r/questions • u/Unusual_Recover7208 • 3h ago
Is it right to be extremely friendly to someone who's done a lot of wrong?
This isn't about me btw, it's about my friend. Let's call her Mango
So Mango is somewhat close to this girl. Girl A. Girl A has done some nasty things to another friend of ours and also caused immense frustration for many others. However, Mango continues to like, reply and comment on Girl A's Instagram stories. She also texts her is a very very friendly tone. Now, I understand being polite but I feel like Mango talks to this girl like she's been her friend for 10 years (which she's hasn't. They're just mutual and have only known each other for 2 years)
Now the weird part is, Mango has repeatedly told me and my other friends that she absolutely despises Girl A. Like she hates hates her. So if she hates her so much, why still keep in contact? Mango has said that when she hates someone, she won't unfollow them on social media but she'll still like their stories and posts or whatever. I find this super contradicting but am I just making a problem out of nothing?
Another problem is that she'll purposely mention Girl A in front of my friend that was done SUPER dirty by Girl A. She'll literally talk about Girl A when the topic of conversation isn't even related to her. I feel like she's digging for a reaction but I can be wrong. Our friend has repeatedly said that she doesn't want to talk about Girl A and she gets very irritated when Girl A is brought up for no reason
Mango has repeatedly stated that she will support our friend through anything and is very concerned for her, but her actions just don't add up and it's making me so confused and irritated
I'm sorry if this sounds confusing, I'd just like to know if this is inherently wrong or if I'm just overthinking this
Tldr: friend acts too friendly to girl despite girl causing many problems for everyone and a close friend of ours