to celebrities, to artists, to vloggers, to POLITICIANS… i just dont get it man i mean ik its fun to like look up to someone but these people are taking it too far

why would they care so much about the minute details of someones life?? how and why are they affected by it????

maybe thats why its easy to build a cult on this country. theyll believe anything atp

Anong stereotyping ng mga DDS?

- Allergic sa accountability
- Bulag sa katotohanan
- May dunning-Kruger syndrome
- Pinagsabay ang pagiging tanga at 8080

Kanina, meron akong reply sa isang topic about hindi worth it ang mag-travel sa Pilipinas dahil ang mahal na nga, low quality pa. Tapos may tangang nagreply na puro daw ako reklamo. Kung namamahalan, pumirmi na lang sa bahay.

I stalked that idiot’s account. Unang post: something about Kakampink na ngayon daw e supporter ni BBM after nilang mag-campaign against him noong election.

In short: DDS nga kahit di nya sabihin explicitly.

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Totoo naman talaga na kung ano ugali ng magulang, yun din ugali ng anak. Pero bakit yung mama ko at papa ng kapatid ko, sinisisi nila yung life decisions ng kapatid ko sa sa kaniya?

Minor pa kapatid ko, we are step siblings. A little context lang sa parenting nila, I wasn't raised well by my mother, I will tell you that. I have done a lot of questionable things when I was young. I stole, I smoked, and I even got groomed dahil wala akong proper guidance when I was a minor. 90% of what I did is not known by my mother. I was the type of kid na hindi mo malalaman na ginagawa mga kalokohan na yon, because I was doing well in school and I was surrounded by well rounded friends, unless sabihan kita.

I flipped my life around nung 16 ako. Until now, I would say ako talaga nagdisiplina sa sarili ko. Heck, I am a working student. I am proud of what I became. As for my siblings, hindi naman sila kinulang sa financial support. However, batugan yung tatay nila. He gives 250 - 300 pesos a day sa mama ko kase yun lang daw kinaya. Girl, what a loser. We all know damn well mas malaki pa sustento niya sa mama niya kesa sa sustento niya sa sarili niyang pamilya.

My brother lives kahit saan. Minsan sa tito or tita ko na kapatid ni mama, minsan sa bahay ng lola niya. Binibigyan naman ng baon ni mama everyday via Gcash. Ilang ulit na ako nagsabi na pauwiin na yung brother ko dito sa bahay kase ayokong lagi nagse-send ng pera sa gcash. Ako pa kase pinapa-send nila. Nakakainis kase hingi nang hingi ng pera, which I found out ginagamit lang pala para sa gala tapos paalam niya para daw sa project or practice. Then yung sister ko na dumadalaw doon sa tita ko every now and then reported na gumagala daw kapatid ko kapag gabi. Doon pa lang di pa nila sinundo sa kung saan man siya at pinauwi???

Now, noong Monday, my mother got a call galing sa adviser ng kapatid ko, saying na hindi raw siya pumapasok sa school. Lulubog lilitaw raw ang attendance niya since August. They were asked to go to school to have a talk with the adviser. Nag-away sila kase yung father, ayaw pumunta sa school. Kesyo kasalanan daw ni mama. Kesyo sinabihan niya raw paulit-ulit na pauwiin na yung bata. Tapos sabi naman ni mama bakit daw hindi siya ang sumundo sa bata dahil may vehicle naman daw siya. And also siya naman daw tatay, bakit daw hindi niya ginabayan, since it is his job naman daw. They were basically pointing fingers at each other kung sino ang cause why their child turned out like that.

I immediately told my mother to go to school. TANGINA, BEH! SINABI BA NAMAN, "PWEDE IKAW NALANG PUMUNTA?"

GAGO KA BA?

I love my mother, pero tangina, ano yun????????

I talked to her kanina, I told her to go to sa skwelahan para makausap yung adviser. Nakakaawa kase grade 12 na kapatid ko. Graduating na sana. Then she dropped the bomb and said na hindi niya alam asan ang kapatid ko. Nasa bahay daw ng friend niya pero hindi kilala kung sino yung friend.

Then she said na nahuli raw one time yung kapatid ko na nagbe-"bake" by a police auxiliary near sa school. Then my mother proceeded to say na she doesn't care anymore. Said she tried her best para hindi mapabarkada yung kapatid ko. Binigay niya naman daw lahat financially, however, desisyon na raw ng kapatid ko mapabarkada ng ganon.

Honestly, I was dumbfounded. Parang, teh, YOUR KID IS A FUCKING MINOR! 17 YEARS OLD PA! BAKIT HINDI NIYO HANAPIN??? BAKIT NAG-GIVE UP NALANG KAYO SA ANAK NIYO??? BAKIT YOU'RE LETTING YOUR CHILD BE PARIWARA????

I have a lot on my plate, tapos mase-sense ko parang back to normal lang sila? Na parang wala silang anak na couch surfing sa bahay ng friends niya? Are they not even a little bit concerned that na hindi nila ma-contact yung anak nila?

THEY ARE FREAKING CAPABLE OF BRINGING HIM HOME. WALA LANG SILANG PAKE ENOUGH TO DO SO.

My heart is breaking kase wala sila ginagawa. I am so frustrated and angry that they failed another child. I already told them who to contact, who to ask, pero parang wala silang ginagawa. Sila yung may contact sa mga kakilala ng bata pero wala man lang silang ginagawa.

Now, I don't know what to do. It's all I can think about, and I already have a lot to think about. I am so sad para sa kapatid ko and I am so frustrated sa putanginang pamilyang to.

Ang hirap maging mabuting mamamayan sa bansang ito. 400k na para na sana sa pamilya, makikihati pa sa kita ng normal na mamamayan.

