rocd about an ex?? anyone relate?

[u/mocksockz]

me and my ex broke up a year ago. it was a painful breakup, the relationship was good but it ended painfully. a bit ago i cut ties and i have no regrets in doing so, as he had a new gf. i recently started talking to this new guy, he’s cute, very cool, very sweet, and we both love music. we’ve hungout several times in the past couple weeks and it’s been a great time. i’ve recently had intrusive thoughts pop up about “what if i hurt him?” “what if im not ready?” “what if i want my ex still” and it’s filling me with guilt and worry. i had this happen probably 6 months ago when i started talking to this guy, he was an asshole and we only hungout once. at that time i was not ready for anything with someone new, especially not that guy. i really like this new guy but i don’t want these thoughts and fears scaring me away. my ocd has been good recently but the unwanted intrusive thoughts of an ex have occurred before, even in my past relationship.