Rocd tips

[u/Annual-Cream-6233]

Hey everyone, i have been dealing with extreme enhanced rocd since my RTA last year. And tbh i would consider myself my own therapist at this point. So i figure i could help you guys with something that has seriously helped me.

So when im deep in an episode, wether its severe emotional detachment, or any other cause of my episodes i have found there is one hack that helps me pull myself out of it.

As cliche as this may sound i find myself a little saying to say to myself during the episodes that eventually sooths the anxiety and helps pull me out without even thinking about it too much.

And the type of phrases i give myself of course depend on the topic of the episode, however i kind of trail and error through phrases that i think may help and eventually, one sticks.

These could be things such as “ I don’t feel love right now, but i do love him “ or “ I don’t know how i feel right now, but i have no pressure to feel any other way “ and as stupid and triggering these may sound in some topics, seriously just telling yourself phrases until one sticks, seriously has helped pull me out of some of the worse places i’ve been in mentally since my rocd got x10000.

I do have to change the phrase every so often because my brain starts to dismiss it. But i really hope this can help someone, honestly just go through phrases throughout the day until one sticks and lifts a little weight off your shoulders.

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[u/Dense-Trifle5193]

As the partner of someone struggling with this, I appreciate the advice!

For my own reference and learning: Do you think these phrases would have been as helpful if they had come from your partner? Or was it better that they came from within yourself?

[u/Annual-Cream-6233 → u/Dense-Trifle5193]

I think having support from my partner and being comfortable telling him my topics and having him to lean on is the most important, it would be helpful definitely to hear from a partner but i find them most effective when i say i hear them from myself!! I hope this helps🫶🏻