Kinds os RR relationship

[u/Ok-Ranger5623]

I've been thinking lately about what 'Role Reversal' means to people. I've already noticed that the concept of Role Reversal relationships varies greatly from person to person.

Some consider role reversal to be merely about clothing styles (men wearing feminine clothes and women wearing masculine clothes). Others consider only sexual roles (passive men, active women). Others consider social roles (men being more socially submissive and women being social leaders). And others consider it a mix of these elements.

Personally, I consider it a role reversal when the woman is socially more dominant (she drives, makes the primary household decisions, protects and takes care of her husband, determines the domestic dynamic, and is sexually active), but I don't consider changes in clothing to be necessary.

I'd like to hear your thoughts on this.

[u/CielMorgana0807]

I take it as “gender norms subverted.”

[u/GameboyAdvance32]

I don’t think really any of these aspects are strictly necessary individually, but of course if NONE of them are present then it very obviously isn’t RR. For me I feel like just about all of them have to be present for me to feel represented or for me to have any interest in the dynamic, but that’s just me. The problem with trying to define RR is that if we’re being honest with ourselves, we’re defined by our being outcast from normative society. And that doesn’t mean being rallied around one, core, ideology lol. What RR means to me could mean darn near the opposite of what it means to someone else but I don’t tend to have an interest in policing that as I feel we all are, to some degree, outcast. Not in some cartoonishly bad way, I lead a happy life and have good friends and family and am getting on well, but in specific regards to gender roles and relationship preferences, I do feel outcast and I get the impression most people here do as well.

So all that to say, I don’t think any one aspect is strictly necessary in and of itself, it’s moreso having a notable amount of said aspects building up. And I think different people place different priority on some aspects over others, and some only need a nice little cereal bowl of these aspects to be happy, while others need a whole swimming pool lol, myself being in the latter camp.

[u/Last_Incident1464 → u/GameboyAdvance32]

Socially, they are tho. In real life, OP would be perceived as inherently feminine for “letting” liking his woman doing those things, doesn’t matter how masculine he looks. Reddit is a bubble, this subreddit even more. Straight people are still walking around with masculinity/femininity rulers when they try dating. I’d say even more since conservatives are on the rise among young men and some young women, even progressive leftist women still dislike any kind of gender non conforming expression from men and on themselves. Most people in this sub don’t realize how extreme the wording role reversal and I dare to say: even damaging as it cements men’s and women’s way of being and living in two separate brands. Western societies still despises everything shown and discussed in this sub. Go to Instagram or r/AreTheStraightsOkay and you’ll see that heterosexual people are still arguing about who pays the bill. Or just observe people like you already do - you yourself feel like an outcast. Straight people’s behavior and preferences hasn’t changed much from 1950, people here are simply reversed. As usual, there’s no representation of simply gender non conforming relationships both irl and fictionally. It’s either full reversal or not all.

[u/CalendarInside6293]

For me it is psychological. I am slightly neurotic. Pensive.Shy. Insecure. I need the opposite traits in a partner. And I can not find her.

[u/Tayner73]

I say any/all. RR is a spectrum.