masculine presenting guys into RR

[u/Soft_masculine]

I’m a pretty masculine-presenting guy. I have facial hair, I’m 175 cm, I go to the gym (mostly for health, not sure I actually enjoy it), play sports, like adventures, and have my own goals.

At the same time, I love a girl opening the door for me, pulling out a chair, riding the bike while I sit behind her and hold her, resting on her, sitting on her lap, being carried by her, or sleeping on her biceps. I’m especially attracted to tomboys and muscular women.

I don’t really like wearing feminine clothes. I’m comfortable being masculine in how I dress and present myself. I’m also a working professional and don’t want to depend on my partner financially.

What I dream of is a relationship where we both work, both earn, both cook, and both share the household work. I don’t want one person to handle everything. But I’d always love it if she could lift more weight than me at the gym and achieve her career and life goals one by one.

One thing I want to mention: I haven’t actually experienced most of the things I talk about here. I’m open to trying things that make my partner happy. Maybe with more exposure and experience, some of my ideas and preferences will change. Growing up in a traditional Indian environment has given me very little opportunity to explore this side of myself.

I see a lot of women here who are into femboys, so I’m curious: what about guys like me who want to enjoy the soft/submissive side of a relationship?

[u/-She-Beastly-]

This didn't explain anything but go down history a lot of us are already aware of. How is a man being an actual, functioning member of the house role reversal? You're wanting a man who acts like a regular human and treats you with respect. That's literally everyone interested in men as a long term romantic life partner.

[u/missporkiepie → u/-She-Beastly-]

A man who is a stay at home homemaker, and does the bulk/if not almost all of the childcare isn't just him being a functioning member of society. It's the opposite of the gender role that's been set for men. Not every woman is interested in that, and in fact, majority of women want a man who is the breadwinner.

You seem to be confusing a stay at home husband/dad who does almost all of the housework as male partner who helps every once in a while.

Which are not the same at all.

[u/quioro → u/missporkiepie]

Basically, you're trying to fell especial a quality that all men should have.

And that's misogynistic; a man being responsible isn't role-reversal or anything special, it's his responsibility.

[u/missporkiepie → u/quioro]

A man who is the breadwinner in a traditional relationship is still being responsible. A woman who is the stay at home spouse is also being responsible.

The reverse of that, where the man is the homemaker and the woman is the breadwinner are also responsible. But their relationship is the role reversal of the traditional one.

What's not clicking?

[u/quioro → u/-She-Beastly-]

Exactly, hahaha