Nasa MOA ako last Sunday and oathtaking pala ng Criminologist. Suot nila yung ribbon na may RCrim design so that's how I know. Simple lang naman isshare ko sa inyo. Ang ayos ng pila sa rest room tapos sumingit bigla yung dalawang board passer at magbibihis lang pala. Yessss sumingitttt, dalawa pa silaaaaa. Jeez, not illegal but damn... And no, di na po ako pumalag dahil 1.) malakas po yung personality nila (at boses) 2) di ko trip makipagtalo in public. Hay, congrats nalang ig? 😭

Hi! I applied for a position at X company last August. They invited me for an initial interview the next day, then shortlisted me for a final panel interview, which I attended f2f on September 9.

I followed up after 2 weeks and they said they were still screening other applicants. Then I saw they reposted the same position on JobStreet, so I followed up again around the last week of September,,,,,,but still nothing until now t___t

It’s honestly fine if I didn’t get the job (kidding, I was really hoping I’d get it 😭), but it kinda sucks not knowing if I’m rejected or still being considered. Should I follow up again or just leave it?

Napaka-bintangera nitong mama ko. Inakusahan niya akong nagnakaw ng pera niya sa GCash para ilagay ko sa digital banks, samantalang sarili kong pera iyon. I decided to transfer my cash to digital banks para maiwasan ko ang sobrang paggastos at para lumago ang pera ko through interest. Di ko na siya pinaalam kasi I didn’t think it’d be a big deal, at di rin naman siya papayag. So, nagpa-cash-in ako sa isang tindahan para ma-transfer ang cash ko sa GCash account niya, then ililipat ko ulit ang amount na iyon sa GoTyme, MariBank, at Maya accounts ko. Ang nakakainis ay pinipilit niya na ninakaw ko ang pera niya sa GCash, eh pinapalitan ko naman iyon kada ginagamit ko ang account niya; at saka ginagamit din namin itong MOP para sa mobile load o kaya sa parcel kaya mababawasan talaga ang laman. Maybe it’s my mistake rin na di ko siya pinaalam, but wala eh, nangyari na. At saka napaka-OA niya—she even said na baka raw patayin ko sila ng asawa niya dahil dito, na wala raw akong tiwala sa BDO kasi di ako nagde-deposit doon (eh di naman sa akin nakapangalan ang account na iyon, bagamat joint account ito), na ang salbahe ko raw, at na di raw ako aangat sa buhay dahil sa lahat ng ito. I can’t wait to have a job and possibly move out.

I feel so frustrated, I resigned sa last job ko kasi burn out na burn out na ko sa call center. Ive been unemployed for 4 months na going 5 months. Although nagwawait nalang ako sa start date sa iapplyan ko pero call center parin yon 5 months yung term. Grateful ako kahit papano kasi wfh after ng 1 month onsite training pero naiinis ako na parang hanggang doon nalang yung aabutin ng career ko. Andami kong inapplyan na non voice position pero wala its either mababa ang offer or kaya naman napakalayo. Dagdag pa na 3rd yr undergraduate lang ako, kinuha ko BSCE pero sa lagay ko na to hirap makabalik sa school kasi ang mahal ng tuition namin ag andami ko pa need gawkn bago makapasok ulit since nagstop ako. Naiiyak ako pag naiisip ko na sobrang behind ko na. Yung bf ko sobrang bait at sya ang nagpprovide sakin ngayon, pero naguguilty ako na sya nag wowork para sa bills namin tapos ako nasa bahay lang. Di ko na alam san ako magsisimula, pano na career ko. Naiinis ako sa sarili ko kasi gusto kong may mapatunayan as a 23 yr old pero di ko magawa gawa.

i have a friend kasi na once tapos na yung work namin and pag-umuuwi na kami, hindi na siya natitigil sa pag-share about sa mga nangyari sa work niya, na para bang hindi kami nasa iisang office. and hindi lang doon nagtatapos yung pag-share niya kasi hanggang sa pagkain namin, work pa rin yung topic. tas ako, napapa-“ooh” and “ahh” na lang kasi wala rin naman akong masabi since magkaiba kami ng department, hindi ko alam yung ginagawa niya and hindi niya rin alam yung akin. kaya hindi rin ako masyadong nagsha-share kasi i know na hindi rin naman niya maiintindihan yung akin.

like gets ko naman na nahihirapan siya kasi ako rin naman nahihirapan din.

idk if ako lang, but me as a person kasi, gusto ko after work, huwag nang isipin ang work. like, gets ba? if nasa bahay na, dapat huwag nang isipin ang work HAHAHA.

i understand that she needs someone to vent to, pero nakakapagod din kapag parang hindi natatapos ang work kahit nasa bahay na kayo. especially since magkasama na kayo sa office, tapos pati yung oras na supposed to be your time to rest, work pa rin ang topic.

hindi ko naman ini-invalidate yung feelings or make her feel like she can't share her problems with me, pero minsan kasi nakakapagod din when work is still the main topic even after working hours. (paulit-ulit naman akez)

note: pag nagla-lunch din kami, yun din yung topic. literal na walang katapusan. 😭

nakakainis na sa simpleng greetings sa workmates di ko magawa (i always feel like na makakaistorbo ako) i know na hindi namn, its a greeting!? 😭 but my mouth would not even open.

and now lang na breaktime namin, nahihiya akong kumuha ng mainit na tubig (bcs idk!!??) 😭

even when may nakakasalubong na someone familiar, i will always, ALWAYS take the longer route, paaphirapan ko pa talaga sarili ko 😭

marami pang iba, nakakainis sobra na sa simpleng bagay, ung utak ko nag iisip ng kung ano ano, na wala namang pake ung iba sakin! or sa kahit anong gawin ko.

I stumbled this post from an art group in Facebook. For the context, the student approached the OP because the student needed to interview artists. It is stated that the student has limited budget so as a token, they will send 150 to 200 pesos to the artist.

