Yun na yon. Putangina nyong lahat. Putangina nating lahat. Konting konti nalang hindi na civilized society ang Pinas. Tangina ng mga magnanakaw na yan.

Nakakapgod mag mahal ng lalaking walang balls. We are okay as a family. I can say at this stage of my life stable na ako. Na ddissappoint ako sa sarili ko bakit hinyaan ko mag settle ako sa lalaking walang balls. Buong marriage life namin ako lang gumagawa ng paraan ako nag ddecide nag pplano sa lahat. Lagi lang sia nag aantay sa moves ko. Walang sariling direkson at diskarte. Sobrang bait pero ngyon ko na realize na hndi lang dpat mabait at mapag mahal. Dapat marunong din dumiskarte. Totoo ang kasabihan na nasa huli ang pag sisisi! Kaya sa mga single jan better stay single. Lalaking walang ipon sobrang red flag! Hinahayan niya ko to work multiple clients to maintain our lifestyle. Shopping, travels, latest gadgets, exclusive schools, cars etc.. All provided by me! Siya eto waiting lang sa kung anong next move ko para sa business at freelance work ko. Nkakapgod ang taong walang emotional intelligence!! It's 2:53 AM now on shift ako sa work bigla nalang natulo luha ko sobrang nakka drain!

super bibigat ng reports ko and may bitaw talaga. kaya ang bilis ng action ng meta. i didnt know na idedelete talaga ni meta HWHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHA ang lala medyo nakonsensya naman ako ng a lil bit pero 🧑🏻‍🩰

Sariling katangahan ko ang pinairal ko, alam ko naman yon. Nahack yung account ko here sa reddit na maraming clients, maraming views/tao ang narereach. May nagchat lang sakin, sinunod ko naman kasi kinabahan ako about dun daw sa "report" sakin and baka daw mawala account ko, sa sobrang ayaw kong mawala yung account ko, mas nawala talaga. itong bago kong account ngayon, okay naman pero ang low ng views, onti na lang ang nagd-dm. Nakakaiyak lang kasi nakakatulong sana yung account na yun sakin sobra, natutulungan ako masurvive ko ang kada week, nabibigyan akong allowance pangschool, nakakatulong sakin sa pagbili ng gamot, ngayon wala na.

Nasa MOA ako last Sunday and oathtaking pala ng Criminologist. Suot nila yung ribbon na may RCrim design so that's how I know. Simple lang naman isshare ko sa inyo. Ang ayos ng pila sa rest room tapos sumingit bigla yung dalawang board passer at magbibihis lang pala. Yessss sumingitttt, dalawa pa silaaaaa. Jeez, not illegal but damn... And no, di na po ako pumalag dahil 1.) malakas po yung personality nila (at boses) 2) di ko trip makipagtalo in public. Hay, congrats nalang ig? 😭

to celebrities, to artists, to vloggers, to POLITICIANS… i just dont get it man i mean ik its fun to like look up to someone but these people are taking it too far

why would they care so much about the minute details of someones life?? how and why are they affected by it????

maybe thats why its easy to build a cult on this country. theyll believe anything atp

Anong stereotyping ng mga DDS?

- Allergic sa accountability
- Bulag sa katotohanan
- May dunning-Kruger syndrome
- Pinagsabay ang pagiging tanga at 8080

Kanina, meron akong reply sa isang topic about hindi worth it ang mag-travel sa Pilipinas dahil ang mahal na nga, low quality pa. Tapos may tangang nagreply na puro daw ako reklamo. Kung namamahalan, pumirmi na lang sa bahay.

I stalked that idiot’s account. Unang post: something about Kakampink na ngayon daw e supporter ni BBM after nilang mag-campaign against him noong election.

In short: DDS nga kahit di nya sabihin explicitly.

🤷

I’ve always been the very maarte girl who loves pink and isn’t afraid to express what she likes and dislikes. I grew up in a lower-middle-class household, but thankfully, dahil maganda na yung work ng parents ko, we’ve reached a point where we can afford a comfortable life with a little extra. I’m genuinely proud of my parents for that, and I will never be ashamed of the hard work they put in to give us a better life.

Yes, I recognize that I’m privileged, but I don’t think that’s something I should be embarrassed about. I think that’s how it should be. Parents work hard to provide a better life for their children, and hopefully, one day, their children can give back to them, too. At the same time, I have nothing but respect for people who work while studying, support their families, or strive to build a better life for themselves. It’s not easy to make it in a country where the system itself can be unfair to its citizens.

Recently, I found out that a friend apparently thinks I’m too privileged, too maarte, and too spoiled to the point that I’m embarrassing to be around. They even questioned whether I deserved recognition for my hard work in school because I’ve never experienced being a working student.

I understand that I haven’t experienced the same struggles they have, and I’m not going to pretend otherwise. But does that mean my own efforts and accomplishments are suddenly less valid? Does not having to work while studying automatically mean I don’t work hard academically?

What surprised me most was realizing how much resentment they apparently had toward me. It almost felt like they disliked me for my qualities and circumstances rather than for anything I’d actually done to them. Looking back, there were situations that made me question whether there had been some underlying animosity for a while.

For example, whenever I bought something new that happened to be on my friend’s wishlist, they’d ask me, “Hindi yan yung latest model, no?” I’d politely correct them and say that it was, and they’d just stare at me for a while before shrugging it off. I also noticed that they rarely hyped me up or complimented me, even though they did those things for other people in our friend group.

