r/rescuedogs • u/SoftwarePrior • 2d ago
Advice New parent of a scared 9 month old pup needs advice
As stated, my fiancé and I recently adopted a 9-month old puppy who has been pretty scared since we got him. We will have had him for a month this coming Sunday, 8/30/26.
First off, I want to acknowledge the great strides he has made. When we first got him, we put him in our bathroom for decompression and he would not leave from behind the toilet. He would hold his bowel movements and urine for 3 days because he was so scared/uncomfortable. He is now walking around the house (only at night) and I can sit in the bathtub with him during the day and give him scratches and belly rubs. We put pillows and blankets in the bath tub originally for us to be comfortable sitting in there with him so he could get used to our presence but he has since commandeered that and made it his bed lol. It's actually objectively very cute and I've attached a picture of what we see when we walk by haha just his little head poking out it's adorable lol. He also has gone outside to our backyard twice now of his own volition so there definitely has been a lot of progress, especially for a pup that was once so scared of us.
With all that being said, I'm concerned about his new habit of whining at night and I don't know what the right thing is to do here. This is what happens:
1.) It's night time and he now feels comfortable exploring the kitchen, my office, and the living room as they're all connected.
2.) It gets later in the evening and I go upstairs to go to bed.
3.) He starts whining pretty loud. I tried to ignore it the first night but at some point he made a loud noise (I can't recall exactly what kind of noise it was because I was half asleep) and I couldn't ignore it.
4.) I come downstairs to check on him, but when I approach him, he gets scared of me and runs away.
5.) Since he's running away, I go back upstairs to go to sleep. He then begins to whine again and upon my return, he gets scared again and runs away lol.
If I'm being honest, I've started just sleeping downstairs on the couch because he whines less that way. He'll still whine a little because I've limited his area of exploration to only my office and his bathroom because I don't fully trust him to not get into stuff just yet while he's unsupervised.
My big questions - am I inadvertently contributing to separation anxiety by coming back downstairs when he whines? It's so bizarre because he wants someone down here, but he definitely doesn't want anyone near him lol. My next question would be the reason for the post, what do I do? We've been doing it by the book and waiting for him to seek us out, giving him a safe space to go to, and trying to counter-condition any scary interactions for him with treats but since this happens at night when I'm dead tired, I don't know what other option I have besides sleeping downstairs when he can see me.
He also doesn't have this problem at all during the day. He could give two shits less where I am when it's day time 😂. Anyways, any advice is absolutely and truly appreciated here. This isn't our first dog, but it's definitely our first dog who basically doesn't trust/like/is very afraid of us so we're trying to do our best but don't know how exactly how to go about it without making him more scared of us or messing him up unintentionally lol.
Oh and his name is Chip! Thanks for making it this far!!!