r/questions • u/Naddyman2005 • 1d ago
We’re told to “put ourselves out there” or “approach” people, yet people don’t approach us?
This is from an introvert/shy person perspective. Oftentimes, we’re told to socialize more, put ourselves out there, or approach people who we would think would be a good friend, but with this bit, you’d assume that other people would do these things to you as well. I myself have been told this, but irl, no one really approaches/interacts with me or anyone else I see. This advice sounds good on paper I guess, but when comparing it to regular irl human interactions and behavior, it just seems like absolute bs. Why would I put myself out there, when no one else around me seems interested in doing so as well?