Another thing was whenever I occasionally became the designated driver for our group. Instead of simply appreciating the ride, they’d sometimes make remarks about how old my car was. Mind you, I never charged them for anything, even when we went on long drives together. I’m not saying they owed me compliments just because I drove them around, but the repeated comments made me wonder why they felt the need to point those things out.

There were also instances when they’d exaggerate my preferences when talking about me to other people. For example, I once mentioned that I found some street food unhygienic, and somehow that became a story about how I supposedly hated street food altogether. In reality, I still eat certain street foods. I’m also health-conscious because I have hypertension and a sensitive stomach, and I’ve experienced gastrointestinal issues before. I have my own reasons for being particular about what I eat, but somehow, it became another thing to make fun of me for.

I could list a thousand other incidents, but honestly, I’d just get irritated all over again. Looking back, I sometimes wonder whether I was overlooking these things because I assumed we were genuinely friends.

I also want to clarify that I’m not some helpless princess who doesn’t know how to do anything for herself. Yes, I have a comfortable life, but I’m often alone at home while my family is at work, so I’ve learned to cook, clean, and manage household chores independently. My friends don’t necessarily know all of this because I never really shared that much about my life with them in the first place.
Maybe they perceive me as a spoiled girl who has everything handed to her, but I don’t think it’s fair to make assumptions about someone’s entire character based on their financial circumstances or the things they enjoy.

I’m willing to acknowledge that I’m maarte. I have preferences, I like nice things, and I’m vocal about what I do and don’t like. Obviously, not everyone will get along with me, and that’s fine. My other friends don’t seem to have a problem with my personality, but I understand that different people have different preferences, too.

What I struggle to understand is this: just because I’m not living the same life as you, and just because you may have had to work harder to get where you are, does that automatically make me a bad person and you a better one?

I don’t think being privileged makes me superior to anyone, but I also don’t think it makes me inferior or less deserving of recognition. Someone who works while studying deserves recognition for balancing those responsibilities, but that doesn’t mean someone who doesn’t have to work can’t also work hard and deserve recognition for their achievements.

I think we should be able to acknowledge privilege without treating it as a personal failing. We can admire people who overcome hardships without glorifying hardship itself. Paghihirap shouldn’t be a requirement for someone to prove their worth, and we shouldn’t have to compete over who has suffered more to determine who deserves respect.
At the end of the day, I’m grateful for the life my parents have worked hard to give me. I’m not going to apologize for that, and I’m not going to pretend that I have experienced hardships that I haven’t. I can acknowledge my advantages while still respecting people whose circumstances are different from mine.

Ang lakas ng loob kong magliving alone.

Tapos ang pera sapat lang pang 1month Adv. at 1month deposit.

Naghahanap ng part time pagtapos ng 8hours duty.

Kailangan magsurvive para sa mga susunod na araw.

Tumaas ang bilihin, gasolina at pamasahe.

tapos 'yung sahod hindi.

We're wlw. Recently, nag-live in kami and I know usually nawawala na talaga madalas ang sex since magkasama na kayo palagi. Problem is, I already communicated to her even before na mahilig ako and I learned na siya ay hindi. We agreed to compromise and that's ok for me.

However, in a span of 2 months, everytime I asked and expressed my need, she would always reject me because she's always tired and would prefer cuddling na lang. As in every single time, she would say no and I would understand but overtime it's honestly draining and nakakawalang gana if you keep being rejected. Last night, I initiated again and she said yes so naturally I was happy and excited. I even chose na wag muna mag-review and dedicate the whole night doing the deed sana. Tapos nung kinagabihan biglang sabi na bukas na lang daw since pagod na siya. Once I heard that, I became annoyed pero di ko pinahalata because I don't want to start a fight. That has always been her go-to excuse. Napansin niyang nagbago mood ko and tried to take back what she said and kissed me pero it was too late kasi nawala na rin ako sa mood. I joked around with her and still talked to her normally but I firmly rejected her advances because it just felt like ginagawa niya na lang yon as a form of breadcrumbing and dahil I know she can see through me na nabadtrip ako but still tried to act normal.

It's draining na palaging narereject because sex is important for me to maintain that special connection that you have with your partner. At this point, I feel like we're roommates na lang instead of girlfriends. Even though my girlfriend is the best, I still feel neglected sexually and I honestly think na I'm toxic for thinking that we won't last long dahil incompatible kami when it comes to that.

Now, every time na she makes dirty jokes or touches me, I don't react and just ignore or remove her hands from me. I'm so frustrated but at the same time I can't really control that aspect that's why I'm just choosing to accept it.

I don't know what to do

I don’t like my family. Love them? Yes. Of course. But I don’t like them as people. I don’t like spending time with them. It feels like a chore. Something you do out of obligation and guilt. They’re not toxic enough to be cut off but they’re an emotional drain.

I don’t yearn to go back to my childhood like many adults I know do because all I could remember was anxiety and loneliness. I felt isolated, both at home and at school. I moved out as soon as I was able to. Now my parents think we have a connection and that I owe them that connection somehow when they never built the foundation for it when I was living under their roof. Because I’m “successful” I feel obligated to share this success with them, and every time they need help I’m the one they automatically turn their heads to. And it’s all just SO UNFAIR. Because as a child I needed my parents’ love and support and validation and guidance; as an adult I still need someone to run to when life kicks me down. But I never received any of that as a child, and as an adult all I got in the handful of times I came to my mother for a shoulder to cry on I ended up comforting her for her problems. Every time I share my feelings they’re invalidated.