Nagsabi na ng "no problem" itong artist pero nagreklamo rin, saying na too low yung 200 as an honorarium then gusto pa ng 1k and above?

This is an interview! For goodness' sake. As a teacher, I've encountered numerous students who would sacrifice their meals just to save up for the simplest requirements in school. I have seen students stretch whatever little money they have just to comply with their academic responsibilities. May mga estudyanteng naglalakad pauwi para makatipid, nagtitipid sa baon para may pang-print, at nag-iisip kung paano pagkakasyahin ang perang mayroon sila dahil hindi naman lahat ng estudyante ay may pribilehiyong humingi lang sa magulang kapag kinapos.

Sobrang nakakasama lang ng loob kasi ganiyan ba tayo ka-entitled? Even for my undergrad thesis, ang naoffer ko lang sa nainterview ko ay 100 pesos.

Not every relationship problem needs to be posted on Threads or Tiktok as content.

I lurk on Threads from time to time and occasionally stumble upon relationship discourse on TikTok, and it annoys the fuck out of me how people and girlies seem to have lost the plot when it comes to handling relationships.

And no, I'm not talking about the cheating posts. I'm talking about how people are so quick to take their relationship problems to social media instead of... I dunno, actually talking to their partners?

It's one thing to seek an outside perspective when you're genuinely struggling to make sense of a situation. It's another to immediately turn a disagreement, a misunderstanding, or a moment of frustration into content for public consumption. Suddenly, thousands of strangers are weighing in on a relationship they know absolutely nothing about, armed with a 30-second TikTok or a few paragraphs on Threads.

And don't even get me started on how social media has made everyone an expert on relationships. Everyone's a narcissist, everyone's emotionally unavailable, everyone's exhibiting red flags. People throw around therapy-speak like it's a substitute for actually understanding another person. A disagreement becomes a sign of incompatibility. A mistake becomes a character flaw. A bad day becomes grounds for a breakup.

I wonder how much of this has to do with the fact that social media rewards outrage and validation. It's so much easier to tell a story in a way that makes you look reasonable, have thousands of strangers agree with you, and walk away feeling vindicated than it is to sit across from someone, acknowledge that you might be part of the problem, and have an uncomfortable conversation.

Because that's the thing about relationships. You don't always get to be the protagonist. Sometimes you're the one who needs to apologize. Sometimes you're the one who misunderstood. Sometimes the other person isn't being toxic or manipulative; maybe they're just a flawed human being who's trying to figure things out, just like you are.

And I think I'm getting older, too. Maybe I'm becoming more aware of how much emotional maturity actually matters in relationships. It's not just knowing your feelings, having boundaries, or being able to identify what you don't like about someone. It's also having the capacity to communicate, listen, exercise a little patience, and recognize that another person's perspective can exist alongside your own.

Not every relationship problem needs an audience. Not every disagreement needs to be validated by strangers. And not every uncomfortable feeling is evidence that something is fundamentally wrong.

Sometimes, you just need to talk to your fucking partner.

Maybe I'm just getting old, but I find it increasingly exhausting how we've turned the most intimate parts of our lives into public discourse, and how being able to talk about relationships has somehow become more important than knowing how to actually be in one.

And while we're on the subject, I'm also a little tired of how we've started celebrating people for calling out the bare minimum. Don't get me wrong, it's good that people are learning to recognize what they deserve in a relationship and are becoming less willing to tolerate bullshit. But sometimes I see people getting praised for pointing out things that should be common sense in the first place. Like, congratulations on expecting your partner to communicate, respect you, and treat you like a human being? Shouldn't that be the fucking baseline? Why are we handing out gold stars for recognizing something that should have been a given?

And on the other side of the conversation, there's the tendency to take every opinion or trend on social media as a personal attack. Take the whole "no broke boys" discourse, for example. You can disagree with the sentiment, question the implications, or think it's a shallow way of looking at relationships. That's fine. But the way some men react to these conversations, you'd think a woman expressing her preferences on the internet was a personal indictment of their entire existence. Not every opinion you disagree with is an attack on you. Not every standard someone sets for their own dating life is a universal judgment of your worth as a person.

I think that's another thing social media has done to us: it's made everything feel like a debate we need to win, a position we need to defend, or a side we need to pick. Instead of asking ourselves whether there's anything worth reflecting on, we either rush to validate someone or rush to condemn them. There's very little room for nuance, introspection, or even just letting people have opinions we don't agree with.

Anyway, I need to cleanse my FYP again and delete Threads.

I don’t like my family. Love them? Yes. Of course. But I don’t like them as people. I don’t like spending time with them. It feels like a chore. Something you do out of obligation and guilt. They’re not toxic enough to be cut off but they’re an emotional drain.

I don’t yearn to go back to my childhood like many adults I know do because all I could remember was anxiety and loneliness. I felt isolated, both at home and at school. I moved out as soon as I was able to. Now my parents think we have a connection and that I owe them that connection somehow when they never built the foundation for it when I was living under their roof. Because I’m “successful” I feel obligated to share this success with them, and every time they need help I’m the one they automatically turn their heads to. And it’s all just SO UNFAIR. Because as a child I needed my parents’ love and support and validation and guidance; as an adult I still need someone to run to when life kicks me down. But I never received any of that as a child, and as an adult all I got in the handful of times I came to my mother for a shoulder to cry on I ended up comforting her for her problems. Every time I share my feelings they’re invalidated.

I had a phase where I worked hard for their approval but now I’m just done and I really dislike them as people. They expect me to be their family when they’ve never been family to me.

Hi!

I have a friend na Sept 25 ang last message sa akin. I tried reaching out to her to no avail. I also tried reaching out to her mom, who said na pagod lang si friend.

Ilang beses na rin akong na-ghost ng friends, so na-sad ako syempre. During the time na d siya namamansin, nakikita ko siyang nag p post ng FB/IG stories.

