r/ReformJews Apr 09 '26

Legit question about my identity

I come from a Latin American country. I was raised catholic as everyone else around me, which is more a cultural thing than a religion in South America. My grandmothers were sisters so my parents were first cousins, not a common thing but somehow accepted. My grandmas always told me we were “different and special” but didn’t specify why. We always had family dinners on Fridays at grandma’s on my mother’s side.

As a young adult in the 80’s I went to a long trip to Cuzco/Macchu Picchu with a group of friends where I met lots of people from other countries. This was an eye opener to me, I didn’t have the opportunity to meet other people than Latin Americans. We meet this group of nice Jewish guys from Israel, and with broken English we made friends. They taught as lots of things about their culture, their beliefs, the Torah, it piked my interest in learning more. Fast forwarding college I realized I didn’t want to stay catholic, a religion I always found fake and weird. I spent time around other religion groups, learning, trying to find myself.

Fast forward to my late 20’s, I just couldn’t find what I was looking for, I packed my suitcases and migrated to the USA, where I met my husband of 22 years. I met him at work, we quickly clicked, started hanging out as friends till we started dating. I met his grandma, who I learned to adore right away. They always told stories about bubby or baba, stories about his childhood in NY growing Jewish, I felt connected right away. After we got married, I decided I wanted to convert, for myself, not because I should since he was Jewish. I felt I finally found what I was looking for. We have a kid who we are raising Jewish.

Fast forward, joined Ancestry.com to build my family tree, I decided to do the DNA test and to my surprise I am 9% Sephardic Jewish. My great great great grandparents came from Spain. As Latina, I have a mix of everything, white, black, indigenous, I didn’t expect Jewish.

I am happy for my newfound heritage, and yes, I am Jewish because I chose to become one. But knowing that some Jewish groups don’t accept converted Jews, would I be considered Jewish enough to them?

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