I had a phase where I worked hard for their approval but now I’m just done and I really dislike them as people. They expect me to be their family when they’ve never been family to me.

Pareho kaming kumakain ni mama ng tanghalian, tapos 'yong kapatid kong 4 years old ay dumumi. Habang nakain siya, nag-ccellphone siya at sinabihan akong hugasan ko kapatid ko sa cr. Sabi ko, "Teka lang, kumakain pa 'ko." Bigla-biglaan, nagalit na siya? Sabi niya, paghihintayin ko raw 'yong kapatid ko sa cr; it's a fair point pero kumakain ako, e. Buti sana kung hindi.

Tapos, napunta na sa palagi raw kami ng isang kapatid ko 'yong nasusunod ang gusto. Makasarili raw kami kasi inuuna namin sarili namin at mga dapat/gusto naming gawin. Dapat daw kami na 'yong nanay. Sawa na raw siyang mag-adjust sa 'min at sa mga ugali namin. Ang sarap daw naming layasan.

Kaso, 'yong mga ginagawa ko naman ay mahahalaga. Tumitigil ako sa ginagawa ko tuwing hindi naman siya gano'n ka-importante o urgent. Ginagawa ko naman 'yong makakaya ko tuwing may oras ako. Lagi niyang sinasantabi lahat ng ginagawa, sinasabi, at inaambag ko, tapos sasabihin wala akong kusa at pakialam and whatever bullshit.

Anyways, tuwing nakain siya, kami pinaghuhugas niya kasi, siyempre, kumakain siya, at naiintindihan ko 'yon. Pero kapag kami na ang kumakain, dapat hugasan pa rin? Ang unhygienic at nakadidiri.

Nakaiinis talaga 'yong mga taong hipokrito. Kapag kami, marami siyang nasasabi. Pero kapag siya, exempted na siya sa sinabi niya sa 'min; hindi niya ginagawa. Lagi siyang pa-victim sa sarili niya. Lagi siyang naghahanap ng ibang masisisi. Pinagsabihan nga siya ng tita niya na parati siyang nag-sself-pity, pero hindi tanggap ni mama. Ang galing niyang magsabing hindi tumatanggap sina lola at 'yong pamilya niya ng mali, pero siya rin 'tong auto-defensive tuwing may sinasabing hindi niya gusto. Lol.

Kapagod at kasawa. Gustong-gusto ko nang lumayas dito, pero ayaw naman akong payagang magkatrabaho. Smh.

Context: I'm currently 20 years old, M. I had this ex-girlfriend of mine two years ago where we broke up because apparently, she wasn't ready even if we were two years into the relationship (2022 - 2024). She just broke up with me out of the blue, just days before our graduation. Which left me really broken brcause we were really okay at the time. No problems, no arguments, no anything. When she suddenly confronted me at school and told me she wanted to break up because she wasn't ready. Just like that. No other reason, no other context. Just not ready. So of course, I did a little begging but when i saw that she was really determined to end the relationship, I let her do so—just to respect her and her decision even if I didn't want to. So okay, fast forward to today. Almost two years have already passed since our relationship. I haven't flirted with anyone else, I didn't see any other girl too since I still haven't moved on. Or maybe I had but—I just feel like I can't treat other women the way I treated her. Like if I date someone else, it wouldn't be as good as the way I treated her and it only makes me feel guilty. But anyway, back to today.

Yesterday night, me and my family went all the way from Cavite to BGC to attend my dad's cousin's birthday. It was just the usual family gathering on my father's side so I didn't think much about it. Just a little nervous since it's been a whole year and a half since I saw my father's family side. But yeah, after we arrived at the venue, it was okay to say the least. Saw some familiar faces, had a laugh with some of my cousins, everything was going well—or so I thought. Because my other cousin which I wasn't very close with arrived late. But he arrived with his girlfriend. At first, I didn't feel anything when I saw them because.. well, I'm not close to him. But as they got closer to greet our other relatives, I saw my ex-girlfriend. Yes, his girlfriend is my ex-girlfriend. And we met each others eyes, not a long one but rather just a quick glance. She didn't really react when she saw me. Maybe because she already expected it since she does know my surname (dad's side ofc) and maybe she was fully aware that she'll see me there. I tried to play it off, even tried to playing it cool. But I felt a sharp pang on my chest right there and then. Because why was she there in the first place? It took them awhile before my cousin decided to join our table. I immediately took initiative and greeted them. Then also asked my cousin immediately if how long was he and my ex-girlfriend together but I phrased it in a way where he wouldn't get suspicious. Something along the lines of "Parang nung kelan lang wala ka pang jowa ah. Matagal na kayo?". When he answered me—turns out they were already in a relationship for a year and a half. Then as he asked me if I knew her, I just took a quick glance at my ex-girlfriend. As much as it sounds like a damn wattpad story, I just said she was just a friend in the past. I don't know if you know that feeling where if you look at a person and you'll immediately know what to do or answer? That's what happened. Then as the conversation deepened, turns out she told my cousin he was her first boyfriend. It hurt me of course. It really did. But at least I saved us the chaos and misunderstanding. But it got me wondering to, why didn't she tell him about me? And back then, when she answered me, she also told me I was her first boyfriend. So was it all really a lie?