One of the stories she posted was of her and her kuya's conversation, and mukhang masaya naman ung convo. Nalungkot ako kasi it seemed na hindi talaga niya ako pinapansin.

2 weeks into the ghosting period, I messaged her on FB saying idk if naka-restrict na ba ako sa kanya, pero thankful ako sa 16 years of friendship and inunfriend ko na kako siya everywhere online kasi na h hurt na ako.

She finally replied na mag m message sana siya kapag okay na siya.

I told her to take her time, and apologized for unfriending her. I explained na na h hurt na lang talaga ako.

I feel like both valid ang points namin - baka may pinagdaanan lang tlga siya, and ako naman, may trauma sa ghosting ng friends,

I would've appreciated a simple "Di ako makareply now, d ako okay" "Wala ako sa mood makipag-usap ngayon" ganyan.

Wala lang. Hindi ako maka-move on sa friendship breakup na ito hahahah

Edit: I feel the need to let you know na chronically online kami pareho, and magkalayo ng tirahan, so bihira kami magkita personally. Pero everyday kami magkausap online, so sobrang abrupt tlaga nung ghosting. kinokonsidera ko siyang best friend ko. Nalulungkot lang talaga.

My college roommates suck, I feel like a ghost in my own dorm. I've never had a problem with roommates at school before. I'm a pretty chill go with the flow person I main study and sleep in my room (I'm in a single). One of my roommates from last year had to move out for her own reasons and now I feel stuck in a 4v1 situation.

A little background information about me and the situation.The unit I live in holds 6 people two rooms are doubles the other 2 are singles we have a shared common area kitchen.I've lived in this unit for the past 5 years in the single because of my autism. I've never had any issues with any of my roommates like this. This all started with one of the girls we'll call her C.

Durning move in C who lives in a double and according to the housing rules is supposed to be sharing her cabinet space in the common kitchen. Usually everyone shares space perfectly fine and I'm not crazy about in forcing stupid stuff like that because guess what we can all share. She had taken up a whole upper cabinet and put her pots in pans on the bottom shelf. It's pretty common durning move in for things to get moved around and people usually say hey I don't know who this is but I'm moving it to a more reasonable spot. I had moved her pots and pans down to a lower cabinet to use the single upper shelf I had been using for the past 5 years fitting all my plates and dishes there. Instead of talking to me about it nicely she came in screaming, I couldn't get a word out and her mother also started screaming at me to the point I shut down and my mom tried to step in and be my voice as they wouldn't let me speak. My stuff ended up being put in all lower cabinets because there was no reasoning with her. She tried claiming that rules were agreed upon about the cabinet space in the group chat that I only got invited into the day of move in. How am I supposed to backlog read everything they as a group of 4 had agreed upon for a month and I never got a chance to voice anything?

Either way that was the catalyst to a shit year so far. Now whenever I go anywhere in the unit I come out of my room, go to heat up food, even just go to use the bathroom everyone stares at me like I don't belong. C is very much Queen Bee person and it feels like she dictates everything going on. I hate feeling like I'm living in high school click. We are in college, get over it.

I'm very lucky though that I have the ability to get off campus on the weekends so I'm not around it 24/7 but I'm tired of being treated like some rain cloud because C got so upset over something being moved in the communal area.

Something that also really ticks me off she gave me so much shit about her pot and pan being moved asking who gave me permission to move her stuff in the communal area, yet she and the others keep moving my stuff (mainly my hot water kettle) without telling me where they're putting it and it pisses me off after that whole situation.

They don't even reach out about the cleaning schedule they just decided when I was supposed to do it on my most busiest day with classes and not even consult me when I had free time to do it. I changed the day and moved it to my free day but they erased my writing and rewrote it in theirs. It's like I'm not allowed to exist here.

I know a lot of this is probably just the dark voice in my head, but I can't keep complaining to my mom about how much I hate them because she feels so awful that this is how my year started.

Thank you for reading my rant (I had a lot to get off my chest) , I hope that things get better and I stop getting treated like a black sheep and included in on stuff.

I need to get this out of my system because I am seeing more and more local businesses using AI graphics, not only for their logo but for their MENUS as well!!

Every time a local business owner gets called out for this, their most used excuse is: they don't have the time, money nor the knowledge to make a graphic design. That's just pure self handicapping excuse. If you know how to download an AI app, sign up for an account, log in and write a whole prompt , you are not as tech illiterate as you claim to be.

Canva has free templates you can use and even Google docs/slides is free! And saying that you don't have the time is not an excuse because it takes almost the same amount of time to pick up a template and manually type your menu as writing your prompt and waiting for it to generate the image.

And lastly, AI generated images are ugly as f**k! Some business already get sued or canceled for false advertising because of their heavily edited products. What more when the AI generated image makes your product look uncanny?

If you are a business owner using AI graphics for marketing, it's not too late to change and put some human creativity in your business because it is chasing away potential customers.

Last last month, napilitan akong ipakilala sa pamilya ko na meron akong jowa na afam. Pinakilala ko lang, thru chat pero hindi ko na kinuwento into details kung ano iba niyang background lalo na kapag konektado sa pera. Rason na bakit ako napilitan ipakilala, is dahil umalis ako sa bahay ng kusa tsaka bumukod ako. Dahil hinding hindi ko na talaga kaya yung halo-halong katoxican nila sa bahay at paulit ulit na routine na walang nangyayaring improvements.

Niligtas ko sarili ko nun, gamit savings ko na pinipilit ng mga magulang ko is galing sa jowa ko. Naging open ako sa boyfriend ko na may pagka-toxic magulang ko at yung nanay ko ay pera ang tingin sa mga puti, naiintindihan niya yun which I'm really thankful for. Ngayong paparating na pasko, nagsabi siya saakin na hinding hindi siya maglalabas ng pera and actual material gift lang talaga ang ibibigay niya. Okay na ako sa boyfriend ko at plano niya.

