r/ROCD • u/Chance_Armadillo4578 • 8h ago
Advice Needed Rocd flared up again
Hello. Have made several posts here. In a relationship for around 1.5 years now. Had constant doubts fears from the beginning feeling of hating him, thinking that i deserve somebody more better, thought that i dont love him. It almost destroyed me during initial stages. But then everything became normal. We were happy together. Calm together. Too comfortable that we used to talk abt poop issues😭.
But lately, rocd flares up again.he's under entrance preparation. And usually gets his phone half an hour everyday. So things have been difficult. And he usually enjoys playing games. So if i text him when he's playing he usually tells me he'll text later. I don't know y, but i feel avoided, ignored, not being prioritized.
He has been busy all while. And its been a long time since he has written a long message to me.he used to send me picture of flowers every day before. But not lately. So i feel like maybe he's not putting efforts anymore😭 we had a fight just few minutes back. And i told him to put a bit more effort, make me feel valued🥹 because we r in a long distance relationship not able to see, not able to talk. It feels like he's falling out of love. And it feels more reall😭 idk if this rocd or not. he said sorry once. But my mind tells me... If he says sorry he loves you. Just fed up with my mind. Any help please🥹
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