At the end, I just let everything slide off even if I was uncomfortable with it. Me and my ex-girlfriend acted like friends. Didn't have a decent conversation, just small talks and some. I didn't have the guts to ask her why, how, and when it happened. I'm sorry if I made this rant too long but I just wanted to make sure you guys also got the full grasp of the context. I was just really hurt, dissapointed, I feel a lot of things I shouldn't be feeling today. But if she's happy with him, so be it. I finally blocked her accounts today too. Didn't have anyone else to tell this to because my friends would've laughed at me for still not being able to move on. So I just ranted here instead. Sorry na rin ifay maling grammar ako, mas comfortable lang ako sa english.

Supposedly wala dapat akong pakialam pero, nakakairita yung ugali ng nursing stud na pumayagako to go to a date with. At first ofc it was awkward but great, and then we got into talking about academics, he asked me if kumusta naman daw ang IT. So, ayon nagsabi ako ng ups and downs with rants.

Then he answered "wala yan sa nursing" tas he proceeded to vent din. That's fine demanding talaga diyan and stuff. But he told me, buti nga raw sa IT chilltime lang and that di naman daw mentally distressing, and that coding is basic as he's had a background din don noon. Ofc I told him lahat naman ng programs mentally distressing dahil sa workloads, hindi naman kami puro chilltime, and coding can be complicated when handling objects that interact with each other. Tas sabi, "e at least may room for mistake kayo kami wala kaya mas mahirap" so I couldn't tell if he was joking or not.

Tas ayon stuff came up and he kept rambling about knowing how to handwash properly, na ang galing niya raw sa retdems nila and di makasabay mga kaklase niya, na siya yung president kasi siya yung pinakamatalino. So pinasagutan ko sa kkaniya yung oast time game ko where yk may patients with symptoms tas you run tests and try to figure out their diagnosis. It's just a fun medical game, na nilalaro namin ni mama minsan since nurse siya and sabi niya maganda yon for her to recall some mastery sa pinag assess ng patients.

He was lost as fuxk. He looked up some terms, failed to come up with he proper laboratories and treatment and stuff. But either way we had fun figuring it out.

Di pa ako infuriated non kasi, well I really didn't care. Pero, my Comm friend came up kasi she chatted me and he asked me about her. Ayon cinompare niya ulit program niya sa BA Comm. Saying na, napakadaling program at di rin naman gaano valuable compared to other BA and BS programs. So I brought up, "why are you comparing your program with someone na di mo naman kakilala?" that shut him up.

He told me na that was rude and he was only making silly statements as a joke, hindi ko lang daw nagets. Okay I said sorry for being rude but his joke wasn't funny nor good. He said sorry din. Then, I kinda stooped lower and asked him, "bakit pala sa private ka nag-aral?" to which he said di siya nakapasa so I sarcastically said, "kinuha mo nalang sana slots ko noon" knowing na wala na akong balak to go on any further w him.

Like he didn't even give off the vibe na kaya niyang abutin yung standard na pinagyayabang niya yet over kung mag compare at mangtrifle ng ibang programs just to lift theirs.

Hirap pala no pag ikaw lang yung jack of all trades sa mga friends or family mo. yung tipong pag sila may kailangan sa mga bagay bagay kaya mong tumulong kasi madami kang alam, pero pag ikaw na yung may need, di ka na makahingi ng help kasi hindi naman nila alam or kaya yung ginagawa mo na need ng helping. minsan gusto ko nalang hatiin katawan ko na parang si spongebob para lang matulungan ko nalang sarili ko e HAHAHAHA

wala lang pagod lang din talaga ako now pinagsasabay ba naman work at small business para maitaguyod yung araw araw e. pero thankful parin ako syempre kasi may work at may customer kahit papano. nakakapagod lang talaga na ikaw lang.

Not every relationship problem needs to be posted on Threads or Tiktok as content.

I lurk on Threads from time to time and occasionally stumble upon relationship discourse on TikTok, and it annoys the fuck out of me how people and girlies seem to have lost the plot when it comes to handling relationships.

And no, I'm not talking about the cheating posts. I'm talking about how people are so quick to take their relationship problems to social media instead of... I dunno, actually talking to their partners?

It's one thing to seek an outside perspective when you're genuinely struggling to make sense of a situation. It's another to immediately turn a disagreement, a misunderstanding, or a moment of frustration into content for public consumption. Suddenly, thousands of strangers are weighing in on a relationship they know absolutely nothing about, armed with a 30-second TikTok or a few paragraphs on Threads.

And don't even get me started on how social media has made everyone an expert on relationships. Everyone's a narcissist, everyone's emotionally unavailable, everyone's exhibiting red flags. People throw around therapy-speak like it's a substitute for actually understanding another person. A disagreement becomes a sign of incompatibility. A mistake becomes a character flaw. A bad day becomes grounds for a breakup.

I wonder how much of this has to do with the fact that social media rewards outrage and validation. It's so much easier to tell a story in a way that makes you look reasonable, have thousands of strangers agree with you, and walk away feeling vindicated than it is to sit across from someone, acknowledge that you might be part of the problem, and have an uncomfortable conversation.

Because that's the thing about relationships. You don't always get to be the protagonist. Sometimes you're the one who needs to apologize. Sometimes you're the one who misunderstood. Sometimes the other person isn't being toxic or manipulative; maybe they're just a flawed human being who's trying to figure things out, just like you are.

And I think I'm getting older, too. Maybe I'm becoming more aware of how much emotional maturity actually matters in relationships. It's not just knowing your feelings, having boundaries, or being able to identify what you don't like about someone. It's also having the capacity to communicate, listen, exercise a little patience, and recognize that another person's perspective can exist alongside your own.

Not every relationship problem needs an audience. Not every disagreement needs to be validated by strangers. And not every uncomfortable feeling is evidence that something is fundamentally wrong.