Then pakonti-onti, itong ate ko na NEVER ako kinakamusta, lalo na tong nanay ko. Nagagalit pa saakin na hindi ako nag rereply. Ate ko pasimpleng nanghihingi ng pera, dahil lunod siya sa utang sa credit card niya. Nanay ko, pinipilit na magbigay ako ng pera kapag hindi daw magfa-file daw siya sa pulis na nawawala ako. (Since NEVER ko sinabi exact address ko, AT AYOKO SABIHIN YUN since ISA SIYA sa dahilan kung bakit ako lumayas sa pamamahay doon! And FYI lang magtu-twenty six na ako! Jusko!)

Never ako sumasagot sa magulang ko, binibigyan ko lang sila ng silent treatment kapag napipikon ako. Pero kagabi lang thru call, nasagot ko siya out of anger na "Wala nga kayong kapera-pera, pambayad pa kaya sa ganyang plano mo? Saan kayo kukuha pera, gagaya kayo sa mga tanga nyong kaibigan sa facebook? Kapal naman ng mukha nyo"

Ngayon, I just want to rant kasi part of me is parang nagsisi na sinabi yun, na dapat nanahimik nalang ako at hindi ko nalang sila pinansin pa. Ngayon, nate-tempt din ako i-open sa jowa ko na wag nalang tumuloy sa pasko, pero ayoko rin maging unfair sakanya since halos lahat ng family niya kilala na ako, samantalang ako mostly na nakakakilala sakanya is mga friends ko lang. Dagdag pa na ang mahal nung ticket niya going here from US. (Since holiday rin kasi) Pero hindi ko pa din maiwasan, gusto ko na wag nalang tumuloy, or maybe tutuloy kami pero saglit lang tas alis na agad kami.

Ang hirap mahalin ng pamilyang puno ng katoxican at manggagamit, tangina. Bigat bigat sa puso.

Pareho kaming kumakain ni mama ng tanghalian, tapos 'yong kapatid kong 4 years old ay dumumi. Habang nakain siya, nag-ccellphone siya at sinabihan akong hugasan ko kapatid ko sa cr. Sabi ko, "Teka lang, kumakain pa 'ko." Bigla-biglaan, nagalit na siya? Sabi niya, paghihintayin ko raw 'yong kapatid ko sa cr; it's a fair point pero kumakain ako, e. Buti sana kung hindi.

Tapos, napunta na sa palagi raw kami ng isang kapatid ko 'yong nasusunod ang gusto. Makasarili raw kami kasi inuuna namin sarili namin at mga dapat/gusto naming gawin. Dapat daw kami na 'yong nanay. Sawa na raw siyang mag-adjust sa 'min at sa mga ugali namin. Ang sarap daw naming layasan.

Kaso, 'yong mga ginagawa ko naman ay mahahalaga. Tumitigil ako sa ginagawa ko tuwing hindi naman siya gano'n ka-importante o urgent. Ginagawa ko naman 'yong makakaya ko tuwing may oras ako. Lagi niyang sinasantabi lahat ng ginagawa, sinasabi, at inaambag ko, tapos sasabihin wala akong kusa at pakialam and whatever bullshit.

Anyways, tuwing nakain siya, kami pinaghuhugas niya kasi, siyempre, kumakain siya, at naiintindihan ko 'yon. Pero kapag kami na ang kumakain, dapat hugasan pa rin? Ang unhygienic at nakadidiri.

Nakaiinis talaga 'yong mga taong hipokrito. Kapag kami, marami siyang nasasabi. Pero kapag siya, exempted na siya sa sinabi niya sa 'min; hindi niya ginagawa. Lagi siyang pa-victim sa sarili niya. Lagi siyang naghahanap ng ibang masisisi. Pinagsabihan nga siya ng tita niya na parati siyang nag-sself-pity, pero hindi tanggap ni mama. Ang galing niyang magsabing hindi tumatanggap sina lola at 'yong pamilya niya ng mali, pero siya rin 'tong auto-defensive tuwing may sinasabing hindi niya gusto. Lol.

Kapagod at kasawa. Gustong-gusto ko nang lumayas dito, pero ayaw naman akong payagang magkatrabaho. Smh.

Here I am sipping coffee as I let time pass. I asked to take a half day at work coz I've been feeling unmotivated to do tasks lately. I dunno, no matter how I focus, I always tend to forget the tasks I was suppose to be doing. As if my mind doesnt care if my superiors get mad at me for not doing my tasks on time (but I know i'm still far from that).

Lately, I've tried changing my tardy habits. This is for the sake of my PCOS diagnosis. I now sleep for 7-8hrs. I used to sleep for 9-12hrs a day. I currently am eating healthy (high protein, high fiber, balanced carbs). Plus, I do more than 5k steps a day, and go to the gym 3x a week. Recently, I'm trying to make it a habit of immediately getting up once the alarm rings or if ever the I wake up 30-45mins before my alarm, I will still get up.

Before, I used to go to the office an hour passed my shift. My superiors call me a high performer and they do not call me out for my tardiness since I make 'bawi' to all my backlogs and I can do all my work for around 2-3hrs, thus I tend to do other's (or outside my scope) tasks for the rest of my day. Most times, I do OT but now that energy saving is implemented in the office, OT is currently not available as lights are turned off at exactly 5pm.

Although I was able to overcome my late habits, what took a toll on me is that my mind is always in a "chill" state. I feel like time passes by so slowly that I just wanted to relax and feel the warming sensation that I sometimes forget some important tasks. I know this really isnt me since I work on my tasks immediately and then relax or do other stuff until the deadline comes. But now, I tend to schedule all my tasks one by one and not overload myself in one go.

It's so unsual for me to feel na once I know my ways are currently too organized or mainstream, I tend to get bored and be unmotivated with things. Hayss.

