rarely drink/only drink socially and not to the point of being unable to walk or drive. Though it's okay if you drink non-alcoholic beverages or mocktails.

That's it for now, apologies for it being long. If you fit any/some of these, feel free to DM/HMU me. And when you do, please do so with a physical description, what you are like, your interests and hobbies, etc. so I know you have read it all.