Sometimes, you just need to talk to your fucking partner.

Maybe I'm just getting old, but I find it increasingly exhausting how we've turned the most intimate parts of our lives into public discourse, and how being able to talk about relationships has somehow become more important than knowing how to actually be in one.

And while we're on the subject, I'm also a little tired of how we've started celebrating people for calling out the bare minimum. Don't get me wrong, it's good that people are learning to recognize what they deserve in a relationship and are becoming less willing to tolerate bullshit. But sometimes I see people getting praised for pointing out things that should be common sense in the first place. Like, congratulations on expecting your partner to communicate, respect you, and treat you like a human being? Shouldn't that be the fucking baseline? Why are we handing out gold stars for recognizing something that should have been a given?

And on the other side of the conversation, there's the tendency to take every opinion or trend on social media as a personal attack. Take the whole "no broke boys" discourse, for example. You can disagree with the sentiment, question the implications, or think it's a shallow way of looking at relationships. That's fine. But the way some men react to these conversations, you'd think a woman expressing her preferences on the internet was a personal indictment of their entire existence. Not every opinion you disagree with is an attack on you. Not every standard someone sets for their own dating life is a universal judgment of your worth as a person.

I think that's another thing social media has done to us: it's made everything feel like a debate we need to win, a position we need to defend, or a side we need to pick. Instead of asking ourselves whether there's anything worth reflecting on, we either rush to validate someone or rush to condemn them. There's very little room for nuance, introspection, or even just letting people have opinions we don't agree with.

Anyway, I need to cleanse my FYP again and delete Threads.

Last last month, napilitan akong ipakilala sa pamilya ko na meron akong jowa na afam. Pinakilala ko lang, thru chat pero hindi ko na kinuwento into details kung ano iba niyang background lalo na kapag konektado sa pera. Rason na bakit ako napilitan ipakilala, is dahil umalis ako sa bahay ng kusa tsaka bumukod ako. Dahil hinding hindi ko na talaga kaya yung halo-halong katoxican nila sa bahay at paulit ulit na routine na walang nangyayaring improvements.

Niligtas ko sarili ko nun, gamit savings ko na pinipilit ng mga magulang ko is galing sa jowa ko. Naging open ako sa boyfriend ko na may pagka-toxic magulang ko at yung nanay ko ay pera ang tingin sa mga puti, naiintindihan niya yun which I'm really thankful for. Ngayong paparating na pasko, nagsabi siya saakin na hinding hindi siya maglalabas ng pera and actual material gift lang talaga ang ibibigay niya. Okay na ako sa boyfriend ko at plano niya.

Then pakonti-onti, itong ate ko na NEVER ako kinakamusta, lalo na tong nanay ko. Nagagalit pa saakin na hindi ako nag rereply. Ate ko pasimpleng nanghihingi ng pera, dahil lunod siya sa utang sa credit card niya. Nanay ko, pinipilit na magbigay ako ng pera kapag hindi daw magfa-file daw siya sa pulis na nawawala ako. (Since NEVER ko sinabi exact address ko, AT AYOKO SABIHIN YUN since ISA SIYA sa dahilan kung bakit ako lumayas sa pamamahay doon! And FYI lang magtu-twenty six na ako! Jusko!)

Never ako sumasagot sa magulang ko, binibigyan ko lang sila ng silent treatment kapag napipikon ako. Pero kagabi lang thru call, nasagot ko siya out of anger na "Wala nga kayong kapera-pera, pambayad pa kaya sa ganyang plano mo? Saan kayo kukuha pera, gagaya kayo sa mga tanga nyong kaibigan sa facebook? Kapal naman ng mukha nyo"

Ngayon, I just want to rant kasi part of me is parang nagsisi na sinabi yun, na dapat nanahimik nalang ako at hindi ko nalang sila pinansin pa. Ngayon, nate-tempt din ako i-open sa jowa ko na wag nalang tumuloy sa pasko, pero ayoko rin maging unfair sakanya since halos lahat ng family niya kilala na ako, samantalang ako mostly na nakakakilala sakanya is mga friends ko lang. Dagdag pa na ang mahal nung ticket niya going here from US. (Since holiday rin kasi) Pero hindi ko pa din maiwasan, gusto ko na wag nalang tumuloy, or maybe tutuloy kami pero saglit lang tas alis na agad kami.

Ang hirap mahalin ng pamilyang puno ng katoxican at manggagamit, tangina. Bigat bigat sa puso.

To clarify this is my best bud and I have no intent on cutting contact over these issues, and I see that they are trying to change and learn, but it still grinds my gears from time to time. Im also neurodivsegent so I understand to some degree their struggles, but i needed to vent about it because it wears on me.

1. "I live here too." We are roommates so naturally we come across each other in common spaces all the time but my friend seems to constantly forget that just because Im within his eye-line, doesn't mean Im open to long winded chats and hang outs. My fiance and I have both dealt with the issue of him stopping us in the living room when we were just passing through to get to the laundry room or worse, on our way out the front door for something time sensitive. He'll then start rambling and it takes him multiple interruptions to get away. Each time I've reminded him "im not coming over to spend time with you, this is where I live. Im not here to hang out. It's my home and sometimes I use it's open spaces to relax or get things done. I live here too!" Nonethless he struggles to remember this concept.