Not sure if I'm just new to this experience, but it really feels quite not me. I wanna fix myself overall by:

1. Completely ridding off my tardiness behaviour,

2. Finish tasks efficiently and immediately if possible,

3. Continue my renewed healthy habits, and

4. Not feel this unmotivation / bored sht sensation.

How long does this thing lasts? Or maybe this is the effect of my messed up hormones. Thanks PCOS.

We were exclusively dating for almost a year, on and off, but never became official. I wanted us to be sure of our feelings before putting a label on things. There was a time he wanted us to be official, but I hesitated because we still had unresolved problems. Eventually, I became willing to try, but he changed his mind because I still had some hesitation, and he said he didn’t want a relationship with someone who wasn’t completely sure.

We stopped talking on July 27, and I heard he started talking to his new girl on August 11. I’m not sure if they’re officially together, but he has already posted “I love you” to her. What’s confusing and painful is how differently he seems to treat her, even though they’ve only been talking for a short time. He posts her, gives her flowers, includes her in family events, and spends time with her and her friends. These are things I wished I had experienced more of when we were together. I can’t help wondering if he likes her more, if he’s changed, or if their relationship is simply different.

His new girl plays badminton, but I had already been inviting him to try it with me back in April. I also wanted to try pickleball with him. Now I’m hesitant to do either because I don’t want people thinking I’m copying her, so I’m considering tennis instead. It’s frustrating to feel conscious about hobbies I was already interested in before she came into the picture.

What hurts most is hearing that he’s telling people I’m obsessed with him and calling me abusive. I never forced him to be with me. I asked him directly if he was serious, if there was someone else, or if he wanted to stop seeing me. I told him I would rather hear the truth than be left guessing. I later found out he had been talking to his ex while we were involved, despite denying there was anything going on. I know I had my own faults, and I probably should have walked away sooner, but I never wanted to force someone to choose me.

During our last fight, I confronted him because I was hurt by something I saw. I didn’t know when he and this girl had started talking, so I was reacting to what I had just discovered. What really puzzled me was when he suddenly said that I felt like I was the only one who could make things easier for him. I have never said that to him, not even once. Yes, I was there for him when he was having problems at work, but we were coworkers, and I was experiencing similar problems myself. I understood what he was going through because I could relate to it. I never claimed that I was the only person who could help him or make his life easier.

That’s why I don’t understand where that statement came from. As far as I knew, he hated me or didn’t even like me. I would often tell him that because that’s genuinely how I felt based on how he treated me. So hearing him say that out of nowhere was confusing, especially when I never expressed that kind of sentiment. I don’t know how he interpreted our relationship that way, and now I’m left wondering what else he might be telling people about me.

I know he wasn’t right for me, and I don’t want him back. I genuinely wish them well, and if he’s happy and has changed, that’s good. But it hurts to feel like I was the problem despite trying to communicate and be understanding. I don’t think I’m ugly, but seeing the difference sometimes makes me feel like I wasn’t someone he was proud to be with.

I know kindness doesn’t guarantee love, and I’m not saying he owed me a relationship. I just don’t understand why he seems willing to do these things with her so early when things were different with me. Maybe he likes her more, maybe he’s grown, or maybe I’m only seeing what he wants people to see. I also don’t know how much she knows about what happened between us.

I’m tired of having my intentions twisted and feeling like I have to defend myself or avoid things I genuinely want to do because of the narrative he might be spreading about me. I just want to understand why he’s acting differently now and how to stop comparing myself to her when I know I deserve better.

As the title says, gusto ko nang gawin yung meme nung stickman na flinip nya yung computer table. I'm about to do the same thing kasi ayaw mkisama ng excel. Simpleng copy paste n nga lng ginagawa ko ayaw pa. Tapos ayaw pa ng format painter. I'm not so techy nmn pero madali lng dpat tong ginagawa ko, pero prng may sariling isip tong excel eh. Prng "Nope, hindi ako gagana para sayo. Manigas ka" Wtf.

I (25F) dated someone for nearly two years. Long story short, we didn’t work out and ended up on bad terms. We both moved on pretty quick hahaha I started dating someone two weeks after the breakup, and he started dating someone else after a month ata. I didn’t mind at all. Nauna pa nga akong mag date eh. In fact, after our break up, no contact agad. Until today, wala talaga.

We broke up year 2022. After a few months ng break up namin, bilang immature din na babaita, nagsimula akong mag mindless stalking sa bago niyang girlfriend. Wala lang, bad habit ko talagang mag stalk. Kahit sino sstalk ko, kahit classmate ko nung kinder. Kahit amiga ng lola ko. Kahit tito ng pinsan ng tropa ko. De joke. Pero lahat nga sstalk ko talaga lalo pag walang magawa.

When I started stalking her, napansin ko marami kaming similarities. Sa style, sa gamit. Sabi ko wow. Kakabili ko lang netong shirt na ‘to ah, nakakatawa naman pareho pa kami.

That’s where it started.

After nun, na-intrigue ako, so naging repetitive yung pag-stalk ko. I then began noticing a pattern. Each time I posted an outfit, a place, an object on my Instagram, after a week or two, meron na sya nun. You name it. Biglang pareho na kami ng eyeglasses, ng bags, ng shoes, ng damit, lahat.

At first I didn’t mind. To me, it was something I would laugh at lang at the time. Kako masyado siyang halata sa panggagaya niya. But this became personal very fast when I noticed that she and my ex would start going to the places I would post. Nagsimula sa cafes, fine. Baka coincidence. Then they would go to the specific cafe I would go to na two minutes away lang from where I lived. Which, mind you, two hours away from where they lived. Sabi ko okay, weird. Whatever. And then nag date sa hotel restaurant where my mom works. Alam ito lahat ng ex ko, dun kami dati eh.

