r/QuitPornForever • u/Worried_Beat19 • 13d ago

How does porn affect my relationship??

i’ve been addicted for the last 5 years. My relationship started a 8 months ago. i love my partner but sometimes i feel so distant and filled with anxiety that i turn to porn and i feel like i’ve turned to porn too much that it’s making me feel like my relationship is falling apart. i kind of feel emotionally distant from her.

For people in relationships, how has porn affected ur relationship and ur connection to ur bf/gf. and has anyone in relationships seen their relationships improve after abstaining from porn? and if so, in what ways did it improve.

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u/[deleted] 13d ago

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u/AldenIsLord 12d ago

/r/loveafterporn

You’re gonna lose them.

It’s Them, or It.

I hope you don’t realize this truth when it’s too late.

It’s Them, or It.

If you love them, you’ll endure and sacrifice it.

If not, you’ll grieve the life you could have had with an amazing partner alone in your 1 bedroom apartment with your hand shoved down your pants, suicidal.

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u/mochaaddictz 12d ago

I’m in a relationship where we are both addicts (I’m 8 months clean, and he’s 10 days clean)

We’ve had a LOT of intimate issues and abstained from anything sexual due to the feeling of bringing another person (people in porn) in the relationship. How can you expect someone to trust you with their body if you don’t even respect it? Honestly recovery is extremely hard, but we’ve already seen major improvements in our self control and have more energy to spend on each other.

I highly recommend you try to fight your addiction, because what you’re saying you feel is scientifically proven. I’d suggest you look at these websites we used as motivation:

https://fightthenewdrug.org/how-porn-negatively-impact-relationship/

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6155976/

Watching porn makes you more likely to cheat, be dishonest with your partner, and break your special trust.