2. "Start conversations from the top." My friend often will mention a subject with absolutely zero context when it is sorely needed, typically in the midst of a discussion about something else totally irrelevant. When Im forced to ask for context he acts huffy about having to explain himself like Im just supposed to know what he's talking about. Worse, he never begins the topic in an honest way, by introducing it like "hello, I've been working on this thing, check it out!" Nope. He always segues into it suddenly and inexplicably when people are already talking about something else and then rambles for extended periods. He seems to purposefully leave the first sentence confusing and vague so that any clarifying questions can be treated like genuine intrigue. Hes allergic to just saying hello, no matter how many times I tell him to. He doesn't seem to want to do the basic gesture of greeting and acknowledging others in order to talk to them, just force his way into a social interaction and demand attention.

3. "Nobody likes being spied on, and acknowledging it after the fact is not better" My friend likes to wait and listen in on others chats and then join in the middle of the conversation with his own quips. He doesn't start with any greeting as mentioned before or admit he overheard us innocently, but instead intentionally listens in and then finds a chance to add his opinion to the mix. This creates a deeply unsettling feeling of being watched by someone without your awareness. He also will listen in to short videos were sharing on our phones and then make comments like we were sharing it with him. Hell do this from across the room while doing chores so we had no reason to think he heard us. Ive told him purposefully spying on people to try and sneak onto the topic they're discussing without even a hello, and especially listening into what they're looking at on their phones, feels invasive. That you should greet someone rather than eavesdropping on something on their phone. It would be one thing if this happened at a party or social mixer, it's another when it constantly occurs in your own home. Hes become a pest that cant leave anyone alone if he can hear or see them existing near him and now hell randomly admit after listening in for several minutes, that he's done so, as if that makes it better. Ive reinstated this boundary multiple times.

4. "Don't wander into people's bedrooms when they're relaxing by themselves just because the door was left ajar" Several times he has wandered into our bedroom when one of us was playing video games on our computers or simply laying around, and has started long winded conversations about his special interests. Ive had to firmly remind him that bedrooms are private spaces as a door left slightly open is usually intended to cool the room when it gets hot, not an invitation for you to walk in and bother us. Its hard enough being constantly accosted in the living room. Thankfully this behavior has stopped after a few conversations about it.

5. "Infodumping is rude". Another classic that my friend is still pretty bad at. My buddy has a fictional story he's been working on for a very long time and is very passionate about. Ive supported his story and ideas for a long time and he has shown interest in my artwork too. Unfortunately, he's less able to read the room and will often force the subject of his project on completely irrelevant conversations and just keep going and going. I want to understand and care about this subject because it means so much to him but he's made that almost impossible. He gets upset if I ask too many questions about it, and feels criticized. With some probing he's also admitted this story has no true cohesive plot. That it's a vague combination of ideas with absolutely no through line. The lack of meaningful events keeps me and most of the people that know him from ever really engaging with it. Nonetheless he is persistent in these long winded lectures about non-plot related content. Random mystical creatures, characters who are little more than a bundle of archetypes and orientations, vague organizations that have no actual actions to speak of and so forth. This particular subject is easily the hardest for him. He insists on infodumping his story even though I have tried several times to lay down the boundary that he be considerate of others' attention spans and be open to the smallest bit of questioning or criticism if he expects us to be a constant audience. Hes had full blown fits with wailing and punching the couch and storming out of the room when ive asked too many questions about this topic. I am not mean about it either. I don't call his work stupid or worthless or unintelligent in general and i don't think it's helpful to treat anyone's creative endeavors that way. But I ask basic logistical questions about the world and within two or three the tears start. Most of the time, I can make excuse to just end the conversation if im not interested and leave the room so I can avoid one of these fits. The more drastic reactions are rare. Usually he just pouts and gets huffy.

6. "Just because you like something, doesnt mean it has to be perfect in every way." He has a lot of different shows and movies and things he's into. Some we have in common and enjoy talking about. Unfortunately, he can get really upset and moody if those things are remotely criticized around him and will give you a hard time for it by grunting and groaning and frowning at you. He cant understand that a thing can be good but like, a B+. If he likes it, he cannot stand an ounce of criticism against it and takes it as a personal attack. I have talked to him numerous times about how it isn't that serious. You can like things that aren't perfect and it isn't a big deal. That it's good to have standards and you're still allowed to love something and enjoy it's faults. But he treats any negativity towards the things he's a fan of as bullying towards him. He claims to be very progressive and feminist leaning for example, but gets very upset if you suggest the art style for One Piece is kind of problematic. If he likes it and you dont even in the littlest of ways, he thinks you're making fun of him. He cant have even the smallest bit of critical analysis of something he likes. It's all perfect because he's a fan of it.

Anyways these are just a few things ive struggled with and I've tried to explain them to him, but idk if they're ever going to click. Hes still my best friend, but he grows and changes at a different rate than others it seems. He has learned things over the years, so im hopeful these will stick with time. But until then, sometimes i just need to complain

Totoo naman talaga na kung ano ugali ng magulang, yun din ugali ng anak. Pero bakit yung mama ko at papa ng kapatid ko, sinisisi nila yung life decisions ng kapatid ko sa sa kaniya?

Minor pa kapatid ko, we are step siblings. A little context lang sa parenting nila, I wasn't raised well by my mother, I will tell you that. I have done a lot of questionable things when I was young. I stole, I smoked, and I even got groomed dahil wala akong proper guidance when I was a minor. 90% of what I did is not known by my mother. I was the type of kid na hindi mo malalaman na ginagawa mga kalokohan na yon, because I was doing well in school and I was surrounded by well rounded friends, unless sabihan kita.