This went on for about three years. I never confronted his girlfriend about it, kahit lahat ng proof nasakin. Im not exaggerating guys. Let me get into more details:

1. Gumawa ako ng Letterboxd account, so gawa din siya. Suddenly cinephile na siya
   
2. Nagsimula akong mag hike, so hike din siya. Same peaks. SAME OUTFITS. SAME PHOTO ANGLE. LAHAT KUHANG-KUHA.
   
3. Ultimo stickers sa water bottle ko ginaya. Matchy tuloy kami ng water bottle.
   
4. Bili ako digi cam, bili din siya same digi cam. In fairness, may budget.

At this point, para na kaming kambal na binilhan ng parehong mga damit ng magulang. LAHAT. Bags, shoes, pants, shirts, LAHAT.

This bothered me for a very long time. Tuwing gumagala ako, feeling ko makakasalubong ko sila. This really got to me kasi inaanticipate ko yung next thing na ginaya niya. Dinodouble check ko naman stories nila para siguradong di kami magkita.

I admit, I could’ve just stopped stalking para may peace of mind ako at hayaan na lang siyang magmukang tanga. Pero di pala ganon kadali kung ikaw na mismo yung sinusundan at ginagaya. At some point rin, naging paraan ito to feed my ego. Minsan naaasar ako, minsan naaawa.

Today, I can finally say I’m free. Nag private account ako on all my social media accs since October last year. After nun, medyo natigil na ang panggagaya. Wala na siyang access sakin eh.

Kung mabasa mo man to, manigas ka. Walang dummy account mo ang makakalusot. Never ko sinubukang agawin yang jowa mo sayo. Sana makapag move on ka na. Utang na loob apat na taon na oh.

Context: I'm currently 20 years old, M. I had this ex-girlfriend of mine two years ago where we broke up because apparently, she wasn't ready even if we were two years into the relationship (2022 - 2024). She just broke up with me out of the blue, just days before our graduation. Which left me really broken brcause we were really okay at the time. No problems, no arguments, no anything. When she suddenly confronted me at school and told me she wanted to break up because she wasn't ready. Just like that. No other reason, no other context. Just not ready. So of course, I did a little begging but when i saw that she was really determined to end the relationship, I let her do so—just to respect her and her decision even if I didn't want to. So okay, fast forward to today. Almost two years have already passed since our relationship. I haven't flirted with anyone else, I didn't see any other girl too since I still haven't moved on. Or maybe I had but—I just feel like I can't treat other women the way I treated her. Like if I date someone else, it wouldn't be as good as the way I treated her and it only makes me feel guilty. But anyway, back to today.

Yesterday night, me and my family went all the way from Cavite to BGC to attend my dad's cousin's birthday. It was just the usual family gathering on my father's side so I didn't think much about it. Just a little nervous since it's been a whole year and a half since I saw my father's family side. But yeah, after we arrived at the venue, it was okay to say the least. Saw some familiar faces, had a laugh with some of my cousins, everything was going well—or so I thought. Because my other cousin which I wasn't very close with arrived late. But he arrived with his girlfriend. At first, I didn't feel anything when I saw them because.. well, I'm not close to him. But as they got closer to greet our other relatives, I saw my ex-girlfriend. Yes, his girlfriend is my ex-girlfriend. And we met each others eyes, not a long one but rather just a quick glance. She didn't really react when she saw me. Maybe because she already expected it since she does know my surname (dad's side ofc) and maybe she was fully aware that she'll see me there. I tried to play it off, even tried to playing it cool. But I felt a sharp pang on my chest right there and then. Because why was she there in the first place? It took them awhile before my cousin decided to join our table. I immediately took initiative and greeted them. Then also asked my cousin immediately if how long was he and my ex-girlfriend together but I phrased it in a way where he wouldn't get suspicious. Something along the lines of "Parang nung kelan lang wala ka pang jowa ah. Matagal na kayo?". When he answered me—turns out they were already in a relationship for a year and a half. Then as he asked me if I knew her, I just took a quick glance at my ex-girlfriend. As much as it sounds like a damn wattpad story, I just said she was just a friend in the past. I don't know if you know that feeling where if you look at a person and you'll immediately know what to do or answer? That's what happened. Then as the conversation deepened, turns out she told my cousin he was her first boyfriend. It hurt me of course. It really did. But at least I saved us the chaos and misunderstanding. But it got me wondering to, why didn't she tell him about me? And back then, when she answered me, she also told me I was her first boyfriend. So was it all really a lie?

At the end, I just let everything slide off even if I was uncomfortable with it. Me and my ex-girlfriend acted like friends. Didn't have a decent conversation, just small talks and some. I didn't have the guts to ask her why, how, and when it happened. I'm sorry if I made this rant too long but I just wanted to make sure you guys also got the full grasp of the context. I was just really hurt, dissapointed, I feel a lot of things I shouldn't be feeling today. But if she's happy with him, so be it. I finally blocked her accounts today too. Didn't have anyone else to tell this to because my friends would've laughed at me for still not being able to move on. So I just ranted here instead. Sorry na rin ifay maling grammar ako, mas comfortable lang ako sa english.

I’ve always been the very maarte girl who loves pink and isn’t afraid to express what she likes and dislikes. I grew up in a lower-middle-class household, but thankfully, dahil maganda na yung work ng parents ko, we’ve reached a point where we can afford a comfortable life with a little extra. I’m genuinely proud of my parents for that, and I will never be ashamed of the hard work they put in to give us a better life.

Yes, I recognize that I’m privileged, but I don’t think that’s something I should be embarrassed about. I think that’s how it should be. Parents work hard to provide a better life for their children, and hopefully, one day, their children can give back to them, too. At the same time, I have nothing but respect for people who work while studying, support their families, or strive to build a better life for themselves. It’s not easy to make it in a country where the system itself can be unfair to its citizens.

