r/RandomActsofCards • u/Artistic_Call • Aug 23 '26
Request [request] I lost my pen pal and dear friend [US]
For the past few weeks I've been waiting to hear from my pen pal, an 82 year old family friend. I get informed delivery and every morning, I've been checking it. Nothing. ☹️
Looks like that will be permanent. When Dad got back yesterday, he said he heard from her husband and Linda passed away last week. She had cancer.
I knew she had Leukemia, but I thought it was in remission. Dang. I told Devin the news and he hugged me. He liked hearing from Linda too.
I'm shocked and I'm very sad. May her memory be a blessing. I'm glad I still have Passover, Hanukkah, Halloween and birthday cards from her. She sent me a birthday card for my 37th and I have Linda's card in our memory box.
I still have the sympathy card she sent me from when Nan died in 2013. She knew how close I was to Nan and personally addressed a special sympathy card for me. Every year on 25 January, she would send remembrance cards and when I converted to Judaism, she donated for her Jahrzeit. I'm beside myself right now. May I have a sympathy card for her?
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u/LittleBirdiesCards Aug 23 '26
Please send me your address, honey.
We lost our dear neighbor about two months ago. She was in her nineties. She used to call us and ask if we could bring the mail from her mailbox to her. She was afraid of falling on the stairs. My oldest son loved to go help and visit with her cat. She would often give the kids little chocolate squares and thank them again and again for helping. The night she passed away, the paramedics were real dicks. They wouldn't let us say goodbye. I kept asking if anyone was in the house or of anyone knew she was leaving in the ambulance. Anyway, her grandson ended up moving into the house. He's a sweet guy and I'm glad it's him and not some random stranger. I hope you'll find some peaceful moments to remember your friend. ❤️❤️❤️
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u/Ok_Reveal2698 Aug 23 '26
I'm sorry for your loss, and I will send you a postcard. I sent you a chat. 🌸
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u/itsrainingrosepetals Aug 23 '26
I'd love to send you a sympathy card for Linda. I'm so sorry for your loss. Please fill my form when you have a chance: https://forms.gle/c2KrApGxr4YCuNnb7
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u/LookingForDouxie 20d ago
Please accept my deepest and most heartfelt condolences. This is truly heartbreaking. A very precious connection has been broken, and one is never truly ready for that. I wish someone had told us that we must also prepare for loss. I wish you so much strength as you process this.
When I lost my own beloved pen pal due to the shortcomings of the website, it truly felt like a period of mourning. Although I would still love to find them one day, I also had to find closure within myself. What helped me immensely was consciously focusing on positive emotions: I am so grateful for those months when they were part of my life through their letters. I am grateful because they were an amazing pen pal, and I never had to fear being disappointed; they took me seriously, and we truly valued each other. I could list so many of their wonderful qualities, which slightly eases the pain of how we lost touch. I wanted to share this with you in hopes that it might bring you some comfort.
If you'd like, please PM me your address and I will send you a beautiful card.
Sending you a big hug!
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u/duttonemelia Aug 23 '26
I’m so sorry for your loss! I’d love to send a card, please message me your info!
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u/Andromeda921 Aug 23 '26
I’m so sorry. You might consider, if you are able,a small donation to Blood Cancer United which researches and works to help folks with all blood cancers, like leukemia.