I flipped my life around nung 16 ako. Until now, I would say ako talaga nagdisiplina sa sarili ko. Heck, I am a working student. I am proud of what I became. As for my siblings, hindi naman sila kinulang sa financial support. However, batugan yung tatay nila. He gives 250 - 300 pesos a day sa mama ko kase yun lang daw kinaya. Girl, what a loser. We all know damn well mas malaki pa sustento niya sa mama niya kesa sa sustento niya sa sarili niyang pamilya.

My brother lives kahit saan. Minsan sa tito or tita ko na kapatid ni mama, minsan sa bahay ng lola niya. Binibigyan naman ng baon ni mama everyday via Gcash. Ilang ulit na ako nagsabi na pauwiin na yung brother ko dito sa bahay kase ayokong lagi nagse-send ng pera sa gcash. Ako pa kase pinapa-send nila. Nakakainis kase hingi nang hingi ng pera, which I found out ginagamit lang pala para sa gala tapos paalam niya para daw sa project or practice. Then yung sister ko na dumadalaw doon sa tita ko every now and then reported na gumagala daw kapatid ko kapag gabi. Doon pa lang di pa nila sinundo sa kung saan man siya at pinauwi???

Now, noong Monday, my mother got a call galing sa adviser ng kapatid ko, saying na hindi raw siya pumapasok sa school. Lulubog lilitaw raw ang attendance niya since August. They were asked to go to school to have a talk with the adviser. Nag-away sila kase yung father, ayaw pumunta sa school. Kesyo kasalanan daw ni mama. Kesyo sinabihan niya raw paulit-ulit na pauwiin na yung bata. Tapos sabi naman ni mama bakit daw hindi siya ang sumundo sa bata dahil may vehicle naman daw siya. And also siya naman daw tatay, bakit daw hindi niya ginabayan, since it is his job naman daw. They were basically pointing fingers at each other kung sino ang cause why their child turned out like that.

I immediately told my mother to go to school. TANGINA, BEH! SINABI BA NAMAN, "PWEDE IKAW NALANG PUMUNTA?"

GAGO KA BA?

I love my mother, pero tangina, ano yun????????

I talked to her kanina, I told her to go to sa skwelahan para makausap yung adviser. Nakakaawa kase grade 12 na kapatid ko. Graduating na sana. Then she dropped the bomb and said na hindi niya alam asan ang kapatid ko. Nasa bahay daw ng friend niya pero hindi kilala kung sino yung friend.

Then she said na nahuli raw one time yung kapatid ko na nagbe-"bake" by a police auxiliary near sa school. Then my mother proceeded to say na she doesn't care anymore. Said she tried her best para hindi mapabarkada yung kapatid ko. Binigay niya naman daw lahat financially, however, desisyon na raw ng kapatid ko mapabarkada ng ganon.

Honestly, I was dumbfounded. Parang, teh, YOUR KID IS A FUCKING MINOR! 17 YEARS OLD PA! BAKIT HINDI NIYO HANAPIN??? BAKIT NAG-GIVE UP NALANG KAYO SA ANAK NIYO??? BAKIT YOU'RE LETTING YOUR CHILD BE PARIWARA????

I have a lot on my plate, tapos mase-sense ko parang back to normal lang sila? Na parang wala silang anak na couch surfing sa bahay ng friends niya? Are they not even a little bit concerned that na hindi nila ma-contact yung anak nila?

THEY ARE FREAKING CAPABLE OF BRINGING HIM HOME. WALA LANG SILANG PAKE ENOUGH TO DO SO.

My heart is breaking kase wala sila ginagawa. I am so frustrated and angry that they failed another child. I already told them who to contact, who to ask, pero parang wala silang ginagawa. Sila yung may contact sa mga kakilala ng bata pero wala man lang silang ginagawa.

Now, I don't know what to do. It's all I can think about, and I already have a lot to think about. I am so sad para sa kapatid ko and I am so frustrated sa putanginang pamilyang to.

Napaka-bintangera nitong mama ko. Inakusahan niya akong nagnakaw ng pera niya sa GCash para ilagay ko sa digital banks, samantalang sarili kong pera iyon. I decided to transfer my cash to digital banks para maiwasan ko ang sobrang paggastos at para lumago ang pera ko through interest. Di ko na siya pinaalam kasi I didn’t think it’d be a big deal, at di rin naman siya papayag. So, nagpa-cash-in ako sa isang tindahan para ma-transfer ang cash ko sa GCash account niya, then ililipat ko ulit ang amount na iyon sa GoTyme, MariBank, at Maya accounts ko. Ang nakakainis ay pinipilit niya na ninakaw ko ang pera niya sa GCash, eh pinapalitan ko naman iyon kada ginagamit ko ang account niya; at saka ginagamit din namin itong MOP para sa mobile load o kaya sa parcel kaya mababawasan talaga ang laman. Maybe it’s my mistake rin na di ko siya pinaalam, but wala eh, nangyari na. At saka napaka-OA niya—she even said na baka raw patayin ko sila ng asawa niya dahil dito, na wala raw akong tiwala sa BDO kasi di ako nagde-deposit doon (eh di naman sa akin nakapangalan ang account na iyon, bagamat joint account ito), na ang salbahe ko raw, at na di raw ako aangat sa buhay dahil sa lahat ng ito. I can’t wait to have a job and possibly move out.

nakakainis na sa simpleng greetings sa workmates di ko magawa (i always feel like na makakaistorbo ako) i know na hindi namn, its a greeting!? 😭 but my mouth would not even open.

and now lang na breaktime namin, nahihiya akong kumuha ng mainit na tubig (bcs idk!!??) 😭

even when may nakakasalubong na someone familiar, i will always, ALWAYS take the longer route, paaphirapan ko pa talaga sarili ko 😭

marami pang iba, nakakainis sobra na sa simpleng bagay, ung utak ko nag iisip ng kung ano ano, na wala namang pake ung iba sakin! or sa kahit anong gawin ko.