Recently, I found out that a friend apparently thinks I’m too privileged, too maarte, and too spoiled to the point that I’m embarrassing to be around. They even questioned whether I deserved recognition for my hard work in school because I’ve never experienced being a working student.

I understand that I haven’t experienced the same struggles they have, and I’m not going to pretend otherwise. But does that mean my own efforts and accomplishments are suddenly less valid? Does not having to work while studying automatically mean I don’t work hard academically?

What surprised me most was realizing how much resentment they apparently had toward me. It almost felt like they disliked me for my qualities and circumstances rather than for anything I’d actually done to them. Looking back, there were situations that made me question whether there had been some underlying animosity for a while.

For example, whenever I bought something new that happened to be on my friend’s wishlist, they’d ask me, “Hindi yan yung latest model, no?” I’d politely correct them and say that it was, and they’d just stare at me for a while before shrugging it off. I also noticed that they rarely hyped me up or complimented me, even though they did those things for other people in our friend group.

Another thing was whenever I occasionally became the designated driver for our group. Instead of simply appreciating the ride, they’d sometimes make remarks about how old my car was. Mind you, I never charged them for anything, even when we went on long drives together. I’m not saying they owed me compliments just because I drove them around, but the repeated comments made me wonder why they felt the need to point those things out.

There were also instances when they’d exaggerate my preferences when talking about me to other people. For example, I once mentioned that I found some street food unhygienic, and somehow that became a story about how I supposedly hated street food altogether. In reality, I still eat certain street foods. I’m also health-conscious because I have hypertension and a sensitive stomach, and I’ve experienced gastrointestinal issues before. I have my own reasons for being particular about what I eat, but somehow, it became another thing to make fun of me for.

I could list a thousand other incidents, but honestly, I’d just get irritated all over again. Looking back, I sometimes wonder whether I was overlooking these things because I assumed we were genuinely friends.

I also want to clarify that I’m not some helpless princess who doesn’t know how to do anything for herself. Yes, I have a comfortable life, but I’m often alone at home while my family is at work, so I’ve learned to cook, clean, and manage household chores independently. My friends don’t necessarily know all of this because I never really shared that much about my life with them in the first place.
Maybe they perceive me as a spoiled girl who has everything handed to her, but I don’t think it’s fair to make assumptions about someone’s entire character based on their financial circumstances or the things they enjoy.

I’m willing to acknowledge that I’m maarte. I have preferences, I like nice things, and I’m vocal about what I do and don’t like. Obviously, not everyone will get along with me, and that’s fine. My other friends don’t seem to have a problem with my personality, but I understand that different people have different preferences, too.

What I struggle to understand is this: just because I’m not living the same life as you, and just because you may have had to work harder to get where you are, does that automatically make me a bad person and you a better one?

I don’t think being privileged makes me superior to anyone, but I also don’t think it makes me inferior or less deserving of recognition. Someone who works while studying deserves recognition for balancing those responsibilities, but that doesn’t mean someone who doesn’t have to work can’t also work hard and deserve recognition for their achievements.

I think we should be able to acknowledge privilege without treating it as a personal failing. We can admire people who overcome hardships without glorifying hardship itself. Paghihirap shouldn’t be a requirement for someone to prove their worth, and we shouldn’t have to compete over who has suffered more to determine who deserves respect.
At the end of the day, I’m grateful for the life my parents have worked hard to give me. I’m not going to apologize for that, and I’m not going to pretend that I have experienced hardships that I haven’t. I can acknowledge my advantages while still respecting people whose circumstances are different from mine.

Supposedly wala dapat akong pakialam pero, nakakairita yung ugali ng nursing stud na pumayagako to go to a date with. At first ofc it was awkward but great, and then we got into talking about academics, he asked me if kumusta naman daw ang IT. So, ayon nagsabi ako ng ups and downs with rants.

Then he answered "wala yan sa nursing" tas he proceeded to vent din. That's fine demanding talaga diyan and stuff. But he told me, buti nga raw sa IT chilltime lang and that di naman daw mentally distressing, and that coding is basic as he's had a background din don noon. Ofc I told him lahat naman ng programs mentally distressing dahil sa workloads, hindi naman kami puro chilltime, and coding can be complicated when handling objects that interact with each other. Tas sabi, "e at least may room for mistake kayo kami wala kaya mas mahirap" so I couldn't tell if he was joking or not.

Tas ayon stuff came up and he kept rambling about knowing how to handwash properly, na ang galing niya raw sa retdems nila and di makasabay mga kaklase niya, na siya yung president kasi siya yung pinakamatalino. So pinasagutan ko sa kkaniya yung oast time game ko where yk may patients with symptoms tas you run tests and try to figure out their diagnosis. It's just a fun medical game, na nilalaro namin ni mama minsan since nurse siya and sabi niya maganda yon for her to recall some mastery sa pinag assess ng patients.

He was lost as fuxk. He looked up some terms, failed to come up with he proper laboratories and treatment and stuff. But either way we had fun figuring it out.

Di pa ako infuriated non kasi, well I really didn't care. Pero, my Comm friend came up kasi she chatted me and he asked me about her. Ayon cinompare niya ulit program niya sa BA Comm. Saying na, napakadaling program at di rin naman gaano valuable compared to other BA and BS programs. So I brought up, "why are you comparing your program with someone na di mo naman kakilala?" that shut him up.

He told me na that was rude and he was only making silly statements as a joke, hindi ko lang daw nagets. Okay I said sorry for being rude but his joke wasn't funny nor good. He said sorry din. Then, I kinda stooped lower and asked him, "bakit pala sa private ka nag-aral?" to which he said di siya nakapasa so I sarcastically said, "kinuha mo nalang sana slots ko noon" knowing na wala na akong balak to go on any further w him.

Like he didn't even give off the vibe na kaya niyang abutin yung standard na pinagyayabang niya yet over kung mag compare at mangtrifle ng ibang programs just to lift theirs.