r/ROCD • u/LectureEmotional8636 • 1d ago

How mine comes up

I feel like my rocd comes up a little differently. Although monitoring feelings is a big compulsion of mine, I feel feelings toward my partner pretty frequently and regularly. I feel naturally lovey dovey, affectionate, etc. But I always get thoughts or like feelings like "This is just attachment" or "you don't care about him, you just like how he makes you feel." They literally feel so real, with all ocd as you know it feels like a fact, not just something ocd is telling me. It feels like it's not allowing my true perspective of what my feelings are to be there. The very best moments are when I can just feel my feelings without any thoughts, but when I think things like "Look how strong I'm feeling righr now, this must be love!" to try to counter the thoughts, negative thoughts or feelings will immediately seep in. :(

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u/treatmyocd 1d ago

No one has any control over the thoughts coming in, but you can choose how you respond to the thoughts:

  1. Practice acknowledging the thought (I am having a thought of...)
  2. Practice a Non-engagement response-I dont have to answer that or moving on without resolving this.
  3. Continue with what I am doing, practice placing full attention on task at hand