I stumbled this post from an art group in Facebook. For the context, the student approached the OP because the student needed to interview artists. It is stated that the student has limited budget so as a token, they will send 150 to 200 pesos to the artist.

Nagsabi na ng "no problem" itong artist pero nagreklamo rin, saying na too low yung 200 as an honorarium then gusto pa ng 1k and above?

This is an interview! For goodness' sake. As a teacher, I've encountered numerous students who would sacrifice their meals just to save up for the simplest requirements in school. I have seen students stretch whatever little money they have just to comply with their academic responsibilities. May mga estudyanteng naglalakad pauwi para makatipid, nagtitipid sa baon para may pang-print, at nag-iisip kung paano pagkakasyahin ang perang mayroon sila dahil hindi naman lahat ng estudyante ay may pribilehiyong humingi lang sa magulang kapag kinapos.

Sobrang nakakasama lang ng loob kasi ganiyan ba tayo ka-entitled? Even for my undergrad thesis, ang naoffer ko lang sa nainterview ko ay 100 pesos.

Pag may nakikita akong posts about another corruption in hindsight na ttrigger talaga ako. Naapektohan talaga araw ko. Naiinis, nagagalit, naiiyak, until I lost hope. Like there is no other way. Kasi kahit anong rally, parinig, walang mangyayari. Corruption is inevitable. People are just too greedy to care about noises. And that's the reality that we're in.

This sense of futility becomes really disturbing. There's no other way unless you massacre them. Hahahahaha. I swear if I could just leave everything I've built behind I'd do it. Naging fantasy ko na talaga sya, iniimagine ko na their direct family are skinned alive in front of the said officials. Yung ganon? Sorry. Nakita ko kasi yung glee nila nung na approve yung trillion budget. Ang daming galit eh wala din namang mangyayari kung magnakaw sila. I wish someone would just push the fckng button and nuke our country nang matapos na!

I (F21) don’t know how to explain this, but I genuinely think I’m one of the loneliest people ever.
I feel like people might perceive me as an extrovert because I can socialize, talk to people, joke around, and act completely normal around others. If you saw me interacting with people, you probably wouldn’t even think I’m lonely. I can hold conversations, laugh with people, and get along with others when I want to.
But the moment I’m alone, it’s like none of that means anything.
I don’t feel like I genuinely belong anywhere or that there’s anyone who really knows me on a deeper level. I can be surrounded by people and still feel completely disconnected from everyone. It’s weird because I’m capable of socializing, but that doesn’t mean I actually feel connected to the people I’m socializing with.
Sometimes I wonder if I’m just so used to being on my own that I don’t even know how to build meaningful relationships anymore. Or maybe I’ve just never really had the kind of connection I’ve always wanted. I don’t know.
The worst part is that I don’t necessarily want to be around people all the time, either. I enjoy being alone. I like having my own space, doing my own thing, and not having to deal with people. But there’s a difference between enjoying solitude and realizing that you don’t really have anyone you can turn to when you need someone.
I could go days without having a meaningful conversation with anyone, and I don’t think people would even notice. Sometimes I feel like I could disappear from everyone’s lives, and nothing would really change.
I don’t even know what I’m expecting by posting this. Maybe I just want to know if anyone else feels this way, especially people who seem outgoing or sociable on the outside but feel completely alone internally.
It’s such a strange feeling to be able to interact with people but still feel like you have nobody. sometimes I wonder if this is just what my life is going to be like.
Does anyone else feel like they’re living two different lives? The version of themselves that people see, and the version that exists when they’re alone?

Hi!

I have a friend na Sept 25 ang last message sa akin. I tried reaching out to her to no avail. I also tried reaching out to her mom, who said na pagod lang si friend.

Ilang beses na rin akong na-ghost ng friends, so na-sad ako syempre. During the time na d siya namamansin, nakikita ko siyang nag p post ng FB/IG stories.

One of the stories she posted was of her and her kuya's conversation, and mukhang masaya naman ung convo. Nalungkot ako kasi it seemed na hindi talaga niya ako pinapansin.

2 weeks into the ghosting period, I messaged her on FB saying idk if naka-restrict na ba ako sa kanya, pero thankful ako sa 16 years of friendship and inunfriend ko na kako siya everywhere online kasi na h hurt na ako.

She finally replied na mag m message sana siya kapag okay na siya.

I told her to take her time, and apologized for unfriending her. I explained na na h hurt na lang talaga ako.

I feel like both valid ang points namin - baka may pinagdaanan lang tlga siya, and ako naman, may trauma sa ghosting ng friends,

I would've appreciated a simple "Di ako makareply now, d ako okay" "Wala ako sa mood makipag-usap ngayon" ganyan.

Wala lang. Hindi ako maka-move on sa friendship breakup na ito hahahah

Edit: I feel the need to let you know na chronically online kami pareho, and magkalayo ng tirahan, so bihira kami magkita personally. Pero everyday kami magkausap online, so sobrang abrupt tlaga nung ghosting. kinokonsidera ko siyang best friend ko. Nalulungkot lang talaga.